Do you think your significant other drinks too much?

You sound like a nice guy and it also sounds like there's no issues with how you both feel about drinking.

It is actually NOT fun to be drunk. I'm not sure how or why people have gotten the messed up idea that it is an IDEAL situation and that anybody ENJOYS it. I've only been drunk a few times, and the last time was miserable. If you have more than 11 drinks in a night and stumble all over Vegas without sleeping ..... which is what I did.... no wonder I felt like hell. Ten years ago I might have been able to handle it much better, I even remember telling my friend that I couldn't do such things any more, a 32 year old body does not 'get over it' the way a 22 year old body does! Also, I really felt sick in the morning. I know that some people actually puke their guts out, get dizzy, lie on the floor or hug the toilet. I know that some people end up with spotty or NO memory of what occurred, or with memories of things that never actually happened, or maybe they planned to have a nice romantic evening and find out they can't even DO THAT.. *ahem* or one of them falls asleep on the other one! Yeah, I'm not in favor of drunkenness. It interferes with your ability to have fun and to remember the fun the next day. I actually had a boyfriend one time... well he was an ex boyfriend actually, and he and I spent some time together at a birthday party for a friend that we were both invited to. It was at a club/bar so we had some drinks and danced and then went and sat in his car for awhile. I guess he drank MORE after I left so the next day he was calling me and apologizing because he thought he had convinced me to go home with him.. ha ha ha. I assured him I certainly had NOT gone home with him and there was nothing to apologize for.

I agree that was a very good way to have HIM keep track and notice a problem for what it was, I mean it doesn't sound WRONG unless you look at it as 'drinking 16 days or over half of a month'. I would also agree that it does have to do with willpower, personal willpower. Someone has to be INTERNALLY motivated in order to not do something or do something, and any amount of encouragement or discouragement from others does nothing unless the desire is there for the person within themselves.

Thanks! I too think a lot has to do with maturing and the passage of time, and perhaps a shift in priorities because of other responsibilities. Having a spouse and kids means that life cannot be all about partying and drinking - well under normal circumstances I'd say.

Hehe. For many people there are other worse reasons than drinking, of course I am noticing in responses that the drinking does seem to be a problem even though people are saying it wasn't THE reason for issues or breakups.

LOL! That's kind of my take on it too. The only times I might object have to do with too much drinking in a public place (since we'd have to drive home) or so much that hubby falls asleep on me or feels sick or something. I have a pretty good handle on myself, I'm a social drinker and don't drink to get drunk plus I usually want to make sure I can drive, and that obviously limits me.

So neither of your drinking habits (or non drinking habits) bother either of you? I guess I'm just curious to see what the majority considers a 'problem' and how it gets handled. BTW, friends will come over and hang out, real friends will bring a jacket and a shovel and help you hide bodies....