What do you do when they betray you...
United States
March 1, 2009 10:45pm CST
When your best friend moves in with you, makes you the usual promises about paying the rent, getting a job, doing their share of the chores..
And after they fail to live up to that set of promises, the turn around and call you a hypocrite because you asked them to take care of something while your at work.
They still have not gotten a job, and all they do is play games all day and beg you to let them on the only computer in the house that works, because they broke their own and don't have the job to fix it.
On top of all that the bills are in your name, and they have not payed their part of it so your credit is now so bad that you can't find a decent apartment of your own..
Plus the broke your computer, and refused to pay for the parts to pay it.
But you can't stand to see them hurt, and you want to remain their friend...
What do you do?
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4 responses
@shadowoftorment (15)
• United States
2 Mar 09
me, id personally tell her get a job and help or your out of here, if they play the guilt card dont succumb to it hold your ground she will get a job if she wont shes not a true friend and dosent deserve you
@shadowoftorment (15)
• United States
2 Mar 09
um, cus of the added picture i suppose but then again i can be wrong
@breepeace (3014)
• Canada
25 Sep 09
Wow, do I ever feel you! I've been in almost the exact same situation myself (sans the broken computer), and after months of weighing the pros and cons, asked him to leave and severed all ties. It's a tough decision, especially if they're a very good friend of yours, but the honest to God truth is that someone who treats you like that has zero respect for you, and a real friend respects you.
It's gonna be messy. I'll warn you about that. It took me darn near 6 months to clean up the mess he left in his wake, and even now I get that familiar angry feeling when his name comes up in conversation.
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
2 Mar 09
Hi, looks like you have to make a choice. These people seem to be taking advantage of your kind nature. They haven't try to help you out in any ways. So if you feel that you still want to remain their friend, you will have to just live with their nonsense.
I would most probably give them an ultimatum. After so many months 'sponging' on me, I would just tell them to pay up or leave. I really can't be paying for others' living expenses; if they are not doing anything to help themselves. I really don't need these kind of friends!
So good luck and take care!
@Nisha_Verghese (551)
• India
2 Mar 09
Well, from what you have described, i do not think your friend treats you much as a friend as he/she considers you as a provider of his/her needs.
A friend should know to stay within the limits and not to take advantage of the friendship..
You got a couple fof solutions that you can choose from :
1. Tell him to get out. Be a little harsh but it would be for his/her own good. Be firm and tell them that you do not have enough money to take care of 2 people. and tell him/her to quit takin you for granted.
2. Find him/her a job. Use your contacts. Do this last favour for your friend and see if anything works out well.If it does, all is good. If is doesn't, then go for option 1 .
ALl the best...ciao
A friend should know to stay within the limits and not to take advantage of the friendship..
You got a couple fof solutions that you can choose from :
1. Tell him to get out. Be a little harsh but it would be for his/her own good. Be firm and tell them that you do not have enough money to take care of 2 people. and tell him/her to quit takin you for granted.
2. Find him/her a job. Use your contacts. Do this last favour for your friend and see if anything works out well.If it does, all is good. If is doesn't, then go for option 1 .
ALl the best...ciao