when your husband wants to resign, would you support him?
By spoiled311
@spoiled311 (5500)
Philippines
March 4, 2009 5:01am CST
hiya all!
i just want to pose this question to you. "when your husband wants to resign from his job, would you support him?"
here is the deal. i am giving birth anytime this month. but my husband, who has been working in a call center for like 4 months now, wants out. he just can't take the pressure anymore. he gets sick often, like colds and cough, and would sometimes call for undertime because he is dizzy. his schedule is not graveyard, but is bad enough, like 4am, and he has to wake up around 2:30am for that.
anyway, his schedule now is 12nn to 9pm. but his feelings get worse everyday, and nothing, even the coming baby, could no longer seem to motivate him. the bad thing is, it is not just the schedule, but the requirements of the company. since he works for a call center, it is the company that hired his company that sets the rules. and the rules are very stringent. and after each call, they could not even finish their notes because there is another call on queue and they need to take it immediately. the worse is, their average handling time should not go beyond 11 minutes, and they could have a minimum of transfers to other departments, even though the call is not for them.
but sometimes, calls can last up to 2 hours, especially if the client really wants the problem resolved. and that affects their efficiency. it seems the company just wants short calls without having the issue resolved.
anyway, i feel bad for my husband and i already told him today that the sooner he can resign the better. i think we can still manage. i would not want an unhappy husband. the pay is bad as well, so it is not worth the hours.
i just believe that God will provide for us another alternative to earning.
so how about you?
how would you feel? what would you do?
take care all and God bless you! :-)
happy mylotting!
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14 responses
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Yes, I would. It seems like the longer your husband stays in that job the more miserable he's going to become and that's not good for anyone especially with a new baby in the house. The money might be tight if he quits but as my mom says (although she doesn't apply this to herself just everyone else she knows) "better happy than rich".
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
Really hard to decide for your situation but then should he get sick, his earnings might just cover his medical expenses it's just right to support him. You're husband is aware of your condition that if he could only bear with his work, he will do so. Just pray to God to bless you a new job for him. Wish you safe delivery and a good health for your husband, you and the baby. Nothing is impossible with God, With your faith, he will provide.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
Well, I do agree with you. God will surely provide. I am a husband, there was a time that I was really frustrated with my job. When I told my wife that I am no longer happy, and I want to resign, she was with me all the way. I had her full support. Now, the situation is reverse, my wife is working in a company and she is no longer happy with her work. There are certain policies that no longer tolerable in so far as her personal character are concerned and she opened it up to me. So, she wanted to resign.... I am with her all the way.
@clover1308 (58)
• Australia
5 Mar 09
Hi there,
I have the same problem with you. My husband doesn't like to work in the company that he's working with at the moment. It is all because that they didn't treat him well, lots of pressure, many days with long hours and overtime without any pay. This situation is really bad for him and sometimes it affects to our relationship. It has been almost a year we are dealing with this situation. Several times he's trying to leave with applying another job in a another company. We always pray that God will help us and we are sure that He'll give us what we need at the perfect time. So we just put everything to The Lord and let Him handle this situation. I always support my husband and encourage him because that is all that we can do as a good wife. I hope your situation is getting better and congratulations for the newborn baby. Hope he / she is healthy. Happy family and wish you all the best!!
It's a cute pomeranian picture by the way, i love it!
@lucy19851120 (261)
• China
5 Mar 09
hello,it's a family problem really,from the above ,you have find some unfit points and uncomfortable ones,then i think you had better reconsider it ,if for me ,the same husband ,i will persaude him to resign it.
@kekoanaoa (7)
• United States
5 Mar 09
call me new to this.. which i am. lol. but i think that if hes unhappy, then he shouldn't be there. i know from experience that its the hardest thing to get up every morning and just hate that you hafta go to work.. my fiance didn't like his job. he even got into it with his boss (at the end). but from the start of that job turning and he just not wanting to be there. i was behind him, 110%. sure we did struggle a little.. but i'd rather have him happy. eventually he got something good and hes excited about it. i'm glad he left.
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
4 Mar 09
In this time of recession and unemployment, he'd better be thankful he has a job and hang onto it, at least until he can find something he likes better. There are very few people who actually love their jobs, but they keep plugging away at them, because they come in handy for paying the bills. It's easy to find a lot of things not to like about any job, but not so easy to find another job he's going to like better. Tell him to appreciate what he has and to keep the job until he finds a different one. Some income is better than no income unless you guys are independently wealthy.
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
4 Mar 09
I think you should support him, help him look for something else. I know in our case that me insisting that my husband stay in a job he hated because I was too worried about money to realize just how miserable he was, almost cost me my marriage. Pray together as a couple, and see where the Lord leadsy ou.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Your husband's stress sounds terrible and it's true that stress can make you physically sick but both of you have to be logical about this. Is there a good possiblity of him finding another job...or two if he can't get fulltime? Does he have health insurance? If he does he really should wait until after the baby is born...especially if there are complications. Are you financially able to go a couple of months with no income? If he quits he may be denied unemployment benefits and even if he does get them, it will take a while before they come. Do you have anyone to turn to for loans if you need them? I'm not expecting you to answer all of these questions...they're just something you and your husband need to think about. Good luck. 
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
4 Mar 09
I understand your dilemma, I have been out of work since June last year. My husband took a sales job, and he was so stressed out from it. He kept pushing, because he knew that we needed the money. The company would schedule appointments for him, sometimes there would be two appointmensts scheduled for the same time, and they could be 25 to 50 miles apart. When the weather was snowy, it made it impossible for him to meet his schedules.
It seems like since he was a minority, they would send him to impoverished areas, where people really didn't have the money to spend. So because of not reaching his quotas, they fired him. I was happy that he no longer had the stress from the job, but on the other hand we are sinking fast because of the lack of money.
If you think that you can make it without his salary, then for his peace of mind and sanity I would suggest he resign, and try to find something else.
Good luck with your new baby.
@KatieDidit (989)
• United States
4 Mar 09
I'd support him quitting but he should look for another job now while he still has one. Employers see you as more employable or desirable as an employee if you already have a job than if you're unemployed looking for one.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
Hello there Spoiled311, my hubby works at a call center too. It is really stressful for having his schedule change from time to time. Sometimes i used to wait for him at 4am so we can have our dinner. I got used of his schedule because most of the time, his work is at night, and comes home early morning.
Like you, i am concern about his health too. He never gained any weight at all whatever i cook for him and vitamins he take. But i thanked God that he is not having sickness, God is giving Him strength on his everyday job. Their company allows them to finish the call in 8-10 minutes. The most number of calls he can handle a day was i think 18 or more, he said his lowest was 11. Anyway i am glad to hear that you are pregnant already. Because me and my hubby tried to have a baby , and for one and a half years being married, we are still waiting for our blessing to come.
If your hubby decides to resign, then support him at all means. I am sure that your hubby can find a lot more high paying job and that he can be at ease working with. Don't worry, God will provide for those who trust in Him. I used to tell my hubby if he wants to resign, you have my permission and my whole support. Encourage your husband after all, we as spouse should be encouraging our partner to have positive mental attitude. I am sure you could make it through. Happy MyLotting!
@Archie0 (5652)
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4 Mar 09
Well if it is a case of your birth giving time and you need him to be with you then i think he should take resignation
but then if you think its hectic for him then i think he should stay at the job for some time atleast for now
he has a better opportunity and as it is just 4 months he is still getting used to it. things might be better later on , i know i have worked in call center that too greavyard shifts and trust me life never remains the same , but at this particular time i think in this recession head he should stick to this job for some time because if he gives resignation within 4 months in this situation he might find it very hard to find job next time.
think over it
@lucas16 (98)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
Your husband should apply to another call center like sykes.. sykes has a low salary but it gives more benefits!!! MOre VLs and SLs.. like ihave 20 vls in 1 year and 20 sls.. eheheehehehehehehe.. we have tech and tenure allowance.. im not pressured in my account since we only few calls.. beside your husband should always think about his family and not himself.. Dapat magipon muna kyo..
