Help! Should I still come to class or not?
By phyrethyme
@phyrethyme (1267)
Philippines
March 2, 2009 11:32pm CST
I went to class this morning after skipping class thrice. Once I skipped class cause I had to study for a major exam. Twice I skipped because I was sick. Thrice because I had to do stuff for my grandmother's funeral. The other times I skipped were because I arrived really late in school.
My professor asked me this morning why I had so many absences. I told him the truth and the death of my grandmother recently.
He said he doesn't believe me.
He said I'll fail.
He said I have low grades--- which IS NOT TRUE. I never failed any of his exams. Either I got a few mistakes or got them perfect.
I don't know what to do. He judges so easily.
He said, I'm debarred from the class.
Then later he said, things are up to me. Things are in my hands. After talking, he let me sit down in class. I thought I should get out because he said it's debarred.
Weird. Should I still go to his class and fight, prove him wrong?
Should I not anymore and just retake it some other semester?
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23 responses
@jezblog (202)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
Hi Phyrethyme,
I would say, of course you should still go to class and fight, prove him wrong. If you are going to give it all up, then it's just like saying that you had evaluated yourself as such a loser.You have to stand up and show what you really can do good academic performance, that you are tough despite of absences which are even reasonable. Besides you are intelligent. You get good scores in quizes and examinations. Now, if you'll go to class, you have to monitor your papers and keep it for future proof. Think of it, if you are to retake it some other semester, you have wasted things. Your tuition went to trash. Your time gone to nothing. And your school transcript of record got drop marks. So, I would advise that you really have to go in class. Study hard, monitor your scores, and keep those papers. It is normal to meet people with that personality. We just have to be wise enough in our decisions and try to deal with persons like them.
@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
Yeah. My problem is that I do not really understand him. He says debarred then next he tells me, bahala ka na, bahala ka na. (It's up to you.) I don't understand.
@jezblog (202)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
Well, it's better if you're going to open a dialougue between you and him with the councilors at the Guidance Office of your school. But, i would suggest 1st to you to go in his class for few days and try to observe his attitude towards you. Maybe, he's just under high blood pressure at the time he told you that. But if it gets worse then it's the time to oppen the issue at your school guidance office. :)
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@shellsim26 (138)
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3 Mar 09
As a teacher myself, this is completely the wrong way that he is gong about dealing with your situation. He may find it hard to be sympathetic but he could at least encourage you to continue.
If you were in my class, I would encourage you to continue and provide extra support if I could for the time which you missed. Is there another teacher you can talk to about the way he is treating you?
@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
Hi. I wish you were my teacher. No, there's no teacher I can approach to talk about this. This professor of mine is way higher in a sense of ranking in the college and the other teachers just, I don't know, shy away from him. The other teachers won't care anyway, there is nothing they can do.
@shellsim26 (138)
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4 Mar 09
Im really sorry to hear that. If I were you, I would give it my best shot, even if only to prove him wrong.
Good luck :)
@jd107nette (1454)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
when he said that "things are up to you" and he "lets you sit down in class" I guess he wants you to prove him wrong..
well, you know your prof better...
Do you have a "failure due to absences" kind of policy in your school? If you don't then, your grades will be the next basis for your failure... students have access to their grades and have them recomputed right...?
I suggest you still attend your classes... Good luck!
@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
I do not get it when he said it's debar then it's up to you.
@Liu1979chang (21)
• China
4 Mar 09
i am really sorry to hear that.but i think you should go away and start from a new point.
perhaps you felt unfair about the way you professor treated you, but if you think hard you could find out it is a very difficult thing to change one`s attitude about another.so ,why not restart.
good luck.
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@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
If I restart, I would get a mark of three units failure, which will kind of destroy my record. I am so tempted to just start from scratch but I really hate the way he judges us students.
@lucas16 (98)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
He is not weird. He just want to you in bed.. you tell the dean about your problem... you the right to go class.. if he is telling you lies about your grades then something is fishy about him.. it either he likes you or he is telling the truth... Peace out!!
@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
Oh no. I keep track of my scores. I know I did well. I didn't fail any of his tests. Plus he's a Spanish priest. One of the few foreign teachers in the college.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I think you should go to class and prove him wrong. Prove to him you are dedicated to this class and that you were telling to truth and study your butt off to ace that final. That is what I would do. There were times that I was so sick I couldn't go to class and one professor didn't believe me, so I dedicated my time to her class and ended up passing it. I showed her that I wouldn't fail. If he still gives you a hard time, take it over his head.
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
4 Mar 09
It all depends on how badly you want to take the class and get through it. If you are determined to get through the class, stick it out, do your best not to miss any more classes and prove to him that you are perfectly capable of passing that class. The ball is in your court, so to speak and only you can make the decision that is right for you.
Personally, I would stick it out and prove myself. That's just me though.
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@thecrazyjogger (3178)
• India
6 Mar 09
well i thnk u shud retake it the nexxt semester
happy lottin and have a nice day!
@rmorefield (941)
• United States
3 Mar 09
It sounds as though he is leaving it up to you as to whether or not you really want to be in his class. Yes, he said that you were kicked out, but if he really meant it, he wouldn't have said that "things are up to you." If I were you, I wouldn't give up. I would put up a fight until the very end. And then, if you fail, at least you will know that he wasn't telling you a lie just to see if you really were telling him the truth or not. You can still retake the class another semester, but you should finish this one first and see what happens. Oh yeah. I am very sorry to hear about your grandmother. I recently lost my grandfather.
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@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
I'm sorry about your grandfather.
He just confused me cause first he tells me that it's failure due to absences then later lets me sit and tells me that it's up to me. He said he'd half of the class anyway.
I see. I will attend his next class and see if he calls my name for attendance.. Which probably means that I'm still "in", right? Cause he called me? Hm.
I do not know if I should tell my mom to talk to my professor. But I am not a kid anymore to do that. I don't know what it will take. A letter perhaps? But he won't even accept one, even if it came from the college dean.
@masata (408)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 09
In my opinion, you should still come to the class. This is to prove that you are not as what your profesor's thoughts. Prove it that you are a dilligent student and capable of achieving a decent grade. It is better than just skipping the class. If you can prove that, you already give a "lesson" to your prof indirectly. That's not to judge people so easily.
Good luck!
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@Chrono1210 (13)
• United States
3 Mar 09
Take it up to the dean or the board or whatever your college has. Most colleges should not even care how often you show up as long as you do the homework and pass the tests.
However, if higher authority can't resolve it don't waste your time for nothing. However, do well to try to get a refund if possible if you must drop the class.
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@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
I can't take it up to the dean. This professor of mine is the regeant and he won't even accept excuse letters SIGNED BY THE DEAN. I don't know what's up with him.
I cannot drop the class. There are three meetings left before the finals.
This professor is a priest.. Oh well. Talk about understanding and forgiveness. He's, I don't know, indescribable.
@huanglian (100)
• China
4 Mar 09
Give it up.
I do not like yout professor.And I think he does not like you too.Since you are not hamony with each other.It is better to give it up.
Study calls for a good atmosphere.And it is ofen very hard to change a person.Even if you prove he was wrong this time,he will still have bad impresion on you.Your study in the future will still bad.
So give it up early and have a bland new beginning.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
You should prove him wrong~!
You have valid reasons to be absent and you can prove that to him, right?
If you do have good grades in his classes, you might as well still go on, report the unjust treatment. It would do good for him to change his attitude, save time and money on your part as well.
A teacher with narrow mind is quite ironic..
@xboxboy (5576)
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3 Mar 09
prove hin wrong.
I was a manager for many years and one of my tactics was to act angry and after you had time to think i would discuss things in a calmer manner to see if you were up for the job.
Only those that were fighters tried to prove me wrong and took great satisfaction in proving me wrong...the whole point of the exercise.
Now, this was my way..it does not mean it is your professors way!
either way...prove him wrong!
Good luck
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@athinapie (1150)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
That's a tough one. I guess your teacher isn't that considerate huh? Why not show him proof of your activities. If that doesn't work, you can always talk to your dean or principal. They should understand you because you had to do something that is why you skipped class. Don't let your teacher dictate your future.
@saran86jay (98)
• India
3 Mar 09
Please donot be fool to give a break to semester, you did because you had problem and that you didn't lied teacher, you said the truth. It's often sometimes we have to ashamed of being truth but you know truth is truth, which your teacher will realize one day. For that you have to prove yourself you didn't lied and you have to show that you are the best in the class. I hope you understand better, so keep going to the class, show him you are the best of all.
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@lindenmayer (25)
• United States
3 Mar 09
If you back out now then you're only proving your professor right. Stick it out and keep trying. It's a lot easier to just finish the class then wait it out and take it again. I had an emotional break down last semester and I missed a lot of classes. I ended up withdrawing from most and I stuck it out for the rest. While I didn't do well in all of them, I did save a few. Stick it out sweetie, you'll be fine!
