what would you do if hubby wants to quit job?

My fiancee has her own business to manage, I told her regarding my problem with my job, and I am getting sick and tired of it and not happy, I was honest to what I am feeling with my work with her, she just made a smile. She only said this God will make a way, if you think your not happy what will make you happy that I will respect. Sometimes it's an ego of the man if her spouse or girlfriend will be working first for a while to provide for the family. But for my fiancee is like what is important is what is best for me, to feel happy about myself with what I am gonna do with my life, and be the best. God has always something for all of us and he will make a way. Have a nice day to you! God bless!

we seem to be in a similar dilemma. My hubby recently got "bypassed" and another employee who has been in the company for a shorter time than him had been promoted for a position that was meant to be for my hubby. I hated this and I know that my hubby got hurt and I didn't want him to be staying in a job that he hates. I talked to him about it and he said that if he has another option, he would quit the job. It turns out that he does have another option and he's just waiting for everything to be in place and he's going to transfer in a different division in the company. He said that even if he hated being in the same division that ignored his seniority in the company, he also didn't want our financial standing to suffer. So, for the meantime, he's staying but only because we can't afford him not having a job. I have a job myself but my earnings would not suffice our needs. Maybe your husband should start looking for plan B first and iron it out before quitting his present job. Times are tough and it's not easy to find a new job. But it is always safe to have a plan B. Both of you know that your hubby wants to quit his job. But what happens to your finances if he does? If he's lucky and finds a new job to transfer too, then by all means, he can quit the present job he has. But if you have a baby coming, you can't start using your savings for operational expenses. Hope this helps!

There is little harm in discarding a paid job to attend seriously to a profitable business. It would in turn make you earn more ...in service none of the people have prospered much.

Somehow, I think I can relate to your present dilemma. Not that my spouse is also thinking of quitting his job; but it's the other way around. My husband had been in an unstable job for quite a long time now. Of course I am encouraging him to seek for better ones but the positive result seems to be quite elusive. Long story short, he always comes back to the job he has now. By the way, he is employed by his uncle for almost 10 years now, on and off. For this whole duration of time, I must admit that I'm the one shouldering our daily expenses including utility bills, meals, fares, and everything in between. I must admit that this is one of our issues because he doesn't give me his earnings for several months now. Just last week, our company has already given us a notice of separation which indicated that our employment will have to end by the last day of this month (March 31, 2009). Call me selfish, but I feel that it's about time that I take a rest for a while and let him work and feed the family. Unlike us, I feel that you're quite fortunate because you do have savings. Anyway, I'd suggest that you encourage him to be patient for a while in his current job. While he's at it, he might want to look for other ways to earn income before finally letting go of the present one. I guess it would be a totally different story if he was still single. Moreover, the global financial crisis will definitely affect you specially when a new addition to your family is already born to the world. It's good that you have savings and you're earning online, but even then, I don't think it will last you a lifetime. I don't mean to sound so pessimistic about it, but having a child in the family has its benefits or perks along with responsibilities attached to it.

Let your hubby wait for sometime until the baby is born.Ask him to do some researches of the oppurtunities open for him either for a new business or going for a new job.For,it is always not easy to come out from a known business and achieve quickly in a new one.If he fails,your little kid will be cursed by some cruel hearted relations.So.don't rush up.look for the chances,wait till the baby comes and later after some months,ask him to switch over.Hearty welcome for your cute baby.Cheers!

Maybe different people have different thoughts. I am ready for our firstborn too.And my husband strive more hard than before to earn more money.He just want to make me feel stable and give a good growing environment for baby. I can understand your feeling.Did you have communicated with your husband? And if he dislike the recent job, did he plan to turn to another one instead just stay in home? Good luck and Happy mylotting.

It is not a good news, to be frank. As your husband's salary is the main income, especially you will have baby anytime. Having a money really costs a lot of money. Lately the economy isn't very good. I am afraid it's hard to find another job during this bad time. I also understand that it sucks since your husband doesn't like his job. In fact many people don't enjoy the job, too. But we have to make a living and we have to do something we don't like. Everybody has the responsibility for the family. Perhaps you can talk to your husband and see whether he can stand it for some time for the sake of his family. Meanwhile he can also try to find another job. Just don't quit it when there is no backup. All the best!

Is the business with his family that job, or is it something on the side he is doing, and wants to quit his job to spend more time with you and on that venture? Honestly this is not a good time for him to quit his job and it is not a good time for him to be putting that kind of stress on you, with the baby coming soon. Tell him if he can figure out a way that he can quit his job without your finances suffering then he can, but otherwise he needs to stick it out, at least until you are able to back to earning what you are capable after the baby is born and you are all settled and ready.

Hello Spoiled, I just thought that I would let you know I also responded to your other discussion on this topic. I am very sorry he has lost his job but am very glad that his income was for savings. I know that you have said you'd most likely be busy and I have to agree. I know on the other discussion I had stated getting him to mylot, but is he good at writing? Could he write articles for you either on your account or his own? Even so, you could try to schedule times when the baby is sleeping to critique him before he submits and so as to make the most of it. May I ask you how much you make each month? My fiance and I are without a job and need the money, however we don't want to go over $600.00 in USD. To answer your question, I think that if my fiance, future husband wanted to quit his job I would say "go for it" as I know that sometimes work can be too stressful. I quit my job, with his encouragement, in October of '07. It was the best choice I made! I don't make as much, but am not concerned with that, lol so much... Again, Have a wonderful day.

Well i'm not married yet, but i hope i can help a little bit If there is a feeling uncomfortable when working, then quite is just find, but you must consider looking another job that is more better than current job or making a new own business from your savings maybe, but you might be find the same old feeling with the new job, the matter is you must find a way to love your job so you will find a way to earn more if the times come Have a good luck

I can understand you concern Spoiled. I admire that you both want him to take a chance to a job/career that will make him happier. I guess the thing to really look at here is you are maintaining your expenses through what you do. Your husband's income all went into savings. So, in all reality, you are the bread winner here. With the baby coming you stated that he will be able to spend more time with you and your new little one. To be honest if he can lend a hand with the daily care of your little one, then you can maintain your work and steady income. The way I see it is, you already are maintaining your household with what you make. If this new job helps him be happier, healthier and able to spend more time with you? I think you have an added bonus here. I also agree that sometimes we need to give way and trust in the man up stairs. Peace to you and yours.

hi,spoiled, i can understand your feeling, as a woman, we want to our bubby suceessfull,have stable income every month at least. after all we have to expense for aspect of life. especialy with the coming of the baby. i have no idea, just hope your life happy.

I would take him aside and really discuss all the pros and cons of him quitting his job. If he has another job lined up that pays better, then I, myself, wouldn't really have a problem with it. From the sound of it that doesn't seem to be the case. To raise a family it takes a lot of money, I'm learning that now with my first child. I myself have a job, and am doing work from home part-time. My husband is working full time and its still a struggle sometimes. I know it sucks to ask your guy to keep working at a job that no longer holds interest to him, but sometimes its the only thing you can do to survive in this world where prices fluctuate.

If i were you i would talk to him about it and tell him that if he really wants to quit his job he should atleast wait until the baby is born, and the he could think about quitting.

My husband is currently in China... and i know he wants to resign so that he can be with his daughter... but doing that is out of the question... because we have debts to pay... and a daughter who will ge going to school in a couple of years... We all need to sacrifice something in our lives... be it some of the things that make us happy... so to answer your question... i don't really know how i will react or what i will do if my husband resigns from his current job... I think after the shock... i will just work harder... and find other ways to earn more...

I suggest that your husband should find employment first before quitting his job. Maybe he can file a leave of absence first and while on leave find a better job that will make him happy. Good luck to all of you.

I think it is an issue which requires lot of thinking and discussion.I am also facing this kind of situation in my life.My husband has been working in a private concern and his boss is just disgusting.He does not have the etiquette to talk to his employees and my husband has to face humiliation everyday for some reason or the other.He is planning to quit his job but i have discussed with him and come to the conclusion that he should quit it only after getting another employment as it would be difficult for me to manage the financial affairs solely.We have a baby and i want to give him the best of everything.Now is is exploring other opportunities and as soon as he finds favorable one he will leave his present job. I think it should be wise if he tries for some opportunities before closing down his existing business and invest your savings so these can be channelized into fixed earning schemes for you.

i truly believe that if he is not happy with his job now, he should at least try to find another one, before quiting that one, at least let him know how important it is for him to maintain a job, just because of the baby that's coming into the world