What is wrong with him?
By bamrahkirti
@bamrahkirti (1821)
India
March 4, 2009 3:58am CST
I have been married for the past two years and my relationship with my husband has seen lots of ups and downs but we have managed to survive on each and every occasion.Life is proving to me like a roller coaster but ups and downs in my life are making me stronger and determined.
My husband is very introvert in nature and does not open up easily and it has been really hard to persuade him to do or not to do something.Of late i have been finding his habit of going alone in functions and parties.Since the time i have been married ,i had gone with him on two occasions i remember and that too were family functions but he never wants me to accompany him for parties arranged by his friends.All of his friends go with their partners but he has never asked my company and goes alone.I feel very hurt but do not have the courage or inclination to talk about this with him.
I just do not understand his modus operandi of doing this.
My husband is very introvert in nature and does not open up easily and it has been really hard to persuade him to do or not to do something.Of late i have been finding his habit of going alone in functions and parties.Since the time i have been married ,i had gone with him on two occasions i remember and that too were family functions but he never wants me to accompany him for parties arranged by his friends.All of his friends go with their partners but he has never asked my company and goes alone.I feel very hurt but do not have the courage or inclination to talk about this with him.
I just do not understand his modus operandi of doing this.6 responses
@anujain75 (1059)
• India
4 Mar 09
hi bamarakirti you should talk to your husband boldly regarding this.I will fall in same situation when I am newly married and what I found is that one of his friend's wife is close to my hubby and she didn't like it.
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
4 Mar 09
OMG it is too bad.I think i should speak to him and discuss with him about his behavior.
Thank you for your concern
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
4 Mar 09
I think you are right i really should know what is in his mind and i should disclose him how i feel about his this behavior.
Thanks for your response.Your words mean a lot to me.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Well nothing is going to change unless you speak up and let him know that it hurts when he don't invite you to go with him. Ask him why. Tell him you would like to get out every once and a while as well. Communication...That is the key! He may think you don't want to go or you enjoy staying home. How is he to know how you feel unless you let him know. Simply go up to him and ask him "why don't you ever invite me to go with you when you go out?" That should start the conversation and then let him know it hurts that he don't ask. Seems as though he don't want to spend time with you.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Does his friend know he is married? Have you ever done something embarassed with him in front of the people? I'm sure you don't feel good about that... I would talk to him and see why is that if I were you. Be brave! :-)
@siteumnome (81)
• Portugal
4 Mar 09
you have to find the courage to talk with him. I like to take my grilfriend everywhere i go. You have to do it.
