Girlfriends who's significant others are gamers

United States
February 27, 2009 1:25pm CST
I have a boyfriend that when he plays video games, he plays them when I am there, all day of his days off and anytime he can. I don't really mind it too much when he plays on his days off, but then NOTHING gets done around the house. Yesterday was a perfect example. Our room is really tiny and since he feels it necessary to wear 3 outfits a day, our laundry piles up really quick. He didn't even put a load in at all!!! Also, he sometimes plays it for HOURS while I am there. That is what gets me heated the most. Keep in mind, its our TV and my PS3. It really is the only TV like I like to watch because I just sit or lay in my bed where I am really comfortable. Am I wrong for feeling that way? I mean, i feel as if its a lack of respect that he will play it (keep in mind for hours) while I am there and want to watch TV (which is osmething we can both enjoy) He claims that he never has time to play it because I am always home, but there have been times when I haven't been and he didn't play it. UGH. Please give me some advice....
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@Pleiades (846)
• United States
27 Feb 09
HAHAHA! Join the club, missy. I see he's only your boyfriend...so if you're planning on becoming his wife, best get this issue resolved before things get out of hand and court costs comes into play. My boyfriend and I met on an online game site so I know of his addiction. Plus, it says right on his MySpace page that he LOVETH video games. I didn't know just how much until he came out to visit us. He bought us an Xbox 360* plus some games and stuff, but he was on that thing constantly. It didn't help that when he wasn't, he was on his computer playing that. For now, I'm content with that because he was on leave from his deployment from Iraq. He needed time to unwind and relax. I suspect there are things I do that annoy him but he keeps silent. If your man is home all day and doesn't do simple things, it's time for harsh love. I'd say you tell him that if he doesn't start straightening up his act, you'll be mad. Don't let him laugh at you, take the controllers with you to work. He'll be mad but hopefully he'll learn. I know, it's like a child, eh? Time with the honey. Luckily for me, my man always came into my room to give me a hug or I him. Again, his time to relax was more important. Keep in mind that eventually he'll get bored of the game. You just have to get his mind interrested in something else...another hobby? *Pleiades
• United States
27 Feb 09
Well, yes he is only my boyfriend but we have made the vow to be together forever...if that makes any sense. I do tell him that he needs to do things and help out and all he says is that he will try. But I never see an effort. Am i wrong for getting upset when he plays it when I am there? I mean, like I said, I feel like its a lack of respect. I guess that if he wanted to play it while I was there, ask me first or at least be conherent on if I ask you a question. Sometimes I have things that i have to do so I don't mind it so much, but when I need him for something, he won't answer.
@Pleiades (846)
• United States
27 Feb 09
No, not all. You have your right to be angry because he's not spending any time with you. I think another reason my boyfriend spent so much time on his games was because we were getting to know each other in person, kids around my house and we were just so comfortable with just having each other there. Tell that man of yours that he'd better enjoy you all to himself while he still can before children come around. *Pleiades
@clickicy (571)
• Indonesia
3 Mar 09
hi, umm, so... thats how my wife feel when i'm spend my time playing game... okay then i better start to sort my priority... thanks Pleaides... and yup my daughter took most of my wife time, you know what i mean... oh just like Pleaides said, talk to your boyfriend... safe him from his habit, will you...