what can make me feel better after end a relationship?
By lynngirl1
@lynngirl1 (4)
China
March 5, 2009 6:20am CST
i just broke up with my boyfriend which is the last thing i want to do in my life.
but i have to do that because we are 10000km away from each other and cannot see each other for a few years. actually during our one year relationship, we had only about one month together. i love him and it was me to say that we are over first :-(((
i feel so terrible now.... can some one help me?
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18 responses
@zabawaus (1730)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Hello Lynngirl,
I am sorry to hear you story , it should be hard for you. But you are right long distance relationships very hard to continue. I had this kind of relationship when i got married . My husband was a way for 2 years and we only saw each other 2 times during these days, But i guess our love was so strong and we could make it. But of course we had lots of problems meanwhile.
Well how long are you together ? And how old are you guys ?
@lynngirl1 (4)
• China
5 Mar 09
i thought we could have make it. actually we met in korea as classmates then at the end of the semester we began our relationship, by which time he had to leave krea. after that, we didn't meet for 6 months until last summer he came to see me and we traveled for a month. all together we have been together for a year, while the time we've been together is only one month.
we thought we could be together, but things seems more difficult. both of us are still students so we have no money. and i'm not sure of the future.
he doesn't want to come to my country, neither do i. that's the most difficult thing which resulted in our broken up tonight:(
but now we can still write like before. he said there is not much changes and he can still motivate my study and job.
i'm 23 and he's 26.
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@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Hello lynngirl! I am really sad to know your story. We actually have the same story that's why I am sad to end your relationship. I am in a long distance relationship too. Like you, we are thousands miles away from each other. He came here last year and we got married. We've been together for 1 month. Now we are away for 7 months now and I really miss him. Ending our relationship is the last thing on my mind. But I respect your decision. You should go wherever you are happy.
@lynngirl1 (4)
• China
5 Mar 09
it's good feeling to know that i'm not alone in this situation. you are really lucky to get married already. i think that's not easy already. i hoped that me and my bf would get married someday, but it's just difficult. i wish you will be together forever lucky girl!:-)
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
I feel sorry for you, but may I ask you dear. Is distance just the sole reason for breaking up with him? If yes, then it should not be. My bf and I had been more than 2 years straight far apart, but such distance did not make us lead to ending the relationship. He has his vacation now and I know he will be away again and I am prepared for that.
You are not alone having that kind of relationship. There are many out there and their relationship are getting stronger like mine. With our technologies nowadays, everything is possible. You could still communicate with your bf even you are thousands or million miles apart.
If you regret breaking up with him, then swallow your pride and ask for reuniting with him. If he feels the same way, then that is good.
If you think that breaking up is the proper way, then accept it and move on. Pamper yourself for a while and wallow. When your heart is ready, then life has to go on. Accept the fact that it was you who decided to break up with him, so never blame anyone about it.
@Nisha_Verghese (551)
• India
16 Mar 09
Well the question to ask yurself is whether you love him or not? If no, then all you need is sometime off.. take a vacation or immerse yourself in work so that you dont have the time to think about this dude.
But if you love him with all your heart, then ask yourself, how much are you willing to sacrifice for your prince. Is there anyway you can get work at the place where he is? or can he shift? or keep a date once in every month or 2 months where either you go visit him or he comes to visit you.
think about it
@lynngirl1 (4)
• China
5 Mar 09
i feel regret after i said goodbye to him tonight. i can't help myself asking him for help... he replied me and comfort me. now we write like before as friends. or maybe before our relationship is similar to close friendship.
@nut_nut (251)
•
8 Mar 09
same happened to me. it was an experience il never forget was amazing. i still talk and cam with her, neither of us really moved on lol. do whatever is going to make u happy not destroy you. its hard i kno. put yr mind into other things. like im running race for life for cancer charity :) check it out
http://raceforlifesponsorme.org/angebayliss
if it comes up justgiving search nge bayliss
things get easier :) x
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Try to do other stuff to keep yourself occupied? Go out more with friends, have somebody to talk to. Get yourself involved to more stuff, when time passes, you can forget slowly :-)
@Niah1976 (739)
• Paranaque, Philippines
9 Mar 09
Not being able to see each other should not be a basis to end a relationship. If you love the guy and if you think he loves you too then i think there is no reason for you to say its over. Why not send him messages, maybe you can still go on with your relationship. Good luck girl!
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
8 Mar 09
The first thing is to realize that you are young and you will have other relationships. The next thing is to get out and have some fun. Do something with your girl-friends! Try something new, start a hobby, read a book any and everything that you can to continue on with your life. The relationship ended and that is unfortuante but it is also just a stepping stone to the next phase of your life.
@aakashmanu (199)
• India
8 Mar 09
I just want to tell u 1 thing that dont let go ur close ones go away so easily.U r a lucky girl that u have a bf.Most of the people in this world today are single and remember life is too short so patch up.
@RavenTalon19 (1)
• United States
8 Mar 09
if u need help i can help u my name is josh but my homeboys call me j money but anyway i now how u feel gurl and i no it sux leavin sumbody u luv but sumtymes u gotta do what u gotta do.I have had alot of long distance relationships in the past and i can tell u from experience that they dont call them long distance 4 nothin.Let me tell u a story and u prally wont believe it but i dated sumbody about that far b4 and i luved her very much she was my world id wouldve done anything 4 her,we dated 4 about 2 years and me and her felt like nobody could break us up but that aint the case when ur that far away from each other outta that whole 2 years we seen each other 5 tymes i think.well one day i got a call from her and she had 2 do the same thing u had 2 do we didnt like it but sumtymes u have 2 look past all that and u gotta do whats best 4 yall and thats what we did and till this day we still talk and i still luv her and she still luvs me but we no in our hearts that we cant b wit each other.Let me give u a lil bit of advice b4 i go,if u guys were in luv that much then one day u guys will meet again and if u truly believe that its true luv things will turn out ur way trust me.i hope i helped u enough 4 u 2 understand why u sumtymes have 2 do what u dont wanna do my name again is josh if u need more help drop another line on this site and ill help.
Later
@Jason_king (14)
• China
15 Mar 09
In my opinion,if you realy love him,you shouldn't do that,because it wil let you suffer more and more pain in your heart,instead,you should write to him or communicate with him by mobilephone or in other ways,and tell him you love him so much,you want to go with him in you lifetime,hope he can give you a answer(do he love you),if not,I advise you to forget him,and everthing should end,and begin you new life!
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
Breaking up is really a hurtful thing... Especially when you are still in-love with the person you have broken up with. Just let time heal you. You will realize later on that things are better off. You will just hurt yourself more if you still stay in the relationship. Be strong!
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
5 Mar 09
Hi,
Only praying can give U the Strength of Mind,now...
Pl 'pray'...we will pray for Ur Sunny Future & present-wound to Heal quickly!
=lahiri,Kolkata,India.
@benny128 (3615)
•
5 Mar 09
follow your heart,
if you have broke up then close that chapter of your life its hard and sad but its done now so move on
and you'll find someone closer
