What should I do?

Although i have never suffer your experience, i deeply sympathize you. If I were you, i will try my best to saving my family. Maybe i will go to find the "third party" in the situation that my parents did not know. I will try my best to advice the person to leaves, I will speak to the person sincerely. I don't know the "third party" you said is a lady or a man, but if he /she is not a bad person, he/she will understand your sincerity. Don't be worry, you are an adult already, you could solve this problem with your way. I believe your parents love you all, if they love you, they will not separate really.

Maybe it would be a great help for you to talk to both parents and tell them how the situation is affecting you. I'm sure that you want your parents to stay together so it might be good to remind them of their vow to stay together for better or for worse. And I believe it also includes "third party issues", if they are willing to try harder to work things out between the two of them then there is a chance for a better marriage for them. They can also seek the guidance of counselors that can help them save their marriage.

Hi Krisneil, You are not the only one this is happening to. As most of the mylotters have already rightly said, try and talk to your parents - individually. Talking always works - it will mitigate the problem if not completely solve it. Best of luck with that. In the worst case scenario where there is not stopping it, live with it and let time heal your wounds - you are a grown man and can stand your own. Peace.

Hey...I'm so sorry to hear that from you...I know evevyone wants to have a harmonious family.All of us want our parents live together and happily... But, If ur parents really don't want to live together because of they don't love each other any longer...I hope that you'd better try to understand them..They have their own life,ha?? My suggestion maybe not gorgeous, but reasonable...Good luck,guy....Hope that your parents still love each other...

if my parents would separate i'd be devastated also. but i guess you came from a conservative culture, probably in asia, because of your looks. i'm from asia myself. anyway, this is where we can learn from other cultures. ideal american households often have divorce in its past. however, most american kids turn out okay for if parents, (if the sole purpose of the separation or divorce is really for the best), would only condition the minds of their kids that mommy and daddy would be better off and happier than friends then things would really turn out alright as long as the other parent do not criticize in whatever way the other one in front of their children. you're old enough already. but i guess the unthinkable idea of them separating is unimaginable but your parents may be better apart. no matter how bad things are: they wouldn't happen if they're not supposed to happen. who knows, in the end, it's still them probably meant for each other. if not, rest assured, the Great Being up there would put them where they'd be happiest. and all would be for the best.

sorry to hear about your family getting separated. It is normal to feel bad about the thought of having a broken family but don't be so down there's still a chance for them to resolve the issue maybe they just need space so they could realize things. But if things don't work out the way it's supposed to be then be strong to conquer that bad feeling. Just think about the happy memories you had with your family and accept the fact at least you have spent your 21 years with a family not like the others who doesn't even know who their parent's are. I hope things would get better with your family. Let's just pray for them.

Well, I am not sure as to why your mother has decided to seperate from your father,but I would guess that she feels it is for her own good. If it is what will make her happy,then support her in that. If you are old enough to stand on your own,then do it and support your parents in the life that they choose for themselves. I am sure that they both still love you. I am from a broken home and I am a much better person because of it.

Hi Krisneil. I am sorry to hear that and I can understand your feelings. No one wants a broken family. If you really believe that your parents can get together again, you need to take some action. Maybe you can do a little investigation on the third party and find out the reason why the affair happens between ye dad and her. Maybe it's just an obsession and your father is making a wrong decision by leaving your mother. Sometimes it's just the novelty and human being has this problem of aesthetic fatigue of seeing their partners everyday, but at last they will come back.

As long as you understand that it has nothing to do with you. I am divorced and I know that having my children be from a broken home was very upsetting to me. I did everything that I could to not have it happen. Sometimes it is not possible. Just try and keep a relationship with both parents. I can't say that is easy to do. You are an adult now and I am sure it does hurt but maybe your parents will be happier this way and your relationship with them might be closer. look for a support group. it might help to talk to other kids who have been through it.

Cheer up. You can communicate with your parents. Then you can help them to understand each other. And you should tell them your feelings and your ideas. Maybe your parents will take it serious and consider whether it deserves if they get separated. On the other hand, you are grown-up. You should repect your parents' decision. If your parents feel happy, you will feel happy. They will love you forever whether they get separated or not. So you needn't fell sad.

Well see this is not with you dear. its been with many of us, even with me..i also many times stay depressed even now i am depressed for those reasons they are never ending things, but if you make yourself go down feel broken, or feel sad no one going to come and hold your hand for help.. its only you who have to understand you, your family situations. if you tel people they are going to make a wrong impression on it. they will never take things in a right way always in a wrong because people are meant to think, talk, behvae in a wrong way and make your life misreable..dont loose your courage and confidence to go through lifes tough times. this is your only time when you can make a hard foundation for your coming future..dont wory i am also in this situations going everytime, but mine problems are slight diffrent..but almost similar and i am trying to perform my duties here, what ia m here for is more important for me than to see who is important for me..best luck i know you will be fine soon

well why dont you just create the things that you would like in a family for starters or what you would like to do to make those thoughts seem better .

Ask them if they both could go to counseling and pray together. Tell them all people fight and it's normal for them to get upset. Everyone gets upset. They just need to forgive each other and pray together. Families that pray together stay together. What is the third party issue? I never heard of that before? Did he cheat on her? Whatever the reason, they can work it out if they love each other and can forgive each other and promise not to hurt or betray that person again in that way.

Hello Krisneil, It is not my experience, my friend told me once that she was really worried about her mother when their parents got divorced, she was only 15 that year. I think you must feel upset when that happens for a while, time will cure. Don't take it personally. Although you are their son, I don't think you should get involved in this, this is their matter. For example, a friend of you and her girlfriend both are your very best friends, one day they split up, if they choose a separation. One thing you can do is to accept it and still being a good friend of them. You can work well in this part. Three of you still would live happily. Hope you accept the fact your mother would a divorce. Support your mother.

I read the response here while it is a good idea your parents already know that staying together should be what happens. You should remember that your parents are human as well as being parents. They have feelings and shouldn't be made to feel guilty about what they have chosen to do. You know it is not because of you they are separating. I would make sure that each of your parents know that you love each of them and although it hurts you to see them separate I would let each one of them know that you love them very much and that you understand that this is something that they feel that they have to do. My heart goes out to you. No matter how old a child is if their parents breaks up it is a hard thing to accept.

who wants to have a broken family anyway? But it is your mom's decision. She already know what she is doing. If they can't really work things out and your mom has really made up her mind to leave your dad then just support her and respect her decision. Anyway, she's the one who is much affected here and she needs your understanding and support. So, maybe you just have to talk to your mom if it would really have to come to that or better ask her if there is still a way for them to patch things up and if she really wants to leave your father then just let her do it. Who knows maybe when her scars are healed they might got back again, aite? Good Luck!

i'm sorry i accidentally pressed the post response button before finishing my post. as i said, it's normal..you have to take time to wait for all your wounds to heal...

of course it's normal that you feel bad and all that.

Hey Krisneil,dont worry everything will be fine.You try and try to make up between your parents because there's nothing like a family.Iknow you are grown up and can manage it but trust me bro its not that easy .TRY HARDER .And i dont know why ,but i feel that every thing will be fine and sooner or later ur parents will be one.

I'm sorry to hear how sad your situation is making you. You need to tell your parents how you feel and that you will always be there for both of them. You will get over it in time.