Am i a bad girlfriend?

United States
March 1, 2009 6:14pm CST
my boyfriend saw a picture of me from this past halloween with my guy friend in this picture my guy friend and i are on a couch and my leg was on his lap and he is acting like he is playing the guitar w my leg. so my boyfriend is very angry. i dont think its a big deal he is only my friend. am i wrong?
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• Australia
2 Mar 09
Well, see the thing is - you were there and you know it was innocent and that nothing happened and it's not a big deal. But your boyfriend wasn't there, so there's all manner of jealous thoughts running through his head. Just try and think how you'd feel if the situation was reversed - if you saw a random photo of your boyfriend and some girl was holding him or touching him an a way which you didn't quite feel comfortable with. So no, you're not a bad girlfriend and you didn't do anything wrong, but try and understand that your boyfriend is just dealing with a natural jealousy issue. I don't know your boyfriend, but all I'd suggest doing is just reassuring him that nothing happened and that you do at least understand why he's upset. I hope that helps :)
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@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
13 Mar 09
I totally agree, you know that it was innocent and that you are just friends with this guy, but you should try to see it from his end, that some guy was holding your leg. I would be upset that he got upset about it, but I would try to see things in his viewpoint and try to reassure him.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
2 Mar 09
As much as I can see how angry your bf would get, you are not a bad gf because of that. You didn't do anything and I think that is fine. But I can understand why your bf would get jealous too. You should let him know that there is nothing to worry about, somehow. Good luck!
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• United States
2 Mar 09
I dont think it sounds like a big deal. Sounds like he is just jealous. Does he know this other guy? Have you and this other guy have been friends a long time? If yes then I think he is over reacting. If no, then hopefully he will just get over it in time. Good luck.
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@monsterj1 (188)
2 Mar 09
I cant see the problem if he was your friend, I'm sure your boyfriend will understand
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• China
20 Mar 09
You can explain it to your boyfriend and remember don't let it happen again.
• Philippines
20 Mar 09
for sure... he's very jealous on the pic that he saw. on his mind, he was thinking that the guy was not only your friend but it was once your lover.
• United States
20 Mar 09
ewww he was never my lover he is my friend i known him since i was 16 yrs old. my boyfriend needs to trust me.
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
He is just jealous I think.It's a normal reaction since you are his girlfriend. Don't be affected,instead explain to him that the man is just your friend.
• China
3 Mar 09
If he cares about it he cares about u...
@yspring (272)
• China
12 Mar 09
in my opinion ,your boy friend got angry because he love you very much,he want to protect you from any danger.you can tell him nothing has happend between your friend and you,i believe he will love you more deeply,best wishes for you,you are and will be a good girl friend!