What is the best age to start education?

@Sreekala (34312)
India
February 28, 2009 6:07am CST
Hi friends, Normally kids are going to play school after two years of age. My son also started to go play school after he completed the age of 2. Now also he is not serious in his studies. If I sit with him then only he read his lessons or writes his home work. What I felt is; he is giving importance to his cars and toys more and when in the case of studies, he does it for my sake. I don’t have much time to sit with him that is the main problem. Do you think it is because; he started his education in such a young age. Did it made an impact on him as studies are not important because in play school everything was assisted by us and I think still he is on that mood. What is your observation and opinion? Is it normal with kids that they need the company of their parents for their studies? Please share your ideas.
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• United States
1 Mar 09
i went when i was two and im very successful
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
18 Mar 09
Hi jeteater, I am glad to read that you are very successful. Thanks for the participation. Have a nice day.
@savak03 (6684)
• United States
28 Feb 09
First of all we need to know how old your son is now and what grade is he in. Parents are always needed to give guidance to their children. It is our responsibility to see to it that they grow up to be a well rounded adult. The best thing a parent can give to their child is their time.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
2 Mar 09
Hi savak, I agree with you 'the best thing a parent can give to their child is their time', and I am running out of the same. My son is 7 year old and studying in second standard. I have another kid who is less than two years old. I am working too. I am staying away from native place and nobody here to support. My mother-in-law stayed with us and she looked after elder son upto the age of 2 and then she left to home town due to her old age. She is healthy but the climate condition (especially in winter) is not suitable for her age and affected badly on her (she is 74 year old now). Regarding son's education, after two he started to sit in day care so we felt it is good to send play school and we sent him for enjoyment. But they taught him much because it was very necessary to learn something for attending the interviews for school admission. The play school authorities are keen to get selection for their children as it improves the good will of their school. Now what I felt is if I spend enough time with him he can score good marks. (In his school they were assessing children everyday and accordingly giving them grade and there is no other exam for them, so everyday is important). Due to lack of time I provided tuition for him but the teacher was not good (as I find out from his works, she taught wrongly). Now I hope you got a picture and I try my best to say in brief. I can’t include all these things in my discussion as it will become too lengthy. Thank you for your valuable time and good suggestion. Have a great day.
@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
There's no simple answer, but I guess it all depends on your kid in general. It could be that his having started early schooling has resulted in the lukewarm attitude toward school, or it's simply because your son is still young, and is not yet responsible, hence the lack of seriousness. Just be patient with him; it might just be a stage in his life. Who knows, with your parental guidance, he will start to pick up, and be more responsible later.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
2 Mar 09
Hi psyche, He has no problem for going to school but the problem is; he can sits with his studies only when I sit with him. If I given some work and ask him to finish and if I go to do my work, when I return to check with him, he must be doing some other thing. If I ask him, he will tell, you please sit here. I know he can study if I spare enough time with him but I have a small kid less than two years old and I am working too. So time is less with me. Thank your very much for spending time for me. Have a great day.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
28 Feb 09
Children are not naturally geared towards formal studies before the age of 5 or 6. Before then, they are exploring the world around them and learning valuable lessons whether you know it or not. They should be allowed to "study" normally, playing with cars and toys--this is how they learn about gravity, movement, momentum and the laws of nature. They also learn to interact with people by their relations with their family. All this prepares them for school, whets their curiosity and by the time they are in kindergarten at 5 years old, they are ready and they have some understanding of the world around them. To expect a child under the age of 5 or 6 to seriously study is to go against the nature of the child and I think you are asking for trouble later on.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
2 Mar 09
Hi dragon54u, I think I am already in trouble. Now I have to find out the solution. There are many reasons for sending him too early in school (we sent him to play school only). I have to find out more time for him, there is no other way. Many thanks for sharing your thoughts and spending time for me. Have a great day.
@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
I think the earlier the better my friend. Although there are also advantages and disadvantages of it since, a child's mind is so young that it easily adapts to learning but on the other hand, a child's young mind might be stressed earlier when he starts school early or he might fail to enjoy a true life of being a child.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
2 Mar 09
Hi mjmlagat, Now all parents think like that, the earlier starts education they (kids) can learn more. I agree it has advantages and disadvantages. Thank you for coming as first and spending time with me. Have a great time.
@vandhu (432)
• India
28 Feb 09
4 is the exact age to begin a child's study tour. it is because a child's cognition is equally balanced at this age.perfect to learn phonetics, which can never be learnt in any other later ages. 2 years is too early to make a child attentive. however you can place your child in a play school at this age to combine the practice of education through play...
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
2 Mar 09
Hi Vandhu, How are you? You were not active in mylot, I have not seen you for the last many months. Where you went for these days? Actually I sent him to the play school only. But they taught him much because it was very necessary to learn something for attending the interviews for school admission. The play school authorities are keen to get selection for their children as it improves the good will of their school. Many thanks for your participation and sharing your thoughts. Have an excellent day.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
1 Mar 09
I believe that kids below 3 years of old should be sent to school, ideally. Kids are very tender and innocent at the age of 2 and if send them even to play schools they feel the pinch of it. If kids are sent to play school after they attain the age of 3 years, they will be able to handle the situation in a better manner. I do not think that you sending your son to school at an early age of 2 years has affected his studies. Every child has its own learning capacity and understanding and they learn and perform accordingly. Please try to spend some more time with your child and try to remove insecurity feelings, if you feel, he has any. He will improve, gradually, I am hopeful. Every child loves games, toys and cars and there is nothing wrong in it.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
19 Mar 09
Hope things will move as you desire.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
23 Mar 09
Let me hope.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
18 Mar 09
Hi Deepak, Now I also realized the same, it is nothing unusual at this age; kids need assistance from parents for their studies. As you know that I don't have time to spend for him. He has the potential, but due to lack of time I can't sit with him everyday so it created some problem as he don't want to even read his lesson without me. Now he is changing, I think so, now he promoted to class three and his new session is starting on 23rd March. But he is counting down days and eagerly waiting for the summer vacation so that he can visit our native place. Many thanks for the participation and your valuable comments. Have a nice day.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
28 Feb 09
I think sending kids too young to school is not advisable. They will get bored of studying the same stuff until they reach kinder. I think sending them to playschool is a waste of time and money cos they will have another year or so of pre-foundation class or kinder before entering the formal class 1. Give them the joy of learning in a home environment first before embarking on serious schooling.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
2 Mar 09
Hi zandi, Yes, it is not good, but we realized the same in a later stage. He is the first child and we were inexperienced too at that time, so done a great mistake. Now I have to find out solutions. Now he is 7 years old. Our second son is less than 2 year old and we won't do the mistake with him. But the funny thing is, he is learning quickly from his brother by observing him.(lol) Many thanks for your valuable time. Have a great day.
@1corner (744)
• Canada
28 Feb 09
I'm not sure I read your post right, is your son past 2 yrs old, and is now going to grade school, or he's still a preschooler? 'Coz there definitely is a change in the capacity/approach to learn between these periods. Preschoolers learn lots from play, and mostly from home; once they reach grade school, learning is more structured. First off, I'm thinking like you, that he may have gone to school a bit early. Even if it's just playschool, the environment was with a teacher and a group of other kids. There's a bit of structure there. I think the ideal age for a child to start school is 4 yrs., if you wish for them to be introduced to it early. Otherwise, the normal time to enter it is 5-6 yrs. for kindergarten, 6-7 yrs. for 1st grade. It's possible he didn't have much time for playing back then, so is making up for it now. Try to set aside time for playing now, but explain to him he needs to attend to his studies too.
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@1corner (744)
• Canada
14 Mar 09
Thanks for the feedback, and the clarification. That's what I thought, but had to make sure... You know what, I recall my sister being hands-on with my nephew too with his homework when he was that age (and still is today, to some degree). I think that's the proper approach. You can't expect a child that age to do homework on his own, or maybe, especially with boys. I personally didn't get my parents' help when I was in first grade (and onward, for that matter) on the other hand, yet did just fine. I can even recall getting confused once when I asked my dad to help me with a 3rd grade math problem, so I relied on myself completely henceforth. Anyhow, I'm glad you've ironed out your issues with the way he does his schooling/homework.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
18 Mar 09
Hi 1corner, Thanks for coming again and sharing your valuable thoughts. Have a Nice day.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
14 Mar 09
Hi 1 corner, No, my son is 7 years old now and studying in second standard. He started his schooling (Play school) at the age of 2. But now he is not serious in his studies unless I sit with him. Now I can find out from friends, it is natural to this age; they need the company of their parents when they study. Thanks for the participation and your valuable comments. Have a great weekend.
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
2 Mar 09
Hi dear well, sure i will say 2 yrs is tooo young to put him in any school, even its play group why u want to put responsibilities at such early stage. i put my son in play group when he was 3 and still i was not in favour of it, i believe that initial oroentation of words, animals, colors must be given at home ansd at age of 4 , kids should go to school. not before that Take care
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
13 Mar 09
Hmmmm u R right Now wish u and wish him All the Best Take care
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
13 Mar 09
Thank you very much. Have an excellent day.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
12 Mar 09
Hi Cupid, I agree with you. But what to do, there was no option at that time for me. The past is past and I should think what I can do with him for now. He is in second standard and his class will finish by this week. His new academic session will start in the end of this month. I think I got many ideas and I have to work on that. I hope I can do something. Many thanks for your valuable comment. I think I can apply the same with my second son. Have a nice day, take care.
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
11 Mar 09
Hi sree I Suppose you are talking of your elder son who must be about 6 or 7 years of age now....Well Let me tell you one thing,just relax and stop worrying unnecessarily about him.Most children,especially boys like to play with their toys ,rather than do their home work willingly at this age.It is only few children who sit and study and do their home work regularly and voluntariy at this age.Well Sree till he is a little older,I am afraid you will have to sit with him regularly at least for a couple of hours and help him with his studies.And since I know you have to take care of your younger one also,you have only two choices left...Either ask your hubby to help your son with his home work every day or else arrange for a tution teacher to come home in the evenings and help with his studies,ok...Good luck....
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
12 Mar 09
Hi dear, First of all welcome back. I hope you are doing well. Yes, you are right; I am talking about my elder son who is 7 years old. Due to lack of time I provided tuition for him but the teacher was not good (as I find out from his works, she taught wrongly). So I stopped his tuition from last month and now teaching myself. I visited his teacher last Monday and they said, he improved a lot but asked me to spend time with him everyday. Tomorrow their present session will over and the new academic session will start in the end of March. Younger one is very naughty and need the exact book studying by elder one and snatching his pencil and runs away while he is writing, if I provide other books to him he is not satisfy and demanding the same book (lol). Their father is coming late from office and if he is there then also my son won’t sit with him. He (son) very much attached with me and demanding my assistance for every work. It is my pleasure to read your valuable response and happy mylotting. Regarding star, ha ha … meantime once I lost and regained… now again lost… so no point to worrying on that.
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
13 Mar 09
Hi Sree...Yes I got back on Pongala Day........I had a wonderful trip and did some shopping and sight seeing as well..... well about your son,I suppose you will have to look out for another good tution teacher soon..Otherwise it will be too much work load for you.......Also how are you planning to keep him occupied during his summer vacation?....And I see you are more happy with your red star.....
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
11 Mar 09
oops I just noticed your star has turned red again.......Well dont worry it happens all the time......Good luck I hope it turns blue soon..........
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@suzzy3 (8341)
28 Feb 09
It really depends on the child sometimes they will sit and study with you,sometimes they have a go on their own but colouring and painting is a good way of getting them to sit on their own even if it is for a few minutes.Kids do get fed up with it sometimes and the best thing to do is not push them,boys are worse my son just was not interested in sit down work,but we took him out and about.We used to ask how many yellow cars can you see?he would count them, how many green things can you see,and I spy with my little eye.Tell me what the word is and you can have a toffee,read this page and we will play ball.That are a few things we used to do with him,get him books on what he likes ,Thomas the tank engine was my sons all time favourite ,we used to buy the videos with the words that came up with the songs there is more than one way to make it work,if he is like my son he learn't without realising and a bit of bribery he is know top of his class in secondary school and already has passed seven GCSE and he took them at fourteen ,he is know taking seven more in june ,he has chosen his Alevels and is set in two years time to go to university,so don't worry it will all happen for him.It is tiring as you do more work in the long run but beleave me it is worth it.He loves school and learning know he is like a sponge soaking up knowledge.xx
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
18 Mar 09
Hi Suzzy, You are really a good mother and experienced too. I am very much impressed with your suggestions. You know how to handle kids. My son is seven years old and now promoted to class three. I think I am an inexperienced mother. Actually time is less with me but now I realised that I have to find out time for him. He can study but he needs my assistance means his demand is mother should sit with him. My younger son is near to the age of two and he needs the exact book his brother studies. If I give him some story books, he sits with the same for a minute then he knows that something specialty with brother's book and demanding the same again. So there are some troubles so I can’t concentrate him much (I am working too). His teacher told me he improved a lot and has the potential too but asked me to spend time with him everyday. Thank you very much for your impressive comments. Have a nice day.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
23 Mar 09
Thank you very much for coming again. I am really happy now and valuing your comments much.
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@suzzy3 (8341)
18 Mar 09
you must be worn out you sound like a very good mother to me. Try sitting with your older boy when the younger one goes to bed.The lttle one s attenton seekng which is perfectly normal for his age it is a shame you cannot ask the school for two copies of the book so the younger one thinks he is doing the same as his brother.You are doing fine so don't panic,the older one will get on better like the school says he is improving boys can be such a pain they get a block on for some reason then don't get worried about it,as he might be using that to get your attention away from the younger one relax and he will.xx
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@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
1 Mar 09
I sent my kids to nursery school at age 4. My daughter was not mature enough for nursery school, so it took her a few extra months to gain more maturity. Our son, enjoyed nursery school. I think when ever you child is ready is a good time to send them, but it is also important to let them be a kid, they will be going to school for a long time. Maybe your son needs a break from school. How old is he? Is he still in pre school. Sound like he just wants some attention from you. Is he an only child? Maybe get some friends to come in and play. Sounds like he is enjoying his cars and toys, something he doesn't get much of in school.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
18 Mar 09
HI MaryLynn, My son is 7 year old and now promoted to third standard. I have another kid who is near to age of two. I am working too. I also think that he needs attention from me especially the younger one is there. He can study but he needs my assistance. Thanks for your valuable comments and participation. Have a nice time.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
23 Mar 09
Thank you very much for coming again and encouraging me, definitely I will try to follow the method.
• United States
20 Mar 09
Try making a game of his studies, sometimes it takes the stress off of the child, and it makes it fun for the both of you. I understand it is hard with working, just set a little time aside for each child, maybe 10 minutes at a time. Things will work out for the best. Good luck to you. Keep up with the good work with the children.
• India
28 Feb 09
Hi, I am not in a position to answer this question because I am not yet married so dont have kids, but I can give you my uncle's example. He always loves his son and takes every day. My aunt sent her son to "Kinder Garden School" at the age of 1-11months he enjoyed lot and studied too. Many times my aunt watched her son from windows. Also in the beginning she did "Saraswathi Pooja" for success. I think it is the power of Lord Saraswathi that is working good to him. He has more concentration & extending studying time day by day. I think to achieve success we need to balance our life's materially and spiritually. Moreover in the beginning it looks somewhat to stressful to son but slowly he improves latter(it is always good to share live-real examples with son). Bye.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
3 Mar 09
Hi dailyprofits, Its ok but you can give the general opinion about education. But I am glad to read about your uncle's son. It is a custom to do ‘Saraswathi pooja’ before starting education. Kids are performing vidyarambh (Write the first letters in a temple) upon completion of two years of age in our state too. Many thanks for the participation and your valuable time. Have a great time.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
2 Mar 10
There are advantages and disadvantages of sending a child to school very early. Being a teacher, I do not encourage parents having to sit with a child for studies. How long are you going to do it? If you make a practice of it, they will expect the same even when they are in high school. I have students who expect their parents to sit beside them or else they can't study....even when the parent is not directly involved in the studying process and is not helping in any way. The children want the comfort of the parent. Coming to pre-school education....in some schools I find it is an extension of the bigger school and the students have to follow a syllabus and do homework. This I do not agree on. All children are not the same. Some kids get into the routine and find it easier to mingle into mainstream school...but some kids, if the pressure is too much for their little minds give up then and there. Children who would otherwise have been smart children in school...do not want to do any reading and writing when they have to..because they have been exposed to it and been expected to perform when they were not ready for it. As you know, I have two kids...and both are very different. I saw the little one was being forced to write before he was 3 and realized that it might result in him hating to write. I know he is a smart child (very different from his brother's smartness, though) and he is quick to grasp concepts. He doesn't see the point of writing alphabets (he has just learnt that the alphabets make sounds...hasn't realized that put together they make words or that written words can be used to express)...at the same time...he is willing to write numbers because he has been able to relate numbers and things that happen around him. As far as your son is concerned, what has been done is done. No point in looking at what or who is to blame. Now, let's look at how your son can be helped. Fix up a time for studies...small slots at first (even 10-15 minutes is fine). Let him understand that there is a time for him to do his work. Encourage him at that time to do his homework on his own...check it AFTER he has done it...if there is a mistake, talk to him if he has understood the concept or why he has made the mistake. If you have to sit with him then to explain something, do it. Or else, ask him to re-do it again. If you do this consistently for a few days, he will soon get the idea and start doing it on his own.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
2 Mar 10
Hi SV, How are you? I am happy that when you get time to do mylot you are giving time for me too. Thanks a lot dear. Regarding my son’s study, he improved a lot in his studies but the attitude still going, if he wants to study I will sit with him… now a lady is assisting him for his studies, she is near to our home and technically trained for teaching. Now he is doing his home works with her and she is giving some works for him do it himself at home and she particularly insisting me not to help him. She is living in next door (she can listen if he asks help (lol) so my son is doing the works himself then also he is asking me, is it like this or not, seems he lacks confidence. Now my younger son is getting ready for school, he will turn 3 in the month of April, still we are not sending him any playschool. Like your little one, he too is very smart and learning quickly. Now he is asking me to provide a school van for him (lol). When his brother starts his learning he also gets one book and pencil and asking me to teach him too. If I didn’t listen to him he may throw away his brother’s book. I have to manage both them equally. Thanks for the useful tips dear, I know you people can easily understand the psychology of students. Thanks again for the support. Have a nice day.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
26 Mar 10
lol..tell me about balancing two kids and their needs...that too when the needs are so different from each other! I think the only thing lacking in your older son (as you rightly put it) is confidence and you need to work on that. When he does his work correctly without any help, be lavish with your praise...joke about how he does his work well withut help but the moment someone steps in to help, he gets it wrong.
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• India
17 Mar 09
As you must be knowing in India, the standard age for children to start their education is 5yrs. I do believe our forefathers were wise enough to understand the importance of not putting the child into written education from a very early age…they let children enjoy the early years. However, now with so much competition about getting into a good school, most kids start as early as 2yrs and what not are they made to do! I really feel sorry for them…having to mug up spellings and numbers from such tender age. I was lucky enough to get my son to a completely Montessori based kindergarten and he never had to carry any books there. Then the main school where I finally admitted him at 3+ also did not have any books till UKG i.e. age 5+. However, I don’t think your observation about your son is true…children are like that you know…its best when they don’t have to study at all! And why blame them…weren’t we the same when we were their age?
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
19 Mar 09
I know suidpta, even I started my school at the age of 5 and upto 5th standard I learned through my native language only. My son who also got admission in Montessori based play school but still I have kept his text books, note books and records with me (he used in his play school). It is difficult to get admission in schools here and he got admission easily and he selected through interview only (now the interviews for kids are banned by Court). Now he is 7 years old and promoted to 3rd standard. The problem I am facing is he didn't even read his lesson without me. If mother does not have time to sit with me then I don't want to study, this is his approach. Now I am trying my best to find out time for him. It is little difficult to manage boys (lol)
• India
17 Mar 09
I think children should be allowed to play and learn at home till they are about 3/4 years old. Two is too small for them to be going to school. Anyway they will be studying for the next 15 years of their life. We should let them enjoy life till they are 3/4 years old and not burden them with studies.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
18 Mar 09
Hi Kavita, Yes I agree, but for working parents it is difficult, that is why we sent him early to school instead of sitting idle in day care, we thought let him play sometime. But our idea didn't work out properly as the play school people are very keen to teach the kids to compete with school admission. I am happy to see you are getting active here. All the best to you.
@abdfree (70)
• India
23 Mar 09
Hi friends, actually the age of kids should be 4 or 5 years to begin the school education. But now a days parent admit their kids in school in the age of 2 or 3 years.Now the name of that school is play school.Some times the kids are frightened at the early age of 2 or 3 years. So ,I think it is not good. At this age they usually play with toys and mud. My childs are going to school. But I am not admitted them to school in the early age. Now they are studying well . Alright they need company of parents at the time of study. But they show us new things, new experiences and refresh our knowledge ,while they are reading. In our view they are not disturbing our work or mind,instead they pass our time smoothly.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
26 Mar 09
Hi abdfree, I never tell that they are disturbing and I agree with your view point, we are learning new things by teaching them. Our education never completes and continuing our education through out the whole life and I think we can learn many things from kids. I am glad to know that your kids are doing well. Thanks for sharing. Have an excellent day.
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
6 Apr 10
I think it is 3 years to start education. That is neither too small or matured age. The child can very well understand the things and at the age of 15, he will reach 10th class and finish his graduation at the age of 21
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
7 Apr 10
Hi dear, How are you, it is long time I haven't hear from you. I too think three year is good and my younger is getting three this month and he is curious to go to his school. means he is showing interest to go to school and he is watching his elder son is going everyday with polished shoes, bags and ironed uniform (lol), he too wear only the ironed cloths and he demands for polishing his shoes even if his shoes does not need a polish and he felt bad if we denies the polishing. What I am trying to explain is at the age of 3 they know about school and importance of school etc. I did a great mistake with my elder son, he started his school (play school) at 2+ age, still I feel bad when seeing his photos of identity card in that time. Thank you so much for sharing your views. Have a nice day.
• India
7 Apr 10
The best age scientist suggest to start education for kids is between 3months to 3 years where their brain is in the developing stage. In this age the information that we give as input to them will be registerd as any other messages after aged.This is the best stage where the learning capacity is more where they have the talent to learn more than 500 languages (provided parents knows it).So start as early as possible inorder to make a brilliant child for the future.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
7 Apr 10
Hi earn, I heard that the development of brain is stopping at the age of 3 and whatever we can feed by that age it will store there permanently. But in practical it is little difficult to teach in this little age. I have started to teach something to my younger son who is going to be 3 this month. What I find that he is learning very quickly and if I ask the same after some days he can remember it. But I have not taught many things as I don’t want to give him burden so teaching only small things. Now he started to write his own, may be it wrong in writing but he is right in saying. (Means he knows the alphabets but don’t know how to write, but he draw some lines with pencil and reading it rightly). Thank you so much for sharing your views. Have a nice day