Transparency in Relationships?
By jaymeeliz
@jaymeeliz (505)
Philippines
February 28, 2009 5:43am CST
Does your partner know everything about you? They say that transparency is one of the most vital things in a relationship. That it wouldn't work without each party being honest with each other. But have you ever found yourself in a situation where you had to keep something from your partner? Will you tell him/her everything even if you know that he/she won't like it and might spark an argument, or worse could lead to a break up?
5 responses
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
i think i agree with you, with your views in transparency in relationships i mean. umm...the thing is, i want to be loved for who i am, not for what he idealizes me to be. and i'd like the feel the same way for my partner too. of course there are major past issues that , if you blurt them all out, it will turn the other person off, but that's just the point of it, i want to test him and i want to be tested myself, just how much i'm willing to love this person and vice versa.
@jaymeeliz (505)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
You are one brave person! Whenever I am in a new relationship, I see to it that he already knows everything about me. The problem is, when the relationship progresses, I find little things that I couldn't say especially right now that my bf is a very jealous guy. Do you have any suggestions on this?
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
you're in a catch22 situation i suppose? If you tell him some things about you, you just know he's going to react badly right? and if you don't, you'll have to deal with that uneasy feeling and being in doubt whether he knows u enuf and you wonder what are the limits of his love to you. Hard one girl... But if i were you, I'd tell him everything about me, and ask him straight, can you accept that? But you really have to be a strong person and be prepared (just in case) to take NO for an answer. cuz you can never tell what comes next....
@jaymeeliz (505)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
Thanks for your response! I think that is a very good attitude there! Happy mylotting!
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
28 Feb 09
she know pretty much about my pass before we met, there are something i wont share with anyone because they are better left alone.
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
28 Feb 09
Hi,
keep that also informed & be informed, for Transparency's sake....
'Past' which is dark,may not be palatable...Let's keep it Untold....
That's transparency!
=lahiri,Kolkata,India.
