i am so fed up!!!!!

the least i could do if i were you is kinda stay away for a while..find an institution or support group where I could get real help and who could help me get through this..i'll probably go to a church fellowship because i believe church people have less stress to offer plus they could give you spiritual guidance too and it will be a good place to raise your kid :) Godblez!

Stay away that is never a good family and your daughter will be safer, and you more relaxed .

You need to get out and stand on your own two feet. Don't expect anything positive to come fromn your family. They can do nothing for you until they help themselvesand I doubt that's about to happen. These people are toxic. It's that simple and they are breaking the law. Call the cops and turn them in. Someone has to take a stand here and it might as well be you...do it before something bad happens.

I'm sorry that you have to be dealing with that. You don't need that in your life. Is there anyway they can all get help from this? I wished that they can see how you are feeling from all of this but if they can't then maybe you can live away from them for a bit until your child becomes older? I'm wish I can give you better advice but all I can send is my wishes. Best of luck.

First off I really don't no what your situation is. It sounds like to much drama for you. You have a new born! you need to focus on that. Honestly if I was you I would Tell them Not to call or stop by enless there sober or strait or you will get a restraining order on them. and tell them you dont want them around you if there going to bad mouth each other.

Addicts hurt everyone :( The real issue here is their addiction, they all need to get help. You and the innocent children involved are going to continue to get hurt until they do so. It's awful to think about your nieces/nephews being taken away but maybe that's what needs to happen to keep them safe until your sister gets it together. Good luck to you, your little one is lucky to have you!

You should be spared from their problems especially that you have just given birth. Your child is so innocent, protect her and don't let the history repeat it to her. You better tell them that not to bother you anymore with their problems and if worse is to come, tell them that you are to report them to authorities.

I think that you yourself are under a lot of pressure and stress as you are dealing with a new born baby, and from what it sounds your first. I think that you have the right to remove yourself from them for a short period and explain to them that you can't deal with the drama right now as you are raising a child, and also explain to them that their habits are harming not only them, and their relationship with each other but their relationship with you and possibly your daughter as you don't want her to be raised in a situation as they are having now. I hope that you can get this resolved soon as I am sure it's not helping anyone. Have a wonderful day.

If you are old enough, you can get your own place. Do you have a job? If so, I hope that it brings in enough money so that you can move. Can you check out what type of assistance is available in your county? So, your mom is doing the same thing as her own daughter. I am so sorry to hear that. DSS will take her kids if she does not get her act together! I hope that both your sister and mom will wake up and get it together. You don't have to go through this. Find a place of your own to live, and that will help you out the most. You and your daughter both deserve much better. This all here, is very unstable for you and your daughter to be living in. Do something about it so that you won't be caught up in this predicament. Get some help for you, your daughter, sister and mom.. I will be prayong for you all!

Unfortunately we are given the luxury of choosing our families, fate plays its hand and we are placed in the lives of people that if they were not family you would not associate with on a daily or even weekly basis. Your family does sound like there is some serious dysfuction, and enabling going on. Sometimes what you really need to do is seperate yourself from them if you think what they are doing is going to have a negative impact on yourself or even worse an innocent child. I feel for you and I do understand where you are coming from. In the past two years I had to seperate myself from my father and my step mother for other reasons, but I did not want the dysfunction in that family rubbing off on my children either so for their sake I made a choice that was difficult to make but when it comes to children nothing is too great a sacrifice! I know this may not make it feel any better and there are times that I really miss my father but I realise that what I am doing in the best intrest of my children and myself as well.

Hi super_mommy...First of all let me say its great at such a young age that you can see and disagree with the dysfunction in the family rather than get involved..This is the first step. I think you do need to make the decision to let go of your family for now..not in your heart, but in listening to them and being involved in their pandamonium. You seem like a sensible person who has a young baby who very much needs your undivided love and attention. You cant do this properly if the rest are stressing you out. It is not fair to you or the baby. I would let your family know what you are doing and why..Tell them just once. Leave them with info on where to get help..maybe write down your feelings in words on paper and give it to them......Then go.. Once you are settled somewhere else..you can seek help in how to deal with this if the going gets tough. I also think for the sake of your sisters children, you have to contact DSS again and let them know this is still going on. Just as you need to get out of a bad situation, so do the children. Just remember it is difficult but you cant take on the world...You are doing it because you love the children and no other reason. Perhaps some day your family will get the help they need and come around. Until then, make a life thats safe and secure for you and your child and free from the stress. Life gives enough of its own with adding some. Good luck and hoping everything turns out for the best!

I moved 1500 miles away. Seriously. Now whenever my mom calls, she is all sweetness because she never gets to see me or my kids. She remembers to send birthday cards and even sent a big box at Christmas. Lots of job opportunities in Kansas.....

Its totally understandable that your very upset about this situation. If it was me I would have a seriouse sit down discussion with my family. Clearly you dont want to have to cut them out of your life. But what there doing could be harmfull to you and your baby. I would talk to them and let them know how their decisions are affecting you and that if it keeps up you wont be able to have contact with them since you want your daughter to not have that type of influences around her. Hope this helps :)

live your life to the fullest!! always be happy!! smile for a while!!

Super_Mommy, I am really sorry for you and I am just amazed that you are still alive here. First of all, it would be wise for you to take care of yourself and start looking for some feasible solutions for your family. You may want to visit your local family services and see if there is a way to solve your home's problem. If you are in school, you may want to approach your form teacher and let them know what is happening to you. See if there is a way for you to continue your academics without the distractions from your family's dysfunction and prepare yourself for some scholarship or bond programs to complete your education. Be resourceful, go online or physically go about looking what and how the various welfare service bodies will be able to and of help to your family's current situation. You may need to be prepared to see separation with your nephews and nieces as they go to a welfare homes. Not only do you need to be courageous but to be objective as well, I mean 4 children with a mother that literally is neglecting them along with their grandmother is just unthinkable and I do not think you will disagree with me here that they (children) would be better cared for at the homes. Hope you be more logical than emotional here. Just be brave, ever resolve to survive and face your challenges face on. Take care and if it is at all possible - keep us updated.

That is a real serious situation you are in and I don't know the right words to say... maybe you can try to seek for professional help. Intervene if you have too. I think its very nice of you to protect you daughter like that! At least someone in your family is going to be a good role model for that child...

Sad to hear that. You have made the first good decision. Let the authorities know the situation. You will get some nice suggestions from them. Pray for your sister and her own family. Take care.

I think u should stay away from them in a healthy place, work there and look after your daughter properly. As you love your mom and sister as well, visit their place once or twice a week. That way you won't miss them much and they can also realise their follies and can change their lifestyles. What is most important for you at this stage is to look after your daughter and gift her a healthy and peaceful future.