A New Approach - *FedEx Guy Update*
By singlemommy
@singlemommy (2955)
United States
March 2, 2009 9:00pm CST
Wow! How many times am I going to write about this guy here on MyLot. You guys keep telling me that you want to be updated so I guess I just keep trying to keep you in the loop of things.
"Unattainable", these are the words that were spoken to me today. Not by Mr. FedEx, but by one of my co-workers. He said that he thinks that I always go for me who are unattainable. Whether he is right or wrong, I'm not sure, but Mr. FedEx friend told me that my FedEx guy is unattainable. Now what exactly does unattainable mean?
unattainable
adj. Impossible to attain: impossible to achieve;
So, is this how I should look at Mr. FedEx? He is single, but he is also unattainable? I'm not sure. Yes, I don't have my hopes totally up, but yeah, it would be nice if it happened.
I decided today to take a new approach to the situation. I've decided I'm going to go back to the times when I wasn't always trying to talk to him, wasn't trying to flirt with him, etc and see how he reacted to that. Now, I don't mean, be rude to him and ignore him or anything, if a situation comes where I have something to say then I will say it, but I mean, just not being as "pushy", I guess.
So, today when he came in, I kept working just like I normally would. He went and talked to my co-worker, then he talked to his friend (my other co-worker), then he talked to my boss for a little while. When he made a little joke, I looked at him and he looked at me and I smiled, but didn't say anything. I just wanted to see how he would approach me if he approached me at all.
I kept on working, my boss walked about and then Mr. FedEx walked over to me and made a tap beside me on my table to get my attention. I said, "So, how's it going?". He told me about his weekend and we did a bit of chit chatting and that was it.
I think this is the approach that I'm going to take. I don't want to push myself on him if he isn't interested and if he isn't attainable. I want to be realistic to the situation that it is possible that nothing will happen between us and if that is the case then I'm happy just knowing that I have a friend. I guess basically, I want to see how he approaches me instead of me approaching him all the time. I've always heard that men don't like desperate women, so maybe to him I seem desperate and I don't want him to think that because I'm not.
What do you think? Do you think it sounds like an approach that a man would be more comfortable with?
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12 responses
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
3 Mar 09
It sounds like a great ideal to me and maybe you should become "Unattainable" yourself for awhile
You know there is men out there that like to play hard to get and as soon as you become uninterested they start thinking I better do something and fast she is loosing interest,so just be yourself and dont worry if nothing becomes of it as you said you have made a friend if nothing else.Good Luck!
You know there is men out there that like to play hard to get and as soon as you become uninterested they start thinking I better do something and fast she is loosing interest,so just be yourself and dont worry if nothing becomes of it as you said you have made a friend if nothing else.Good Luck!1 person likes this
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
3 Mar 09
I am glad you put your picture back on here,I like to see who I am talking to.You play it cool for awhile and that will have him wondering.
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
3 Mar 09
For some reason, I knew you would like the new picture. Yes, I'm will play it cool and definitely keep you updated!
Yes, I'm will play it cool and definitely keep you updated!@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
3 Mar 09
That is exactly what I am thinking. I'm going to be "unattainable" and see how he reacts to it. Maybe he will become more interested, who really knows, but whatever happens, happens and I'm cool with that.
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@rsa101 (38126)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
Looks like the conservative approach is what you are adapting to right now. Well there is nothing wrong with it. That is what the traditional ladies used to do back then. But then I would say this is the safest way to know how interested is the guy to you. Because if he would be the first one to approach you then he is indeed interested in talking or knowing more about you. I guess you just have to make things on a status quo right now. Guys that are mystified about women do get interested more in knowing you.
@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
3 Mar 09
Yes, I feel that if he is interested then he will approach me more. I think this approach that I'm taking will tell me HOW INTERESTED he is in me. He knows I'm interested, so now he needs to show me if he is interested.
@rsa101 (38126)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
Yep for men, it is difficult to knwo whether they are interested in you or not. It could simply be just like taking advantage of you since he knows you are interested in you. But then if you girls would hide your intention with them they would pursue you more if they are indeed interested in you. So I hope there is another sequel to this story of yours.
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
3 Mar 09
Yes, I hope there is another sequel to this story of mine too. Only time will tell.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
3 Mar 09
Well, it sounds like you really like this guy and want to be in a relationship with him. I hope things work out for you the way that you hope. Why does Mr. FedEx say that he is unattainable- is he married, dating, etc.? If so, then I say that you should not try to get into a relationship. However, if he isn't,then I say you should try to talk to him and be sure that he knows that you are interested in him. Just don't be pushy as he may not like that. No, girl make it happen if he is a single guy- Ask him out!!
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
4 Mar 09
Why don't you ask him out for a dinner date or lunch date?
@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
4 Mar 09
He is single. I know that for sure. I think by unattainable they mean that he has a lot of women who go after him. I'm not sure, maybe I'm not his type either, who knows. He definitely knows that I'm interested, so I'm just waiting for him to make the next move.
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
3 Mar 09
I think the subtle approach is the best way to go. By this time he obviously knows that you have an interest in him. Let him make the moves and you continue to be friendly like you were. He seems to just want a friendly work environment friendship at the moment. Like you said, if nothing happens, at least you have gained a friend. We never know what Cupid has in store
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@iamsolucky (1241)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
i think is the start of a new love story 
. Im getting interested for more updates, its like i am reading a very romantic story. Im a woman, and you know that woman loves to hear things like this. I wish you all the best for that Mr. Fed Ex, just go on with the flow. start things with good friendship, thats how my lovelife started too. My guy didnt tell me he loves me at first, he just like the friendship with me. But time pass and i told him that im falling in love with my friend and he asked who?, and i told him " YOU",. But then deep inside his heart he likes me a lot too.
happy mylotting!
. Im getting interested for more updates, its like i am reading a very romantic story. Im a woman, and you know that woman loves to hear things like this. I wish you all the best for that Mr. Fed Ex, just go on with the flow. start things with good friendship, thats how my lovelife started too. My guy didnt tell me he loves me at first, he just like the friendship with me. But time pass and i told him that im falling in love with my friend and he asked who?, and i told him " YOU",. But then deep inside his heart he likes me a lot too.
happy mylotting!1 person likes this
@cupcakesmom (15)
• United States
4 Mar 09
Oh men. They can't help themselves when a woman who was once interested stops showing interest. Sounds like you have the situation under control LOL good luck :)
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
4 Mar 09
Well, I hope that I do have the situation under control like you say.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
4 Mar 09
Personally I feel you are taking the Best approach to this situation. Because if he is really interested in you, then it will happen. But if you try to force yourself on him you could make yourself look too easy, and it could be a turn off for him. I am sure in time he will either get up enough nerve to ask you out, or let you know he is just interested in you as a friend. Just make sure to be yourself and if and when the time is right you will know. Wishing you the Best.
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@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
4 Mar 09
If I were a man I don't think I would like a pushy woman. Whether they admit it or not men like to be in control. You taking this approach leaves him in control. If he doesn't approach you in a reasonable amount of time you may quit trying to impress him.
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@mummyofthree (2715)
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3 Mar 09
Hi. I look forward to reading your updates
I would ask your co-worker to be more specific about why he thinks this chap is "unattainable". Does he know something you don't?
I think your new plan is a good one. Just be sure not to over do it! As much as men are hard to read, men struggle to understand us women. The last thing you want is him thinking you have lost interest.
But it sounds like you have it under control!
Good luck and I look forward to the next installment!
I would ask your co-worker to be more specific about why he thinks this chap is "unattainable". Does he know something you don't?
I think your new plan is a good one. Just be sure not to over do it! As much as men are hard to read, men struggle to understand us women. The last thing you want is him thinking you have lost interest.
But it sounds like you have it under control!
Good luck and I look forward to the next installment!1 person likes this
@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
4 Mar 09
I'm not real sure what he meant by "unattainable". I thought that maybe he meant that Mr. FedEx isn't looking for a serious relationship, I'm not really sure though. I know he is single, so I don't know.
I hope you are right and I do have everything in control.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
3 Mar 09
I do think men appreciate women who do not try so hard. You have to be nice and friendly, but not seem overly interested. I think they like women to a be a little hard to get, but they also like women who appreciate them as well. So let him come to you, but when he tells you something great he has done or something make sure to stroke his ego just a tiny bit. Don't over do it, keep it subtle.
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@crimsonladybug (3112)
• United States
3 Mar 09
And this so reminds me of the beautician and the UPS guy from Legally Blonde! Maybe that's how it will end?! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
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@theweerouss (982)
• United States
3 Mar 09
As long as he doesn't think you all of a sudden lost interest in him, I think this approach can be good. It's like a modern take on the old fashioned 'playing hard to get!' It sounds like up until now you've started a pretty good connection and he's definitely interested, so I'm sure he'll be intrigued with this little switch in behavior. Keep us posted on how it turns out! Good luck!
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
3 Mar 09
Believe me, I will keep you posted! I'm hoping that you are right and he does become intrigued and becomes more interested, but if not, oh well, it is his loss.
I'm hoping that you are right and he does become intrigued and becomes more interested, but if not, oh well, it is his loss.1 person likes this
