How do I tell him to leave me alone?

If you don't answer he might just think you haven't yet checked your message, right? If you do answer, it should be carefull thought out ahead of time. Say something honest about the relationship between you being dysfunctional and that you believe it would probably be better for the both of you if you did not contiue to associate too closely with one another. Let him know that you will continue to be polite, but you don't feel like the two of you should be friends anymore. That's what I would say.

Don't let this person continue to use you. Ignore his messages, if he calls don't answer the phone and eventually he will get the hint and find someone else to take advantage of. If he makes it necessary for you to be one, don't be afraid to be a b*tch. Moochers have thick skin and sometimes you have to be very firm with them in order to get rid of them.

Personally, I don't like being used and I hate being used by people so in this case, I think it's time to be mean and tell him to leave you be, of course, you don't have to use polite terms, and I know I wouldn't because, well it's not fair to you to be walked all over. It's time to cut the cords and let him figure out a way to actually get ahead in life without walking all over people.

Honesty is the best policy. Tell him the truth, that you feel as though the relationship is not one that will work for you. Tell him that you would just prefer to walk away from it all together, don't give false hopes that you may reconsider. You definately don't need someone in your life who is there just to use you, and I have a feeling that the real reason why he is trying to make ammends here is in hopes that you wil still be at his beck and call. If you were to just ingore it, maybe he would get the hint, but maybe, he would just assume that you haven't checked your messages yet and keep on trying. Once you tell him exactly how you feel, be sure not to give in to the temptation to respond to the messages he will undoubtedly be sending later on.

wow sounds like a piece of work, it is amazing how you cannot see how something really is until it all falls apart and you can look from the outside. i think you should just copy and past what you wrote her as a reply to the FB email. speaking in the first person of course, you are better then this person and you should move on life it to short to worry about the past or trying to fix something that you did not break. Good Luck R U really a fan of Hanson, I though I heard there was new group for one of then with the drummer from Cheap Trick?

HansonFan In my opinion I would say speak with him again to release the issue you had, and then you release the issue and him and move on so that it's not eating at you, and that's not being mean but honest and clearing the air. If any apologies are needed dont forget that and move on. If someone truely wants to befriend you they wont deliberately try to use you ok, when we feel someone is needing help its natural to want to help just be cautious.

I think honesty is the best way to deal with this situation. Just tell him what you really think about your relationship. Make him understand that you feel you are being taken advantage of and that friendship has nothing to do with this type of behavior. You don't have to be mean, just a bit more assertive. I don't think he is willing to take any hint and it should be better to talk to him face to face.

Good day... I think there's no other or better way of saying it than saying it straight up. That you don't want to be with him anymore and it's better for him to let you be.

maybe a white lie would be a good idea.

I agree with the first response. Anyway. If after all that talk and confrontation, nothing still happened and he didn't change.. Well. Just say it to him straight, to leave you alone. So that he will know that you are unhappy and that you want out. Telling him straight can also lead to make him realize that you are being serious. Why linger if he can't take a hint? Stop dropping hints, go straight. I do not think he's worthy of your time anyway if what he does is use you. What a friend he is. Telling someone in the face "leave me alone," works for me. The person who kept bugging me left me alone. We were friends in the first place. He suddenly changed. Some people just don't understand hints. Anyway, just have to have some guts. Sometimes you have to be mean to be nice.

You are the better judge in such situation and you know him better than we do. The account that you provided is not sufficient to read out a person. Still as we know this is a problem for you and has been thrown as a topic for discussion we can put some ideas. It seems you are no more interested in him, and hope yo were not in love with him. Not knowing to drive a car can not be a minus point for any normal human being id interested to learn can learn within a couple of days. But his befriending you once and again wishing to go along smells fishy of his nature as a whole. He is not at all stable and serious thinker. Most of the time he acts on whims rather than applying his wit. So the conclusion is draw a line and say bye bye.

hi there.. i think you better tell him the truth that you wanted him to leave you alone. it is not mean to do so because you did it for your own good. he should understand you. if answer his message if you just ignore it he might think you havent read it and he will keep annoying you. good luck to you..=)

If you cannot just tell him then you should try to avoid contacting with him, you should let him realize that you are no more interest in him. Its you that believe him as a friend but if he betrayed you i don't think there is no more place to think about, you have to be strong before its too late to you or he could be more defensive to you, if you delay it for few more days.