How Do You Handle A Gossip?
By lynnemg
@lynnemg (4529)
United States
February 28, 2009 7:37pm CST
How do you, personally,handle that person who is always gossipping about you and those you know? Whether these people actually know what is going on in you life or not, they are the ones who always seem to gossip and start trouble for you. What do you do about it?
I will first confront the person and ask why they are gosipping like that. I tell them that I do nt appreciate what they are doing and ask them to just stop. If that doesn't work, I stop associating with that person all together. I am not one who wants or need the drama in my life, so, I do what I need to do to keep it out.
15 responses
@cfaumlelreorn (38)
• New Zealand
1 Mar 09
If someone was gossiping about me i would make gossip about them and make it a lot worse. If that doesn't work go up to the and say, "what's your prob"
@angelbelle578 (1635)
• Philippines
1 Mar 09
that's actually wat i wanted to do but its not good especially for u bcoz ul get bad karma even if they started it..but if u just let them and leave everything to God u'l get good luck.. its happened to me before i return to them wat they did to me but i just felt that nothing good is happening to me.. so from now on i wont be like that anymore..
@dexterous21 (1180)
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
I hate people who love to talk gossips. Simple! When they talk about me, I confront them with anger and I make sure that they are humiliated. I'd go on fight if possible. Why? It's because I am not doing anything to them, and I don't ask them my daily food so they would talk about me when they want. That's the reason why, I chose my friends, when I know that the person talks so much about other people, it is possible that he or she will talk about me to other people. If, that's the case, I don't hesitate to stop being friends with him or her.
@Adoniah (7513)
• United States
1 Mar 09
The best way to stop a gossip, is to go to them and start telling them a really juicy story about someone. I mean make it great! Then as you get to end, when they ask who it is, act really embarassed as if you just realized who you were talking to, and tell them that you were told it was them.
It works every time. Of course they will never speak to you again, but I figure you can stand the loss.
Shalom~Adoniah
@blackmantra_x (2732)
• Philippines
1 Mar 09
Good day.. For me I wouldn't mind it specially when the gossip isn't true but if the gossip is true then I think I would have to accept the consequences of trusting the wrong people or friends that betrayed me. Facing the untrue gossip and explaining yourself to people that you barely knew would just eat up your self - esteem in the long run and that would end up badly in the end. I mean why on earth would I bother myself explaining to people who eats on the gossip and barely know me. Defending oneself from a wrong gossip is like poring gasoline in a burning bush.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
1 Mar 09
Hi lynnemg, I have realised one thing about gossip and gossipers. It affects you only when you let it affect you. I have become quite immune to any kind of gossip now. I just do what I have to do, if I feel it is the right thing to do, and it does not bother me who thinks what...I have had some hilarious experiences with gossipers and now i guess they have given up on me , at least i dont get to hear anything, and thats good enough 
@jagadeesh25888 (24)
• India
2 Mar 09
we can handle in number of ways,we select the way according to the discussion
@cr0ssf41r13 (866)
• Philippines
1 Mar 09
I've encountered such terrible situations before. I'll go straight to the person who started spreading the rumor. We'll deal with each other intellectually as much as possible. If the rumor is unintended to be spread, I will fix my relationship with the person. However, if the person isn't helping me solve the misunderstanding, then I will, as you will do, stop associating with the person altogether. I will not plot revenge or spread rumors too. I'll just keep quiet about it, as if nothing happened.
@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
1 Mar 09
If the gossip doesn't involve my private life, I just ignore it. But if it goes too far away, I will ask the one who talks the rumor why he wants to do like this. If he is not guilty, I may discuss with him.
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
1 Mar 09
Hi,
The overall purpose is to abstain him.
I will take 2 pronged procedure:-
1)Engage some friends of mine,who will say(after listening gossip..) to stop such activity in future.
2)I will spread NEWs about that person spreading Gossip everywhere,including his society/home/workplace etc.
=Lahiri,Kolkata,india.
@twistdbrainz (426)
• India
1 Mar 09
well first i ask that person to stop it with a please
then i tell him to stop it or i'll beat the sh*t out of you
then i just beat the sh*t out of that person.....
well i dont want nobody to talk sh*t about me.....this is one thing that bugs me out and whatever i do i just cant stand it.....
earlier i was not like this.....i use to let evrything and everyone be the way everything or everyone was.....i just didnt care.....but this attitude of mine got me embarrassed a few times and i aint letting that happen again......ever
@bloodcakelover (420)
• Malaysia
1 Mar 09
hi there...
i will do just like you..confront the person and ask them what is their point doing that. give them advice or warn them. if it doesnt work, i will try and try to make them stop,someday they will because they will be boring to do it for long time.i cannot tolerate to those who dont have any respect to others.
@tjsally (287)
• China
1 Mar 09
If someone gossip me face to face, i will confront the person and ask why they are gossip me, if there are some misunderstandings between us, i will try my best to settle it. However, if someone gossip me secretly, i will ignore that cause i believe all the gossips will be collapsed themselves.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
1 Mar 09
If the gossip is something I can just forget, then I'll just stop talking to that person. But if it's about something serious, something major, I'll have to do the same thing. Confront the person. And find proof if he or she's the one who really started it. Depending on what happens next, I'll have to decide if this person can still be considered as a friend or not anymore.
@reds08 (305)
• Indonesia
1 Mar 09
It must be so annoying. When someone is gossiping me, maybe i just let it go. Time will prove the truth, and people will know i am not like what have been gossiped. But when he/she gossip me over and over again, i will ask what's the problem. She/he must be has a brain disorder, and have to bring to psychiatrist.lol
