Should I really send her ?
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
United States
March 3, 2009 10:26am CST
My daughter was sent home from school about this time yesterday with a bm issue. SO she's been bouncing off the walls since lunch yesterday. Before I left I asked "do I really have to keep her home tomorrow?" School policy of 24hrs after last incident. Ok so fine my Aunt is like.... it's been 24 hrs send her after lunch so she gets 3hrs in of school. Seems like quite the bother to me.
Though I did leave a snarky message on their attendance line voice mail about why I was calling my child in.... "I'm calling in ________ in Mrs ______ 's class, she was sent home yesterday, she's right as rain happy as can be but school POLICY requires that I keep her home today & I'm not pleased when she's feeling fine"
In a way though since my other daughter has her pre-school class there around lunch to have my oldest pop out of the van & say HI to the teacher. I imagine I"m going to get a "why isn't she in class?" comment... then I'll explain about being sent home & jokingly ask her if I can send her to class !!
I under stand the policy for if they are really sick, they should stay home & things like feavers do come back sometimes. BUT my oldest gets bm problems if she drinks undiluted apple juice, so if she can make it to the bathroom with out incident/mess why does she got to stay home! GRRR
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13 responses
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
3 Mar 09
That was a ridiculous rule. Usually it is only for a fever. It's not like the child did it several times and is contagious. Sounds like the day care or school just doesn't want to be responsible. I can see day cares being picky and changing rules as they go but not a public school. I don't blame you for leaving a message like that. Mine would have been nastier. hehehe
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
4 Mar 09
I'd hate to leave a really nasty message as they aren't the ones who write the rules they just have to enforce them. Plus I have to face these folks til all my kids were out of that school. But I think it should be up to the parents discresion if they feel the child is ok to go back to go back.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
4 Mar 09
The principal can actually over ride the rule. You have to prove to him or her that your child had no fever and was not contagious. That's the only reason I would have been a little nastier. You have the right attitude though. I'm always being told to be nice when it concerns the overall well being of my kids. So you're lucky you have a built in thought processors when you are mad. LOL
@aidenofthetower (1814)
• United States
4 Mar 09
As long as it isn't horribly inconvenient to take her in and then pick her up, I would take her in. Even three hours will be enough for her to get some of her pent up energy out and to learn a little. On the other hand, she will just continue to bounce off the wall at home.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
4 Mar 09
Exactly and she gets her lil sister wound up too and then they eventually start fighting so that's just no fun playing referee a few more hours in the day than necessary.
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
4 Mar 09
If she was feeling fine the next day then she should have been allowed to go back to school sometimes I feel the schools have stupid crap rules just so they don't have to deal with the kids. I have to say that at the school my kids go to that if the kids are just a little bit over active hey lets test them for Adhd... They expect more out of kids now and give them less of a chance to be kids. Shakes head. I really get frustrated with the schools.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
4 Mar 09
I totally agree! They don't let them be kids and this no child left behind act is a PILE OF BS! I've heard from several teachers including my SIL who's a sub, that they base their ciriculum (sp?) off of the test. Not what they NEED to know but that flip'n test.
That's insane bout the ADHD... they expect them to sit there & pay attention for enormous amts of time. I don't know about you but didn't they say that A CHILD'S ATTENTION SPAN IS AS LONG AS THEIR AGE? Correct me if I'm wrong on that one. SO making them concentrate for more then 20 min is futile.
@koalatbs (2229)
• United States
4 Mar 09
Hi 3SnuggleBunnies - I know it is extremely frustrating, especially if you are a working mom and have to miss a day of work because of it. However, I used to work in daycare for many many years & it is policy. It is to protect the other kids just in case the child does have a virus or something. The last thing the school or daycare wants is for it to work its way around the whole classroom and/or school and tons of kids & teachers getting sick. Now, mind you, your daughter probably just had a little stomach upset, maybe from something she ate or drank, but, then again, maybe not. The school has to be safe than sorry. You have to understand where they are coming from too. I know you're upset but try to hang in there today and she can go back tomorrow. Hope she feels better.
Jill
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
4 Mar 09
My daughter was wild and crazy within an hour or two.
I understand the rules but I do think if they know their child and are not sending them so they don't miss work ect but because the child is fine then they should allow for it.
Forgive me if I mentioned it on here in another post but another grandparent dropping the grandchild off ADMITTED that the grandchild had been up during the night vomitting but sent her anyway per the mom's wishes. Now how is that saving MY CHILD when she's sending her sick grandchild and I'm following the rules ya know? It's just frustraiting.
@scarletwitch12 (562)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
Do you remember times when you ate something that really didn't agree with you and left you rushing for the toilet every half hour for a couple of days? Now imagine if it happened to a child. Then, imagine you are the teacher of that child and he/she is in class when the "unfortunate event" happened. That is the basis for policies like the one you have mentioned. Some schools require students to rest for a little while longer so that they could avoid circumstances which would be difficult for the teacher and embarrasing for the child. As with other policies, there are situations when the condition does not require more time but since it is one and the same, some schools do not bother to make any exception to the rules.
I understand your frustration with your child missing school and all but these policies are there for a reason. While it is true that your child's condition does not call for her running to the bathroom often, it would still be advisable to be sure that the child is fine before she went back to school because it is still better for the child do their "business" at home since it prevents embarassment in school.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
4 Mar 09
She was sent home due to an embarassing event 2 weeks prior and the healthroom aid had to clean her up completely. So I dunno if they were fearing it was the same thing?
I also think since there has been a virus circulating thru the school and the aid admitted they were sending a minimum of 3 kids home a day with the same symptoms for weeks that they clean the school throughly as well. And permit them appropriate amts of time for handwashing prior to lunch and potty breaks. As I highly doubt teacher runs around while the kids are in music or art sanitizing the tables and desks for her students when she knows there have been ill kids.
@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
3 Mar 09
That is a dumb policy. They shouldn't just have a blanket time on every sickness. They should assess each child's case as they come in. For some, they may need to stay home for a week if they are really sick, for others they could be ok in a matter of hours. Sounds like the school set up this blanket policy so they don't have to figure out each kid one by one.
At my school, we went home sick and came back the next day! The teachers never bothered to say we HAD to stay home, it was always the parents choice.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
4 Mar 09
Nope if they have bm, vommiting, or fever they have to stay home until 24 hours after the last incident had occurred. Ok so the last incident was like an hour after they sent her home.....
It's not like she didn't know like she was really ill where she'd blow out her pants or anything but goodness gracious!
@mammamuh (582)
• Sweden
3 Mar 09
I would say that the school had a point ....
If you've got a stomach flu - it's contigious 48 hours after you get well - the best thing in those cases is to keep the whole family at home 48 hours after every one is healty again - that and keeping children home a day ocr two exrta would really be good and they wouldn't get sick as often as they do.
AT my childrens schools there were stomach flu going around over and over again - just because people can't keep their kids at home. Some even sends the kids to day care / school if they've been throwing up during the night.
It's not easy for the school to know if your child had a virus or not.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
4 Mar 09
I agree with a child having to stay home if they are running a fever because when a person is running a fever, they aer the most contagious. I do not agree with the policy being enforced with aproblem such as you are dealing with. I think that if your daughter is doing just fine, she should be able to go to school. Maybe, you can gt a doctor to write a note explaining her problem and also explaining that it is not contagious and she is just fine to be in school. Maybe you could send an extra set os clothes with her just in case she doesn't quite make it to the bathroom. I know that my kids' school not only allow tha, but they also keep extra clothing in the nurse's office just in case.
@Jae2619 (1483)
• United States
4 Mar 09
School policies are funny sometimes. They are put in place to protect other children, and though we know our kids best, they don't. So they see this as a thing that could be harmful to others. She could have picked up a stomach virus, or it could have just been a day of the runs from something not settling with her tummy. If my son was sent home from school, I would keep him home for the whole 24 hours, even if he didn't have any runs the next day, just to be safe because I would hate to have any accidents at school.
@grammpaula (121)
• United States
3 Mar 09
I think if a child has a fever they should be kept home for 24 hours. It sounds like your daughter just ate or drank something that didn't agree with her and she wasn't actually sick. I don't see why she should have been able to go back to school unless she was still having the problem today. It isn't like she threw up and as sick at school.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
3 Mar 09
Nope no puking just runny bm's when she went to the potty w/ a lil belly ache. It's not like she couldn't make it to the potty either. Oh & I forgot to mention there's been a virus running rampid thru the school for atleast the past month or so and they've been sending home 3+ kids a day cause of it. Now if she wasn't able to make it to the bathroom then fine she filled her pants we'll get her cleaned up ect and have her rest ect. But again she gets like this when she eats something high in fiber to her system so it's not out of the ordinary.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
4 Mar 09
True... however in her case she had no feaver. Just one trip to the potty with a lil belly ache. Who can't say that they've never had a lil tummy ache before they went BM? Doesn't mean your sick every time.
