Be my Facebook friend and I will completely ignore you...

yep! i have done that a lot.. not me but have had it happen i mean.. i know with some of my friends its been because they switched to a different site or their pc broke etc then i will hear from them months later out of the blue.. others i have no idea but after awhile i will defriend if i feel its intentional

i had the exact same problem. i guy that i had not seen in years found me on facebook. he invited me to be his friend on facebook and i excepted it. i wrote him to see how he was doing and to let him know what was going on in my life. he never did write me back and then he deleted me as his friend. well, what was the reason for sending me a request in the first place.

Some people set up an account like that and then rarely get back there at all. Life is busy. Cut them some slack.

I think some people on social networking sites don't really pay attention to messages sent there. I think some people just open accounts to check out new people's pix and have as many online friends as possible without intending to really get to know their "friends" well. I might be guilty of this myself. I just don't pay much attention to messages sent through these social networks. Most of them are spam anyway. My real friends know my email address and communicate with me through it, and not through the social networking site, even if we add ourselves as friends there. I don't think you should delete your friend list there. Just don't take your "friends" there seriously and just ignore them if they don't respond. This happened to me and I might have ignored some of my friends too. Have a good one.

Honestly, I would chill. I don't think it's anything to be too worries about. If it does make you that mad, just delete them and see if that ameks you feel any better.

oh i think i can relate. i was like that to my facebook friends too. i searched them up but failed to respond to their msgs asap. why?? because I didn't know (and didn't bother) that there were new messages in my inbox. lol. I'm ashamed. it's just that i'm the kind who likes to browse pages really quick and sometimes forget to even start exploring the site. LoL.

don't tell me that this kind of behaviour is new to you because almost 80 percent of the people that i have as 'friends' on my facebook never actually wrote to me or replied to any of my wall messages. and they are not strangers at all either like some people just go on and invite every other person to be a friend; they all are either family or school/college/university friends. and it is very similar over the yahoo and msn messenger as well, people add you and then ignore you. i wonder too, why they add people at all when they don't even want to communicate in the first place. well what seems to me is that people just was a bigger friends list and that's all. doesn't really make much sense.

I have an account there but I don't use it like it should be used. I opened it so that I can see some photos my sister posted there. Of course I'm in some of them too and there have been a couple of friends from school time who have sent a request which I still haven't accepted. I don't want to get involved there too. SoI would be like your friends if I accept. I just haven't got time to be there. I would just leave them in your list and maybe one day they will have time and get in touch with you. Maybe they are busy offline and not logging in too often.

I would try one last time and then condemn them to the wastes. Why aren't you MY Facebook friend? LOL. It wouldn't be fair to your computer screen! LOL.

Yes, this did happen to me on facebook too liquourice. Weird, huh?! One lady, however, did eventually get back to me. She had just joined facebook when she contacted me for the friend request but isn't online much she said and facebook is kind of confusing to her. Thinking back, when I joined facebook I didn't use it very much the first couple of months either until I got used to how it worked. But, who knows why other people might do this. But I'm sure either they are extremely busy, don't get online much or are confused by facebook and how it works. Not everyone is as computer literate as we might be. I have to remember that sometimes myself. Well, I hope they get back in contact with you eventually. Take care! Jill

Alot of people just add lots of people, even if they only know them a little bit, to try build there friends list up. They think the more they have the "cooler" it makes them. I personally think that's dumb. I have 60 friends on my facebook, and there people that I am close to. I would give them a week to reply, but if it's been much longer, obviously your not important to them anymore, for some reason.

Hi liquorice...Yes I have had this exact thing happen to me several times. I have a few friends who added me that I have not seen for over 30 years. I get really excited and openly welcome them. I go through their photos and things because I am genuinely interested in what they have been up to all these years, to see if they have children, grandchildren etc. I make comments on their photos and leave little notes on their walls. Seldom do they write back. I just figure that I dont have much to do in the run of a day and they probably have busy lives for the last 30 years that did not include me. They are not going to change it and put it on hold because I think they should talk to me! However, a note once in a while would be nice.

Hi liquorice, I am glad I can write to you and others in here too; the SAME thing happens to me; or I find old friends, co-workers, relatives who never ever say "boo" or a word to me ever, and I never did anything to them; maybe they just don't remember me at all, but then why do they add or confirm me? I am 38, not rich, thin, beautiful or talented or popular, just a boring working mom LOL Maybe that's why, I guess I will never know. But find me and I will of course talk to you anytime! Barbara Haskell-Burghart :)

Hi there, me too!!! Same thing!!! Thanks liquorice, I thought I was the only one, out of 237 friends maybe I hear from 2 or 3! LOL Add me, and I will always be there for you, Barbara Haskell Burghart

I haven't gone to all the trouble to look people up and then ignore them, but when it comes to Facebook interaction in general, then I'm one of the non-participant offenders for sure! To be honest, if people add me on Facebook and then ignore me, I couldn't be happier! lol. I just can't bring myself to get enthusiastic about that site at all, so I only really visit it once a week or so to delete stuff! In your case, I'd personally just ignore it. It only becomes a bother if you let it!

It is not good on their part, who are ignoring you. I on my part do not at all ignore my friends and if for any reason I am unable to contact them, I message them through the available means to tell them about my absence. My friends are very important to me and I value them a lot.

I don't think that this has ever happened to me but I think that I can understand where it would irk you. I do have to agree with the first responder though in at least saying that they may not have very much time to spend on the computer and thus when they do get time, they don't have enough to talk to you. If they continue this obsessively though then I would just ignore them as well!

I would say that I'm one of those - builing my list up. I don't contact all friends but when they post a pic I like - I comment them. For me it's a way of having the chance of getting to have the opportiunity to contact them if I want them something. Now it's 20 years since I ended grade 9 (the last year in the obligatory school here in Sweden) and it's great to hqave the chance of talking to the others about wether they will go or not :D

Hey there! Maybe they just wanna have more friends, statistically, at their facebook account. I know a lot of people who do that even at Friendster, and I have to admit I do that too but I only invite those people that I get interested to, specially women.lol Or maybe your old friends just wanna know what's up with you by just viewing your profile. They might just wanna check out your photos to see how you look like now. I think they don't really have plans, as of the moment, of communicating with you. Don't delete them, just let them. It happened to me too. I just ignore it, besides they aren't that significant to me. I haven't ignored someone who sends me a message. I don't do that. If you send me a message I'll reply to you the same day you send your message to me. That what I do, because I'm always online everyday. Have a nice day. Happy posting!!

I've got a lot of people from primary school added to my Facebook friends list. We all did the initial "Hi, how are you, what have you been up to?" But after that we haven't really commented or contacted each other at all. It's partly because... well I had things in common with these people in primary school, and now not so much. I also feel a strange awkwardness about talking to old friends and people I knew, even if they're obviously ok with it. I kind of feel like I'm stalking or something by imposing on their lives now. That's probably not the way it is at all... it's just how I feel.