Don't Push Me
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
Philippines
March 2, 2009 6:53am CST
I was pushed by old ladies yesterday when hubby and i were suppose to do fish marketing. The place was really dirty and stinky and i did not expect Senior Citizens behaving badly. I didn't have sleep that day since we traveled 12 hours straight and before we head back home, hubby suggested that we should buy something in the market first.
So there i was, dizzy and eyes irritated because no sleep yet, this un educated old lady pushed me and she made my pants wet with what she is carrying. My thread got shortened and i got furious because of what she did. I pushed her too as my reaction. She talked in her own language, i started to talk to my own language too, but i did not curse her of course. Anyway, it was really an ugly sight, i did not expect this from an old lady and she went her way. I said to hubby, come on let's go, i will never ever go to this place again. In my country you don't push someone, it is rude. Here, people are pushing you for nothing, they even pat your back and tell you to move on, how in the world would you do that if people are in queue, you fly ahead, i will tell them even if they don't understand my language. What about your experience? Have you experience this, specially if you are not in your own country? How would you react to the situation?
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5 responses
@scififan43 (2434)
• United States
2 Mar 09
I am happy to hear that you were not hurt. It could have always been worse. Since you are in India and not the Phills you must be awary of the culture there, but I know you have been there long enough to know that.
As for me, I would jsut be paient and jsut try to avoid the person all togheter and not even aurgue. by aurguing it will only make the situation worse.
I rember when I was in the Phills for the frist time. I was taking a walk on the baywalk in Minilia jsut out side the hotel. the foot traific was heavy in the early eveing and I step in to traffic, I nealy got run over by a man on a bike.
I did not see him and I looked at him and he look at me. I apoigized to him and simply went myway. I was not sure whos fault it was but I decied it was best to avoid an aurmument.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
Thanks for the comment. Nice to see you here, did you invited Lyn Holly too. 
I know that it was wrong to push, well anyway it was traumatic for me, i will never ever go to that market place again.
I know that it was wrong to push, well anyway it was traumatic for me, i will never ever go to that market place again.@scififan43 (2434)
• United States
2 Mar 09
I am glad that you liked my commet here. I have been somewhat active on the site. I did invite Lynn Holly but I am not sure if she wants to join or not. but I do untstand how you felt about the indent.
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
2 Mar 09
haha poor you! I have heard the opposite and this is surprising. Some people can just get very crude. And when she has dropped something over you, she should have apologised instead of fighting with you regardless of her age. I think I would have done the same thing too if I were in your place or just get off the way and try to ignore it. Well its a bad experience though. Have a nice day!
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
It was really a bad experience, imagine, i don't have sleep yet, so my mind is not into clear thinking, and there you go, you got pushed from someone you don't expect them doing it to you, their fault yet they have the nerve to get angry.
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
12 Mar 09
Aiyah... living in the city, it is only natural that you get caught in a crowd every once in a while.
Just accept it as part of life. And then push back when the time comes.
Rudeness begets more rudeness. Something that I am trying hard not to return when others are rude to me. Most times I am successful at shaming that person by being polite.
But there are those who are really waiting to get it with their rudeness. And if they blow my fuse, the will definitely get a good piece of my mind!
@savypat (20216)
• United States
2 Mar 09
Just because people get old doesn't make them better people. It sounds like the pushing may be somewhat of a cultural practice? Many cultures have a requirement for less personal space then others. In USA we have a fairly large requirement for personal space. This is all determined by which social structure you were raised in.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
You mean it is in their culture to push people even they know it hurts?? i think this is because of what their level of thinking was and it has something to do with their attitude as well. Didn't their parents taught them not to push anyone? i got wet on my pants and she pushed me and she was the one who got the nerve to get mad, i think this is plainly crazy!
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
yes, thanks! i had my cool when my hubby was calming me down. It was just a day that i haven't got my sleep yet that my mind is not into clear thinking.
