violence and celebrity

United States
March 3, 2009 8:26am CST
When you are a celebrity you have a certain "responsibility" that your actions have influence over some people. Especially your teenage fans. Do you think the fact that Rhianna has reconciled with Chris Brown sends a "message" to her female fans that it is acceptable to allow your boyfriend to beat you up? Maybe some might say that this is a private matter but as a celebrity the details of her life are in the open. I am sure she would rather that the media would not have found out this ugly incident even happened but it is out there. What do you think?
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6 responses
@shontia08 (846)
• United States
3 Mar 09
i think that she should stay as far away from him as she possibly can. there are a lot of girls, young girls, that look up to her and i think the way she handle this is very critical. there could be a fan out there of hers that have an abusive boyfriend and the decision that Rhianna make could very well influence that girl. i don't understand why she would even consider taking him back anyway. i hope love don't blind her, and that she will take this negative and turn it into something positive, by using what happen to her to reach out to other females and even some males to teach them that this is not ok and to not allow this to happen to them or to do this to anyone. what ever she decide i will be praying for her because she needs it. great topic by the way.
• United States
3 Mar 09
i know i feel bad for his mother too, i mean to be reminded of what she had to go through then to have her son be the one who is doing the abusing has to rough. hopefully he has taken this situation to heart and don't put his hands on another female again. i can't wait to see how things turn out for everyone involved.
• United States
3 Mar 09
it would be wonderful if she could turn this around and be a helpful influence. right now i am afraid she is a negative influence. it is too bad. she is a beautiful and talented young woman. i do pray for her. and also for him. i read where he grew up seeing his mom abused. it must be weighing on his mom right now. thanks so much for responding. people need to talk about this topic. we need to teach our sons and daughters that this is not acceptable behavior.
• United States
4 Mar 09
it would be nice (and maybe not realistic) if he would go for counseling, admit it is a problem he is working on and maybe do some public service announcements geared at his fan base to help them see this is wrong. she could do the same.
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
3 Mar 09
I never believe that Rihanna was actually get back together with Chris Brown. I wonder what she was thinking so that she did that. I mean, she shouldn't get back with him since he was really abusive and that would be a bad sign. Remember the case of Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee? The abusive behavior would go on and on and it would never stop. He did it once, he would do it again. Some girl never learn. I just hope that one day she would break up with him whether he beat her up again or not, because it is just a matter of time.
• United States
3 Mar 09
I forgot about Pam and Tommy! It is sad. Rhianna is beautiful and talented. I guess when you are on the outside looking in it is easy to make judgements. I can't relate to why you would allow someone to abuse you.
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
3 Mar 09
Yes. Pam and Tommy is a similar example for them to learn. It would never work no matter how. I can try to understand from the female's side because I have an aunt with the same experience. They said it was love which makes them survive, they hoped because there were love, they can change their partner into someone better. I don't know if it works or not but so far I can see that it never happened. The partner would never change to someone better. After months, "love" and "hope" would change to "scared" and "terrified". They don't want to stick together but they can't leave them because of the fear of bigger anger, worse treatment. Until one day, some people are lucky enough to get out from the "scared" and "terrified" state to "fight back", because most the women, the unlucky one would stuck in the "blind acceptance" stage.
• United States
3 Mar 09
In my mind it is some kind of a lack of self-esteem on the woman's part. To think that anyone is going to "change" especially when it is about violence is crazy. you can't change someone from that.
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
4 Mar 09
Personally I and many others are hoping that this does not turn into a situation like with OJ or Tina Turner that were BAD relationships that ended up costing lives or almost costing lives, and she really knows what she is doing. For me I hope this does not put a big tarnishment on her Career as well, as when you look at Whitney Houston and all she has had to go thru it almost ruined her. Personally I feel she is making a mistake because unless Chris is to get counseling this could only often esculate into something worse, and what will she do then? Was she really thinking, or just wanting to quit all the negative publicity or what? Seriously I guess we can only hope for the best.
• United States
5 Mar 09
people need to remember celebrity stories like tina turner's. she put an end to the abuse by LEAVING! i don't think you can stay and expect happily ever after. all we can do is hope for the best. thanks for your comments.
@DCMerkle (1281)
• United States
4 Mar 09
NuttyMomma, I heaqrd that brought up on the news the other night. Rhianna has really caused confusion for the teens and just set domestic violence back in a bad light. Domestic violence is a learned behavior and either her or her boyfriend Chris knows the deal. Chris was abused when he was a child so that fits the bill. There are many celebrities that have supported the laws that are for domestic violence and Rhianna had the chance to make a big difference in someones life. Domestic violence isn't all that new in the music industry or in Hollywood. Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton are two that I can think of that had their problems. Whitney Houston and Bobbie Brown went through the same thing and lets not forget OJ and his wife. I also saw that recently a wife of a NFL player was just released from doing a 6-7 year sentence for shooting her husband. She said that she did it in self-defense because he would attack her. I just hope that for Rhianna and CHris that things can be worked out and they both get help, but I've never seen a case where a couple like that were able to continue their relationship. DCMerkle
• United States
5 Mar 09
yes, mylotters have reminded me of a lot of celebrities victims of abuse. i think what is most disturbing in this case is that both rhianna and chris brown are idolized by young people who do look to them as an example. they are both hugely popular and talented but their way of dealing with this is not being handled well. it is in the public eye, they can't change that. hanging out at diddy's house is not positive. we need to continue to teach our kids that violence towards each other is wrong. i am sure that kids with a strong family base are taught this it is the ones who are lost and fall victim to idolizing these pop stars.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
3 Mar 09
well i think parents arent influance on thier kids as they should be, its should be sport or movies and music people. and i think she's dumb to go back with chris brown, he's a punk a&& but money talked and bs walks. if he was just any joe blow off the street they would locked him up
• United States
3 Mar 09
very true, there are different rules for celebrities.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
poor rihanna. but anyway, it's a common thing to happen among celebrities (violence i mean), they really should keep in mind that responsibility you were saying? cause they really have a major influence on their fans (especially to minors who are not that mature yet to think responsibly for themselves) - and though there are some personal issues involved that we audience don't hear out, it's safe to say that, without being unfair, - that's the price they pay for all the money they make and the consequence of being very popular.
• United States
5 Mar 09
very true and that's why it is so irresponsible of both of them to just be hanging out a diddy's. i understand that they probably are both in a lot of pain but they are painting a picture of acceptance of domestic abuse and like it or not they are role models. they need to own up to the responsibility of it.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
amen to that!