virginity? how important it is in a relationship?

it could be serious depending on how far he has gone, or how bad his situation is

virginity is important for me because it shows the kind of woman that you are. it is the best gift you can give your husband on your wedding night. it also means that you waited this long and that you value yourself and you have high respect to god. it also shows that you love your husband so much because your saving yourself for him.

Lol, Love is a part of live... If you accept it then virginity is does not matter much because making a happy family shall never be a one night relationship. Nope, I don't mind. Lucky me, mine is one.

if anybody is much concern about virginity he/she should ask his/ her partner about his/her past before mairrage hoping that his partner is not lying.if it is found after marraige that ur partner had lied about his/her virginity then what could be an individual's reaction depends on the fact that what has become more significant ur love for ur partner or ur concern towards virginity at that phase of life

Is that virgin so important in our relationship ?I dont think so.If you realy love your partner ,you shouldnt care the previous thing

hi cyberken16,SAID to hear,Be careful every one. Lots of diseases and AIDS are waiting to your door. Be safe and be virgin. Nice friday to you

well as a human I will upset if my partner lied about that. But also we have to understand about otherside feelings as well. In every matter has vary sides and views more than you think. So being upset and scremming about the past life not make different in your life. It only makes different stage in your feelings. Think a day or week or month.... And think if it happends to you what you will do? then answer back hoonesty... end of the day if you think you are safe and it wont make destroy your life and your family. forget about all the things and start enjoying small life with happy.

I don't know or care what he got up to before he met me. it's what he's like in a relationship that matters.

yea.. that is what happened to me... and i am very confused about it.. when ever i think of her it gives me an uneasy feeling.. i will take to her about it.. and hopefully get over that feeling

First in First. Love is trust. To lie is really terrible. We cannot forgive that sort of deeds. However, except from lying, I think it is OK. We shouldn't put much on virginity. What matters is you love each other, and you want to be with each other for the rest of life. Whether being virgin or not won't hurt that much. Right?

i think it is important especially in oriental countries. but we should distinguish among different cases.

if he didn't lie about it - (anyway i always expect almost all men are no longer a virgin when they come to me LoL) - well if he didn't lie about it, no problem. It wouldn't be a big deal to me. But if he did - that's a major turn off and sorry for him, he just lost his chance of ever being with me.

I don't blaim you. I can be distrusting anyway. I am a person who is very upfront so when someone holds back I get a little uneasy.

ohhh... well did you asked him/ her about his/her virginity before you found out? coz just like me i wont tell you if im virgin or not... unless you asked me? in philippines, virgin girls are still traditional, but for my point of view its ok! im very open minded girl. so it depends on your family values and stuff.. as long as he/she loves me, virgin or not i will still love him/her with all my heart!

I think it is a personal issue based on values. If virginity is important to you, than it would be natural to feel betrayed. IF the focus is dishonesty, I would want to look into why the person lied. Are they embarrassed? Many people when they find true love are embarrassed to have been with other people, or wish that they hadn't.