Honesty or Respect?

[i][/i]Hi neildc, I will choose both, would that be fine? When I was teaching back home, I have noticed really that our younger generation is totally different in our time and much more than in our Parents' time and so on... Cheating to them is like a lifestlye and they are not ashame when you will caught them, I mean...It's hard to explain but it seems that for them, it's an ordinary thing.... Students are very good to their teacher in front but most of the time, you will noticed how they will talk to their parents...unbelievable! So, I hope that we can maintain to instill these values to our kids, I know it's hard but once we will spend quality time with them, valuing them and at the same time, not nagging them!

Frankly i see respect being incomplete without honesty. Being dishonest with your parents in a mild mannered,polite way is not being respectful in my opinion. If you truly respect someone, then we need to be honest with them and with ourselves.

Hi Neil, It is better to have both in kids today but that is asking the impossible, yes I agree with you I think respect should be the norm but I think that has gone as well as I have heard five years old child calling his mother a b***h because she would give him what he wanted, I was so disgusted because she didn't even say a word, I would have slaped him, it is very sad. Hugs. Tamara

This is really a tough one... Ahhh.... I think I would have to choose respect though because kids will always lie to you anyway for certain reasons.

In my opinioin, both are important, especially for kids to form good characteristic. No need to mention that, there must be a balance between them. But that will be the day when children could tell things right from wrong, serious from not. Yes?

Neildc Well I think for one doesnt weigh heavier or the other, I believe it should be both. Yes sometimes the truth may hurt but I have always said to my children that it will hurt me more to find out that what you told me as the truth was actually a lie because then they just added the worst disrespect that they didn't respect me enough to tell me the truth no matter what they thought my reaction may be. So respectfully tell me the truth in love. Did they always tell me everything nope not even today, but I still demand their respect and honesty and try not to be too over bearing we are all human and have feelings. I think sometimes our kids need to vent at us from us and about us as parents just like we need to about parenting them- We just have to not take so much of what they do and say ugly or indifferent too personal and try to understand the real underlying issue of the bruitally honest moment and dissect it like a frog in a biology class. We must first seek to under stand then be understood as parents of teenagers alike we have to do more seeking to understand, and remember our own young years.

both are very important in my view.

Hi neil being honest here I would both fortuantley my children now in there 20's are normally honest with me but if not they always own up if they haven't been, respect is something that has to be earned and as a parent every child should respect them but for me it is hard to decide which is more value to me, maybe respect but honesty should follow respect and trust....littleowl

I'd really like to have both. Being honest and respectful can be done at the same time. It's also good to know how a child feels about a certain situation if they are angry it's better that we know. In that way we can still communicate with the children. If they are reaching the end of the line then we just have to simply remind them that we are their parents and that we are always there for them.

I would say both are just as important & should not be compromised!~ These core values are like foundation pillars for a building which cannot be taken away!~ How can we say we respect someone when we're lying to them? If we want to be honest with someone even being straight forward & blunt, we can still convey the message in a respectful manner? So I am thinking out loud

I think that they go hand-in-hand. To be honest with our parents is to show them respect and vise-versa. If your kid respects you, than yes, they may attempt to lie, but, chances are better that they will be honest. If your kid is dishonest then they are also being disrespectful. I think that you really cannot have one without the other.

Tough question - I don't necessarily think that either is more important than the other - they are both very important! I think maybe if I had to choose, I would choose honesty. I agree with you that sometimes the truth can be hurtful, but I think that in general, it is still important to be honest. The only time I think that being honest might not be the best thing is if the only outcome of telling the truth would be hurting someone. However, if any good can come of being honest, even if people also get hurt, then I think honesty is the way to go. Respect is also very important and I agree that a lot of children today are lacking a sense of respect. I see it all the time and it's discouraging. I think it has a lot to do with parents being either too busy or unwilling to teach their children proper respect. These days most parents have to work and with work and school schedules, there is often not much time left in a day to really talk to your children. Hopefully, they learn good values through watching the example of their parents, but too often, that doesn't seem to be happening. Maybe the movies, tv shows, and video games of this era contribute to the disrespect and negative behavior that we see. Sorry - I'm starting to ramble. Basically, I think that honesty and respect are both very important and I'm trying to teach them both to my own children. Hopefully they'll learn from watching me and my husband, along with listening to what we tell them. I really try to take the time to instill proper values in them. Sometimes I know I fall short, but at least I know I'm trying.

As a father, i hope my kids to be respectful.Recently,my neighbour often said that their daughter has been rude to the relatives, so they were very disappointing to see her grow-up.I think respect is the most important of all virtues.

" Honesty is the best policy " as the slogan is , virtually every person should be honest to others & most importantly to herself otherwise he would be having to regret later in his life for not being honest . On the other hand , respect is to be also earned & given to others so it's a virtue which needs to be inculcated in a person . Balancing both things is a fine way to live life .

Honestly, I think people need to be honest and respectful. Kids need to learn both these days. I can't stand someone to lie to me and I don't like people to be disrespectful either. I'm trying to teach my child to be honest and to respect others. He's almost 3 years old and I think you should start teaching them honesty and respect when they are young so that they continue with it throughout their life.

Children learn best, and quickest from their Parents. If you say," I hate you Joan," to your daughter. Expect to hear those words back again, from your daughter. Best not to repeat words you would rather not hear from your Kids. A lie is a Lie, is a lie. There are no lil white lies, or harmless lies, just lies! Children will respect their parents, only if their parents respect them. If you lose your temper and call your kid names, you will get those names back from your kids. This is how they learn, and this is why its imperative that you respect your kids at all times, and treat them as you would like them to treat you. Always remember, your kids will choosing your Old Age Home! (And there's nothing you can do about that!)

also the kids behaviour is depending on their parents.yes i prefer respect too.

I cannot choose from the given option cause for me being honest is also one kind of respecting people...that's why the two should go along..^^

Absolutelt correct u r,i agree totally to u. if children respect us they will never hurt us intentionally.and many of the time we also tell lie na so that we may not hurt our elders so the main thing is respect for the elders which is lacking in todays kids, so sad

well, i am not a parent but i feel that the first quality instilled in a child should be obidience. when child learns to obey parents and elders then repect and honest come very easily. well, you would not like to hear your child giving false statements respectfully... so, in that case, honesty and respect must be equal. when we say kids are missing respct for elders etc. then we must realise that kids are not at fault. it is the parents who are at fault. parents must keep an eye on the growing children and check them whenever they show disrespect or tell lies or they disobey parents. even teachers at schoolmust take the responsibilty of teaching good habits to students.