Adult Children Come to visit with bf or gf in tow?

I heard a funny story about this subject. Seems, a young man and young woman were living together but insisting to his mother that they were just roommates and nothing more. Mother came to visit from out of town and found nothing suspicious because they slept in separate bedrooms. After the mother left, the woman asked him if he knew where the silver gravy ladle had disappeared. Had his mother taken it by mistake or something? The son wrote his mother a short note saying: “Mother, I’m not accusing you of stealing the gravy ladle but it has been missing since you left”. The mother wrote back – “Son, I’m not accusing you two of sleeping together. But if she was sleeping in her own bed, you would have found the gravy ladle by now”.

i personally think it would depend on several factors.. one being are their younger more impressionable children in the home.. if there is then no.. under no circumstances.. but if there arent, then to me it would depend on the seriousness of the relationship and just HOW adult they are.. i mean in my case,,im not married, however my SO and i have been together 10 years this month and have 2 children. so i would expect to stay together if we visited family far away.. but i being atypical from the "normal" bf/gf relationship im sure, it would just depend on the situation at hand.. i mean 19 and seeing each other a few months? no way.. but mid 20s + and over a year? probably . although i would speak with my OWN child (not the significant other) and ask that they maintain respectful behavior as it should be able to wait till there NOT in their parents house!~

definitely not

I can only respond to this as my parents do and when my brother came with his gf they had to sleep in seperate rooms even though they have a house together and sleep in the same bed there. I think that my parents are of the old school. They dont really mind what happens outside of there house but when your in there house you have to follow there rules and I think thats ok.

nah they must not b allowed in the same room..

No i wouldn't let them sleep in one room.....

Humm, intersting. From the time I was 8 yrs. old my guy friends & when i got like 10 my boyfriends sleept in the room with me. My mom worked 2 jobs & didnt really see us between both jobs & sleeping so she didnt care what we done. But considering I lost my virginity at 11 & did alot because my mom wasnt there to stop me, I have to say that I probably wont let my niece until she is 16. If she is responsable then.

no way only if they r married otherwise not

My parents let me and my partner stay in the same room, same bed too, but that was after a discussion between them, my dad actually was the one who was more OK with it and he's more religious than my mum. Then again he had come 100 miles to see me and there was only 1 room available.

No, I wouldn't let them share a room. Call me old-fashioned, but I just don't think it's right. I would never have shared a room with a bf in any of my family member's homes.

In my case of being the person who would be bringing a GF home. I would not even ask, I would just assume two seperate rooms right off. Would be awkward anyways with my parents being strong christians.

when i visit my family with my bf we sleep in same roomm but would NEVER do the deed in their house id be too self conscious

Absolutely not. That's how things happen. I was never allowed to even have my bf sleep over, and yet my mom would be bringing a new boyfriend over every 4-5 weeks. Not too good if you ask me when you're "trying" to set an example for a 17 year old girl (at the time)

well, my place is so small that they would HAVE to share a room. because i am not going to be sharing a room. so there.

When my husband and I were dating and we visited our parents they put us in seperate rooms on seperate floors. We expected that, even though we lived together.

No I wouldn't want them to sleep together. My children know me well enough not to even ask.

I guess it would all depend on what you think. When I was in my 20s, I brought a gf from out of state to my mom's house. My mom is a devout Catholic so I basically knew ahead of time that sharing a room was out of the question. She slept in the guest room and I slept in my boyhood room. I would probably go with seperate sleeping arrnagements especially if you don't know how serious this relationship is.

nope. i still have a 16 year old at home and don't want her to think it's ok. sorry. but, it's also my house and they are my rules. if you don't like it, go to a hotel and pay for the room. and, if that adult child knows your feelings, they should not even ask. it all starts with respect.

depedns on how mature theyare.. if they are older yes if they are younger maybe not..

Yes. They are adult and they love each other.