another update on my MOM

yes she likes to look out of the window. and I still havent got to talk to her yet am hoping phone gets into her room today. SIL is to g in and take care of more things that they couldnt do over the weekend. My brother called last night and was reading to me out of Hospic hand book . on signs to look for when she is ready to pass on and she has most of those signs. Sigh want to talk to her see if she will stay on phone or keep putting it down my brother seems to think she might be going to sleep on me while I am ytalking to her. Which could be. Thnaks so much fro responding hugs and blessings!

Awwww... it's a pity you can't get there to talk with her, my friend. I can't help but think that your brother is probably right because a) she's weak from the pneumonia and b) her energy is sapped owing to not eating. So, it's my guess, she probably dozes off without even knowing because she hasn't the strength to stay awake. If she is ready to go, and really intends to, then it would be nice if you were able to discuss this with her, and perhaps get to say everything you'd like to before she decides to start her journey. It's so sad when they get like this. I feel for you, my dear friend. Huggggggggggs. xxx

thanks. and yup I am glad she is closer to my brother as he has done all running around doing every thing so I think he deseves to have her close by. Mom had said to my sister that she had saved to be took care off. But over $3,000 for this when she could have come to live with me years ago and saved all that expence but oh no my brother in Law wouldnt here it grrrrrrrrrrrr

Oh I can see how that would make you ...it would do the same to me. Nothing you can do now so move past it. It's now that counts and how you go into the tomorrows. You know I wish you and your Mum the very best. Hugs.

Ye sshe does as the assitant living place she has been in just are not equipted with what is needed now although not reall bed ridden she was getting where she wouldnt get up unless my brother went there and got her up! She wouldnt get up to answer the phone as my kids had been tring to call her as well as myself I left a message they hadnt. thats when my brother called and asked when I had called and I told him I had finally got hold of her that day which was Weds. But as he told me she was in a mess all wet! Dont know why she had gone in depends but the bathroom was all wet too not sure if she tryied to wash up or what had happpend. But now moved so I hope that I will start hearing good things!

Hopefully you will. It sounds like she had kind of given up there. Hopefully they will get her up and make her do some things and give her a reason to get up.

I do to and am praying for your mom to get alot better too! hugs and blessigns

thanks I am not stressing out fo they took my sugjestion adn put her closed to my brother so he dont have to do all the running, Just waiting to hear she has a phone so I can call her. I have put myself to know she is passing away son if there are no changes and I am ready! thanks for responce hugs!

thnaks so much . Yes I am glad my brother tok my sugjestion to put her closer to him for he is he one that has done all the running like 200 miles every time he went down and that was after work and I could hear in his voice how tired he is gettign!

thaks soooo much hugs!

thanks I am think in gthe phone by tomorrow hugs

Hoping she gets all she needs in this place.!

thanks so much for your responce and WElcome to mylot a fun and helping place to be! My mom will be 89 in April. SHe has been in an assistant Living place for almost 2 years but she got pnuemonia and they cant help her any more so we had to move her. Well my brother did. as I am 500 miles away not much I can do but help with making dissions with him. as my sister never gets ahold of me but every 2 years. The place they moved her sounds real nice and will save my brother lots of travel time to get to her as he ahs been doing 80 mile round trips to take care of all the things like washing and getting her bathed and cleaned up. With being sick she wont eat or drink much so this place should be better for her as they will pureee her food for her so am hoping that this helps her get her strength back. Also hoping it will help her with the phone calls as they have been most non productive as she lays the phone down alot! then thinks again and picks it back up. can hardly wait for them to get a phone in her room!