Career over Family

Yes it is a dilemma that working people face almost everyday. There is little time for the family and you cant ignore career either. But if I am faced with a situation where I have to choose either of the two I would definitely choose family as that is where the real happiness lies. I think it is also recommended that one is contended with what one has and do smart work

Hi, In Life, you have to set Ur PRIORITY. What do you want?career...rat-race...stress... family....compromise...happiness CHOICE is Yours,only! =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.

We have our priorities and family tops the list.We work for the family as you say its our bread and butter.Sometimes we neglect children for career because its for them we work and if something goes wrong with our career they will have to suffer.Finding quality time to spend with kids are important.Also we can tell them about how work is impotant for us if they are old enough to understand.It becomes very convinient if our parents could stay with us and be there with the kids in our absence.

Having a job as a must that gives you money to meet your basic essentials of food, shelter and clothing is one thing. If you stop working and if your family can't run, you have got to balance work and family, no other go. But, if your job is more of a career, giving you intellectual satisfaction, giving you extra money to enjoy luxuries (while your spouse earns adequately for running the family), it is a different thing. What does your heart say? Do you feel pained to leave your children behind to fend for themselves while you slog it out at the office for the sake of the intellectual gratification, self esteem, peer group pressure and for the lure of money that gets you luxuries? Does your conscience prick? If so, it is time to listen to your heart and to your conscience. Psychiatrists say that whatever love, affection, company, and cuddling you give to your children, give them below their 10th age. Beyond that age, these things do not matter too much for the children. Your love and affection get deeply imprinted in their psyche for the rest of their lives. Personally, I feel, children radiate godly qualities till the age of 4. Every moment you spend with them till this age, (particularly for mothers), enhance the very quality and worth of life; the bliss of this togetherness with 'God' can't be explained. As the children grow up above 4, they lose their innocence, start acquiring worldly knowledge and start developing their individual personalities gradually. The divinity in them fades away, only to be replaced by human qualities. If you have an option to be with your children full time during this period, it is the best you can get in your life and the best you can give to your children in their life. If your mind and conscience goads you to accept this choice, go ahead - forget extra money, forget ego satisfaction that a career gives, forget peer group pressure, forget status comparison with others -- live a life at your own terms to acquire what you feel as the best for your soul.