What should i do ?? :((( i am serious

I can very well understand your situation. it means you truly loved this person. For whatever reason you broke up I do not know. But the reality is life can't stop for a failed love. At the core of your heart the love for him will remain.But try out new things in life. it will soothe you. Love can't be forced.

Why don't you just send him a card on his birthday. Say nothing on the card but your signature. Upon seing it his mind will be flooded with sweet memories of you and if he still cares about you, surely he will reply or give you a call to thank you or maybe a refresh chapter might begin. We women are very emotional but men can be worse of and for all you know he is also thinking of you but because of his pride which prevent him from furthering his action to contact you. There is no harm in making the first move.

Hi Archie0...I understand that you truly loved that person from heart. That is the reason why you could not still get over the broken relationship, although its been 3 years. Hey Archie... 3 years is a pretty long time. Everyone says time is the best healer which helps you overcome pain and move ahead in life.But if you still love him as before then its time you just sit back calmly and think for a while what you want and what you wish to do. It is just not possible that you keep giving yourself so much pain. I can also feel that you are not able to be happy from heart. So please sit and think what you want to do. Firstly just think what was the reason for the break up? Do u think you want to get back to him inspite of all that has happened in the past? is he single and even if he is, will he get back to you if you speak your heart to him? Please think and if the answers to atleast the first three questions is YES, then i would definitely suggest that you give it a try once, for one last time.Go... speak to him openly. However, if this is not to be, then it is not worth the pain you are going through. I am sure there is someone out there JUST FOR YOU, who will love you and care for you genuinely. Just let life take its own course. And i would say that more than you needing someone, may be there is someone who needs you. So, do not be upset and give yourself and your life a positive start once again. I know its quite easy to tell that you forget and start afresh. But i would genuinely want you to try more than 100%. Try to keep yourself as busy as possible.Try to be with friends, give time to your hobbies. Go out with a group of friends and also if you are interested then listen to music. It really helps. I really wish you all the best!

I really understand your feelings, you are fall in love deeply. But i must say you must try your best to forget him. This is very bad for your health and life. You could try to find some hobby and play with your friends. Throw out all of his photoes, don't see them for ever. Trying to find new boyfriend, open your heart, to accept new love. If the man who really love you appeared, i'm sure you are happy and really forget him.

learn how to move on..divert your attention and start to forget about him since it's been 3 years that you guys have no communication at all..haven't you ever thought that if he is still in love with you then he must have done something to get you back but it seems like he is totally over you that's why in your part there's is no use of dwelling on that relationship..don't let yourself be tied with an uncertain love..

Wow. It is good to find someone who loves so loyally. If he would know how much you love him, he will be overwhelmed and will find love back to you. So just be honest to yourself, TELL HIM HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HIM!

[i]I do know the reason why he left but if her hurt you that much, I don't think he still care. I am not sure but for 3 years, I guess you need to try to forget him...It's not easy but you can do it for sure.... SPend more time with your family and friends, meet new people and maybe you will just forget him totally soon... Or you can also try to search him and maybe if you will hear news that maybe he is married now or what, maybe that will help you move forward![/i]

Hi Archie0,sometimes it takes years to forget and mend a broken heart. It's up to the person how would she/he move on. Moving on is not that easy, especially when you love that someone that no one can exchange him/her to you.If it was meant to be for you God will make a way. If not you will just always carry the past, just to make you smile, and to linger on not to make you alone in this world. It's your choice what will make you happy, even when the person is not around. Yes it's better to feel love then not having love at all. We make our own choices and our life. But still time will just tell until when..... You still have a journey to go on Archie0. Have a nice day to you! God be with you!

well there is a few thing as i see it, well if you want to know if its meant to be, for one he would have came back. or he might feel the sameway and think the same thing oh you have someone else. so you can either one contact him, and let him know. but prepear yourself for a let down if he has someone else. or meet someone else and move on. fall in love with a new person.

Hmmm.... 3 years with no contact from your former lover and you still think you'll be able to get back with him? Don't you want your life back? You need to concentrate on how you can live your life to the fullest. You may never know, you might find love again but in different person. Don't limit yourself to the past. You need to accept that you are no longer with your old flame. Take care.

Hello Archie0! Is he away from you now? Is he living with other girl? If he is living with other girl, then probably you should start to learn how to forget him. Don't waste your time and try to move on. If he is still single and not committed, why not try to contact him and tell him about your feelings. Who knows? He might still love you and that hesitate to tell you. Just risk and if his answer is no, then your waiting would turn to nothing.

Hi Archie! I well understand your position. Similar thing happened to me too. I was in love with a girl as I was still a college student but it broke in 1994 and we have not met since then but I wish to met her once again Though we both are married with different people. But Still I would like to meet her but know hot where she is now neither anybody knows it. Well as you broke perhaps with some bickering or misunderstanding. If that is the case and as you are too eager to meet him why not give a call or meet if you both are not yet engaged Otherwise? Just go and have a talk and if possible do reconcile but see if he too has the same intensity or else it would be better to forget.

i read all the comments/opinion,on my part, and my best advice to you don't ignore what you feel, just go with the flow, because the more you avoid it, the more it will grow, the more you ignore, the more you will love him more. . . just try to relax, don't feel the pain, dont be in a hurry, just open your heart. if you like to cry, cry out loud.i'm not saying this because for no reason, this is my experience, and 3 yrs can not be compared to more than a decade. lolz. . i forgot my girl after a decade, for more than 10 yrs, i always crying, then one after morninng, its just like a magic, its all gone! take note. MORE THAN A DECADE! maybe u can do it in a century.Lolz. JUST GO WITH THE FLOW. BE FRIEND WITH HIM! BUT AVOID HAVING AN INTIMATE MOMENT WITH HIM!

some say that to fall out of love with someone, you have to fall in love with someone new. i've been in that situation myself, and fortunately i was able to move on. be kind to yourself. surround yourself with good friends, try out new things - get a makeover or a new hobby - anything that will make you feel better about yourself. time does and will heal all wounds. good luck and stay strong!

Hi, life is very precious and we are here to enjoy it. Yes it is difficult sometime to accept the reality, but then there is otherway out from this. Keep yourself busy in your hobbies, make lots of good friend, try to stop thinking about him, I know it will take time, but nothing is forever. Time is very strong, it heals all wounds. It's just a matter of time.

What's wrong with you girl, let the guy knows how you feel, you never can tell perhaps he is feeling the same way and also hiding it from you. I believe you got to be honest about your feelings for your ex. tell him now rather than having regrets later on, you never know what might just happen. The question on my mind though is if you love him that much what was the reason for the break up? I know that you can love someone so much and then find it difficult to live with that person. I wish you all the best in telling him your true feelings and hope that both of you feel the same and will reunite.

Do you want to let him know? At least he might tell you something after you told him to get an answer instead of just waiting and waiting for nothing? I would suggest you to tell him what you feel, it is fair for you and him :-)

That is carrying on a bit to long, you need to find out somethings like what his status is, I think you also need to get back in the game. I do not want get al cliche on you but if it was to be it will, and the rule that one door does not close without another open. I chased a girl for 11 years of my life, on again off again, when i finally stepped away and looked for someone else i meet my wife and we have been married 9 years. Good luck as i am sure you do not want to hear any of this but it is probably for the best. Do not let life pass you by as wait on another, you only get on life make the most of it.

just step out of your craziness and step up to the truth..whats gone is gone....

Well, i broke up with someone 3 years ago also. I loved the person very much and that i know that im still in love with him until now but not the same way as i did. I think the feelings will remain coz ive loved him truly. But it doesnt mean i have to wait for him for that long. Life must go on and it is only possible if you will move forward. I wont risk waiting for 3 years, even a year is long already. Why did he left me anyway if he loves me. Life is beautiful,dont waste ur time loving a person who has left you. For sure there is one that is right for you. Give your self the chance to love someone else.