May-December Affair/Relationships

My brother used to date a woman like this, but I suspected it was because our mother was never around and you could tell that is how she treated him. She finally got tired of it and broke it off. I feel the same way and I am only 4 years older than my husband. LOL! I just think that the man needs to be older to appreciate what he has. Women mature alot faster than men.

My max number of years older was 10yrs older. We didn't have problems that were caused by age. I only had a relationship with someone a month older than me, the rest had been at least 4 years older to 10 years older. To answer your question, I think 10yrs isn't that huge. It may be from the people looking in. But with my relationship, my ex did think a lot about our age difference and if he was being somewhat of a pedophile. I was already 21, but he was still pretty concerned about it. When it comes the other way around, there have been occasions that have worked. I think 20 years is a HUGE difference, man or woman older. Doesn't matter. I think 10 is fine, but you know, everyone's different so who knows.

I believe that if the couple are TRULY in love and together for the right reasons AND can tune out the naysayers in their lives (which of course there would be) then sure it would work out...In my experience ANY "different" type of relationship can work if the ppl involved are strong enough to live how THEY see fit and are in agreement with it, have great communication with each other etc etc..

well yes it is better to see older man marry younger woman than older woman to a much younger man. cause man biologically can still produce child with younger women but older women can't bear a child though they have younger partner. but still it does not really matter. as long as they are happy together but we can't help looking at them differently though we understand them.

oh really..how..at least for now..i know the term..well it's called may-december affair..ahhahh...i believed that this just work-out..because for me having partner like one is having a big gap is just having two in one companion in life..not just having husband or wife but at the same a substitute mother and father..

ya i have one of my friend, her bf is 12 yrs elder than her, i really don know how the chemistry is going on between them, but my friend is happy with his relationship, so i guess their chemistry would have sinked pefectly. But still it felt strange for me that she is going around with a guy who is 12 years older than her, i had once asked her, dont u feel strange that you are in relationship with a guy who is very much elder than u, she told she never thought that age as a problem in relationship, of course in her point of view it might seem right, but i don feel that such kind of relationships will be carried for a long time. Ok since in this case the guy is elder than the girl there are chances for long relationships also. But you know life is quiet unpredictable, we can only guess but cant make our surely what is going to happen next second. But in cases like where the female is elder than the male by 10-20 yrs its really difficult for the relationship to exist for a long time, because you see the guy wil be naturally attracted to the girls of his age or towards the girls lesser than his age, and even the women might be looking for a man who is matured enough to understand her, but al these things happen only when the couples are not satisfied with each other. So regarding such MAY-DECEMBER relationships nothing can be said firmly.

I know several happy couples where the man is quite a bit older. Most of the couples have children, and are very happy. However, when it comes to an older woman married to a younger man, you're right, it seems to be different. At least to society it is. People don't seem to think it can work. I only know one couple where the woman is older, and she is older than her husband by just four years. I can think of one couple who are soap operas actors. She is twelve years older than her husband, and they have been married for 25 years. So I guess any relationship can last if there is a valid committment.

My mother-in-law has had a successful relationship with a man almost 20 years older than her for about 15 years now. They have been married about 5 years now. It works well for them, they are happy. I might be a bit like you, laydee. It seems, to me, more likely to work when the man is the one much older. Hmmm, come to think of it, my sister is in one of those relationships too. Her husband of about 8 years now is 13 years older than her. I don't think of them as being in this type of relationship, they seem much closer in age than they are.

gosh i just ended it. he's 10 yrs older. he conviced me that he isn't married but i talked to his wife yesterday. it was awful. i'm so miserable now.sob...

Things like this are not dependent on age at all, they are dependent on commonalities, friendship, and love, which can exist no matter what. I always chuckle when I see people who question things like this. Just because it wouldn't work for you or you don't personally know someone it works for doesn't make it something that doesn't work. I am the 'young' one, but I have had two relationships with big age differences. My husband and I have been together for 6 years although we've known each other for 8. I don't see how it's any different with an older woman and a younger man, just that society seems more against it, older men are a 'normal' social thing.

I actually read somewhere that May-December affairs are more successful than married couples whose ages are either the same or just have a short age gap. I don't know if this is true. Nevertheless, I think that age or the age gap doesn't matter just as long as both parties are of the right age to be in a relationship, or are mature enough to be in one, and they know how to carry their relationship.

I'm first hand experienced with this. My husband and I have a 19 and a half year age gap. I'm 18 and he's 37. We've been together for 2 years now (no bashing) and married for a year and a half and we are still going strong. We now have a beautiful 6 week old baby too. I think it depends on the people whether or not they'll make it. My husband treats me like I'm the queen of the world and I treat him like gold. We have had a few problems but nothing huge. Our relationship is so great and he and my daughter are the best things to ever happen to me.

My boyfriend is 5 years older than me we been together 5 years its hard to be in this relationship because he thinks he knows everything he sometimes treats me if im a child. we don't see things the same. he takes things to serious. thats our biggest problem. we are working this out. my parents are 11 years apart and they are still together. im a believer

My hubby is more than 30 years older than me. We've been together for nearly six years now and we're still going strong. We're both happy that things worked out great for us. He's now retired and I am a hard working full-time career woman and part-time student. I'm happy to have his support and encouragement in everything that I do. I do feel sad sometimes because we can't be together more often due to my busy schedule.