How to stay cool?

Punching things (or people) can prove to be detrimental, so I always like to take walks. I will just get up and go by myself for a while. Usually helps when I take walks on the ocean but a good walk will get those feelings out for me. I don't suffer from road rage so I wouldn't know how to handle that. We have to make it so that we are not always in a rush then we wouldn't get so frustrated behind the wheel I guess. A good power walk will always work out those frustrations though.

If I'm totally pissed off with my bookkeeping records, I would totally freak out and scream once the receipt was not part from the budget. I hate people if they can't follow exact orders. I would definitely asked the purchaser over and over again. Then, I'll be quiet. I would lock the office and don't want to be disturb. Sometimes, I do it into writings.

How about taking a deep breath and counting till 10? I don’t know if this works but I have read it in books…however, most of the time, I am on a short fuse myself and in the exact situations…forget counting…just let the steam off I think this is better...really wish life had a button like this

Sometimes it becomes difficult to control your anger. At times, events turn out so provocative that you cannot hold on to yourself. To get angry is a very normal human emotion and sometimes we just shout to vent out our anger. Staying cool is not easy per se, however, whenever any such situation arises I just think about the consequences of losing my temper. I know it takes few seconds to lose temper, however, it takes many hours or may be days to revert back to normalcy. When anger starts boiling up inside me, I try to control myself by keeping quiet or mum. I know me getting furious will make other fellow also angry and it will lead to bitterness. I try to avoid the bitterness. Life is really tense, so I try to minimise the moments, which can bring more bitterness in life. I just eascape from the scene, which happen to make me angry and just keeping myself away from scene help me control my emotions. Counting from 1 to 100 is another option to divert attention, which I resort to. Good Post!

It took me a while and one heck of an expensive lesson before I learned to play my poker face when I am angry. But there are still times that it will show on my face when the line is crossed too far for comfort! What I usually do is to keep quite and try to capture the fast and furious thoughts that are running through my head. Then try to orgnise them into options and try and see which is the best option of reaction. Much like playing a computer game and trying to interact with a screen character with multiple choice action items to choose from. A deep breath usually helps to get those thought processes started.

I don't know how to stay cool. When I get angry I can even climb a mountain and scream till I have my last breath in my body. I am always worried about my anger that one day it can lead me to do things which are illegal. no, I don't take any pills or tablets to control my anger.

When it build enough I holler at any one that is near by but mostly at the one I am mad at and it could take months before I do.

8i don't have too many things that make me angry anymore thank heavens. i do have a short fuse but just don't have too many problems that set it off. i can still roll out w/the best of them if i have to. lol.

hmmmmm sounds like she is a lovely neighbor of you zandi.well if i were you i will ignore her or do things more to make her jelous then she will giving up and learn something.people like that are insecured and unhappy life

I did not experience anger to the extent I can not stand .I don't like to make fire to anybody .When I am in bad temper ,I will go out to walk .I think it is impolit of me to fire others for my bad temper .What's more ,being angry is bad for our healthy ,we should smile as much as possible .Be happy ,mylottings !

My way of diffusing my own anger is to try to find humor in whatever the situation is. It's certainly not always easy, but I try to look at the event as though I was a spectator. Humor can be found somewhere, even if it's how some one's ears turn pink when they get mad. The last time I had an argument with my husband I started giggling in the middle of it. He asked what was so funny, and I told him we both looked silly when we were mad. That pretty much diffused the anger for both of us.

Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, Well, I have been telling you amny other ways to control anger and live peacefully. Following is another lesson teaching similar experience, please apply :- [b]"NAIL IN THE FENCE Make sure you read all the way down to the last sentence. (Most importantly the last sentence) There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the ! day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say "I'm sorry", the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open their hearts to us." It's National Friendship Week. Show your friends how much you care. Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND, even if it mean s sending it back to the person who sent it to you. If it comes back to you, then you'll know you have a circle of friends. YOU ARE MY FRIEND AND I AM HONORED! Now send this to every friend you have!! And to your family Please forgive me if I have ever left a hole. "[/b] May god bless you and have a great time.

Here are some tips i find on newspaper, - Sports, like jogging, running, swimming, etc. are good ways to rid of bad feelings, - Sunshine can lighten up, esp for people of low spirits, - Bananas provide good chemicals to keep calm and happy, - Enjoy flowers, helps regulating moods with their colors and flavors, - Listen to light music, acts on brain to keep calm, - Travel to enjoy good scenery, and - Hair dressing, etc. The above can help to change the reaction toward the adverse exterior.

Just remember what is important and try to just tell your body to let you calm down... a lot of people have anger problems but it's very possible to learn how to control your anger that's different then supressing your anger too, if possible talk about what made you angry when you've calmed down

Hi Zandi, I think we all get angry from time to time and we try to vent our anger is various ways. I guess your staying cool would be a good idea of anger management. An ideal situation would be to limit our anger in a way that is not destructive. There are many ways of controlling your anger and it is up to you to find a way you are comfortable with. But ultimately, it still boils down to how determined you are to suppress or dissipate the emotion.

I yell and scream in my car, everyone around thinks I'm singing and no one know what is really going on. This has worked for me for years.

I try so hard to cope with that every day! I have been feeling particularly irritable lately due to sleep deprivation and stress. I used to automatically react to every little thing when I was in a black mood. Now for the sake of my little girl I work hard at delaying the reaction and if I am feeling really angry I temporarily walk away even if it means I have to go outside. I find it really helps!

life is complex ,so there maybe so much things will be happen ,something maybe good,something maybe bad,we can't control the life ,but we could control ourselves,read some books which have negative contente maybe helpful.

hai Zanid, dear i wanna tell u one thing that wheneveru got annoyed try to laugh,and most powerfull action ,u can say treatment that i done with my anger,i m a HINDU ,so in my religion a word for which told in our literature that it is most powerful word of universe,i dont know those things but whenever i got angry ,i utter those word and miracely i am able to control my anger.

being smart, silent.. can help you to stay cool.. and the major thing is being optimistic..optimistic.. generally people get easily anger,, if they stay calm,,then it's brilliant and cool..being friendly to all helps you..