A Special Friend (Second Chance 2)

A special friendship can be good with someone you once loved but I think sometimes it holds you back from moving on. I think sometimes it is best you leave the past behind and open new doors..there is always new people to meet.

hello llonorra! I do believe that if you were meant for each other, even if time will separate you, then time as well will lead you closer to each other, but as for now, you better move-on, open you heart to others. God always wants the best for us, just be positive, there maybe a special someone that deserved more on your love, someone who could love you the same amount you gave. anyway making him special friend of yours will not be the key of moving on, don't get me wrong... but as long as your connected with him, you will never get chance of letting go the past... I'm not mentioning here to just leave your past with him hunging (I mean you will not treat him as part of you). He has the right to be your friend, and you to him. but don't allow that friendly-relationship to block you way of moving another step of your love-life.... ;)

this is a question of if you can handle it or not, if being his friend will only remind you of what was and should still be then your are not in an emotional state right now to be his friend, but if you can handle just being his friends without every thinking of anything more and going out and dating and living your life as if he is not a central part of it then it will be okay, but I think your emotions are too raw at the moment and the first option is the best one, but it really is up to you hon, how you feel you can handle it.

Look I would say its very tricky situation.Something related to love, relation, Ex etc should be handled with care. Emotionally you may want him in life forever. But then whatever may be the reason, he is not able to continue the relation. If being a friend is possible, then well and good. But are you sure if anyone come sto his life, she will not have any problem?

I am really sorry it has not worked out the way you had hoped.Having a special friend is a wonderful thing and you never know it may develop more for him.He is being honest with you which is a great thing to be.You cannot force what is not there so if someone else comes along you are free to do as you want.He could have kept you hanging on for years but he did not he has set you free.You will get over this in time,love suzzy3xx

Hi there, looks like you too had a good talk. Maybe just take one day at a time, if it is meant to be it will be. There is nothing wrong with friendship, friendship can eventually grow into something else, if it is meant to be. But, if you are looking for marriage, then waiting might not be the choice. We all have special friendships in our lives. That is a decision you have to make. Don't give up your hopes and dreams just to sit around and wait for him to come around.

Hi my friend Llonorra, well it made me saddened when I read what happened. Maybe it is not the right time, and it wasn't meant to be. But anyway you both still are friends. Time will just tell maybe we don't know. Love sometime doesn't mean he doesn't love you just to let it go, it's very hard when you love the person and just setting it free with reasons that is hard to understand. I know that is kind a harsh and really hard thing to do. Sometime it's only space and time will tell when he is ready to fight what he feels for you. I also think what life he could give you, with the life now that is very hard. His really weighing things and what is best for you, cause he loves you. Please don't take it negatively my friend. Still he rather be around and see how are you, are you fine. The concern are still there my friend. Anyway God will always guide you both. There is a word in the bible that say IN TIME my friend. It's up to you and respect your decision if your just gonna feel bad , pretending your not hurt and will just have a hard time to go on, just not to prolong the hurt and it will be easy to move on go a head. If not your still gonna go on and let time tell, and still stick with it just not to let go the friendship, it's also up to you. Love is patience, and kindness, and even though how it hurts, you will carry on and trying to understand even it's very hard. Have a nice day to you my friend! Take care always!

I feel sad for you Llonorra. why should love be so cruel to you? What does special mean to him? With or without that special condition attached love should be blind to all those barriers. Love is innocent and should bind two hearts together to really feel the beauty of true love. Yet, he still finds you special but is afraid to commit. I would say he is no gentleman and should you accept if I tell you to let go of him and find someone who really can share your life and love regardless of what condition you are in. You are a special woman which God has destined you to be and you must be thankful that you are full of love that is so pure and is only waiting for the right person to share. Thinking of that person who doesn't deserve to be loved is only torturing your mind and heart. So let go...painful it might be but he is not fated to be yours in the end. God bless you Llonnorra

I think if you would still continue treating him special it will just hinder what must suppose to take place in you as person, and that is the "moving on" part. If you will still text him and treat him special, then you have this thin line of either falling in love with him again or hopelessly devoting yourself (since he told you to never leave his side) to him thinking that a time will come that he will be brave enough to fight for your love. And that is miserable, especially for a woman. I think if a man really loves a woman, he will make that happen in spite and despite of any conditions he will face. Nothing can stop a man if he really wants to be with the woman he loves. Remember, there is a reason why this thing happened between you, if he is not for you, there are other man who will make your reality happen, be patient.

hi llonora, There is a saying that if a person is really determined to do something, he will find lots of way to do it. However, once a person is so unwilling to do something,there are so many reasons why he cannot do it. Regarding with your special friend, my opinion is this. The special conditions both you and your special friend has is never a hindrance on the relationship each of you is both sharing.There are so many cases in which both person has disabilities but still have a very strong love for each other.You can read it on magazine, hear on radio or watch on tv. It is because if love is true, it will never see the disabilities each one has. If love is so strong, it will overcome any obstacles that might come along the way. True love is not base on physical attributes alone. In fact, it goes deeper to the extent that no matter how imperfect the physical appearance is, it does not affect that much on the one who is loving.What matter for that person is the heart of the one he or she loves. What matters is the attributes within. I just hope that time may come that your special friend will realize this.I am sincerely wishing for your happiness, my friend. Happy mylotting!

I'm not sure if you mean special friend as in that confident friend, or if you mean friend's with benefits. I wouldn't give him the friend's with benefits. If he is just wanting to stay friends because he feels you work best as friends, I'd say continue it if you are in an emotional state to do so. Sometimes it can be hard to just turn off the feelings for someone, and being friends isn't worth the anguish, especially once he starts dating someone else.

hello ,dear friend, i do not know your first presentation about yout "specail",but from yout two long passage guessing that you r loving so hard enough,and i do not know even if your all "special "to each other,then you can marry to live together,but if he doesn't love enough to fight for you love ,i suggest that you had better leave away him soon,now you feel that he do love u very much ,can you think that after marry he can love u more?in fact the case we have heared of it ,but ladies how many seccessful case to show us ,why do want ot risk?really i do not hope ever girl was destroed by the love

HI Llonorra how are you? very confused i must say.see i wanna say you many things but cant understand your special condition ,are you both married with some one else,or comitted to any one else if yes then my dear freind i advise to stay away from him though he is very honest to tell u that he dont wanna show u false hopes,this SPECIAL FREINDSHIP will definetly create problems in ur lives.if u both are unmarried then y dont you get married if u love each other so much pls tell me the whole thing i seriously wanna know.but if u both cant meet leave the relation with a beutifull turn rather to finish it with a worse end.

In all honesty.. there's a reason they are called EX's. Unless the reason or reasons that ended the relationship the first time have changed, the same problems are going to be there. While I don't know the extent of your relationship a certain phrase comes to mind... A leopard doesn't change it's spots and a snake can't grow no legs. while it's improper english the phrase says it all. Good luck with whatever happens

If you feel that he doesn't love enough to fight for your relationship, then he isn't the guy for you. Or maybe he is the guy for you, but the timing isn't right. He may come to realize in the weeks and months ahead that he does want to be more than a friend to you.