Do You Have Some Good Advice On How To Breath Life Back Into A Marriage

I'm certainly no marriage expert Mary, but the main thing of importance in a situation such as this in my opinion is spontaneity! After such a long time together, patterns and routines form. It's only by breaking these cycles that sparks have the potential to fly! Take him by surprise, force him out of his comfort zone and force yourself to step outside of your own. Plan a romantic dinner away from the house by asking him out on a date and then both of you make your own way to the restaurant seperately and meet up there for example. Keep doing this very few weeks or so and progress the "relationship" further each time, just as if you were actually 2 people that have only just found each other. Try and find an activity that's new and appealing for both of you..... Or embrace one of his own hobbies with enthusiasm so you can become more in tune with him. I obviously know neither of you, but again, you have said yourself that you're like a pair of old slippers, so replace the slippers with a new pair of high heeled pumps or something and step on out with something different! The only way to break old cycles is to introduce new ones! Anyways, I don't know if anything I've shared helps at all, but I wish you luck and I admire you for wanting to make an effort to breathe some life back into your marriage.

Firstly congratulations to you two and wish you a great life ahead. As far your discussion goes, I feel, rejuvenating our love relationship begins with creating a heart connection. Even though it could get difficult in some cases, it could be achieved. The connection requires willingness and I get that while you are upto it your husband is kind of laid back kind who like to take things as it comes. Is there anything that you both love doing? I am sure there would be some. Try to do that together and involve him i things he likes to do even if it doesn't amuse you. Making him involved, giving him the sense of being responsible would drive him to rise from hibernation. It also could mean starting something new with each other that would help you build that feeling of companionship and togetherness like you once felt. And all the while its important to remain appreciative for it works wonders. That's quite a lecture, I must stop now before you ask me to. Good luck and keep me informed dear. Hugs

i sometimes feel like that also.we are actually opposites,poles apart.one thing which i find useful is spending some ocassional time with hubby alone.it increases closeness and there is a warm feeling about your hubby.

Hi Marylynn, It's seem's we are walking in the same shoe's here.Me and my husband don't have any thing in common either.We like differnt thing .Even food.Honey if you find out any thing let me know for sure ok god bless you dont give up on him you got to much time in him to give up ok hugs and kiss

Hi, add some spice in Ur Life... Go out for weekend tour nearby exotic place, U may plan for movie/theatre, Saturaday outdoor picnic etc. Involve him in some socalising activities!may be in a Library, nearby! Keep his brain & body both engaged...U will get back the sweet & sour taste... =lahiri,Kolkata,India.

Wow 36 years...way to go! You may have to do things you find interesting with a friend or family member. If he likes farms, maybe a trip to a nice one together. I've only been married 2.5 years, no problems like this yet. We are expecting are first child this October, hope things continue to go smooth for us. Good luck to you.

empty nest syndrome? You need to start dating each other again. Go out for dinner or a coffee together and talk about things that are interesting but not what you normally discuss. Articles you have read, stories on the new, things like that. Also, you need to kiss. I mean really kiss. Remember when you were first dating and there were those steamy make-out sessions (or maybe that was just me and my hubby). Experts say that if you start with kissing for no less than 10 seconds and work up to it, that it goes a long way to rekindling the passion, fanning the flames of the embers of your love. At first 10 seconds seems really long, too, but then not so much. You could find things you are mutually interested in to learn or do together. If he doesn't want to, then you can attend classes or sourses and then tell him all about these things on your date nights. Try it and let me know how it works out for you.

MaryLynn, after having read your discussion and the responses youhave received I'm wondering if there has been any change in these past few weeks? I'd like to know what you've tried and what the outcome has been before tossing in my two cents.