Ever Been Happy And Sad, Both At The Same Time?

I have been torn between two very strong emotions. I am happily married and out of the blue one day I found some unclaimed funds that belonged to me and my ex husband via the Internet. I had to contact my ex in as the money was half his. I did a little running around and eventually I got in touch with him. I had not seen or spoken to him in around 15 years. We were childhood sweethearts, we met at 15 and 16 and we married 7 years later. Although we divorced after 4 and half years we did not part in bad terms. I called him about the money and we chatted about where we at in life, he remarried and has 2 kids and I remarried and I have 1 daughter. Just talking to him made me so happy just like it did all those years ago. We had to keep in touch for a couple of weeks in regards to the funds and I so looked forward to his calls. It was a weird mix of emotions, part of me still loved him and part of me felt relieved we were no longer together because we are so incompatible and of course I love my current partner. We made our last call and we knew that out of respect for our current partners there would be no need for us to keep in touch. I cried and I missed him, but at the same time I felt such a deep appreciation of my family now. It feels strange to be happy and sad all at the same time so I can certainly appreciate where you are coming from. Sometimes we have to let someone go and it hurts but we can rejoice when we look past the hurt and see the overall picture.

I have never been happy and sad at the same time. In my opinion, it is not possible. Sorrow and happiness are poles apart. In fact, happiness is the enemy of sorrow. Happiness, in most cases is nothing but sentimental. I am yet to find true, genuine happiness in my life.

I have been there many, many times. It is a normal place to be. There is a sadness that comes when I think of what could have been, but then, I am very happy knowing that I am able to find the strength and courage to move on.

yes, i have been there. if it didn't work for y'all the first time it want be any different the 2nd time around. been there, done that, try to find you a happy place & quit worrying about the past & about finding someone else.happiness is a state of mind & you are going to have to find that place where u are happy all by yourself first, concentrate on that & your children & time will take care of the rest, there are worse things than being by yourself & on your own. quit e-mailing the ex to. that just causes you heartache. think positive. good luck.

Being happy and sad both at the same time is the experience which is not easy to describe.I have an e_pal,for which I have really deep feeling.Im happy coz he says he cares me.But we may not even meet the rest of our lives.

Yes, I had to do the same thing and when I thhk of him and would have been makes me cry..but I had to move on..sometimes we are not meant to be.

Yes....and probably in the same situation...but for us it just went away because it was a long distance relationship! But I know what you mean....exactly!

i gues thats part of our life happy and sad up and down like roller coaster

Hi singlemommy, Oh yes I have and it was a long time ago I was in love with this person and we had a lot of fun going out and about but I knew he wasen't for me as his life style was very different from mine so we went our seperate ways but fate would have it he is never far from me and he ofeten visits me but the feelings have changede for both of us as I am married and he is still single but has a partner but we stayed true friends and have a special place in our hearts for each other. Hugs. Tamara

That is so sad.I felt like that when my older children left home,sad at them going but happy they were starting out in life and gutted because they did not need me so much ,but happy that they felt confident enough to go,mixed emotions are hard to deal with you will be happy again,it is for the best by the sound of it,take care.xx

I have felt the many times. And your situation is a bit similar to mine, just that my love has not replied to me in the same manner as yours. So if mine had, I'd cry and be happy that he knows what he's doing yet sad that things had to change... change is a weird thing, its a sad and happy thing. Thanks for sharing... it's nice to find something similar to my situation.

yes,i did before for my last marriage.when i sign divorce files,i had strong feeling Happy and Sad.Happy feeling that i thought was i didn't need to face to him again.Sad feeling i thought is my daughter forced to live different place cause her parents.but we are ok now.it is just short feeling.life will be continued.Good luck!

Being happy and sad is always a kind of unforgettable feeling. I have this feeling too when I have to leave for a distant place to attend the university.He went to the station to say goodbye with me.I was so happy for his coming,I knowed I loved him but I also knowed that he was loving another person.At the moment the train started, I decided to give him up. I cried all the way on the train, but at the same time, I was excited for my going to a new place and the university I longed for. Thank you for your discussion to let me feel that kind of feeling once more.

Yeah, I have experienced bpth ends of the stick. THis one time I was finally liberated from this obsessive girl friend. Unfortunately, I felt alone after she left. Thus leaving me both happy and sad.

hey singlemommy...ya i agree with you there are situations like this that u love someone so much that u have feel happy to let them go for their situatons bu at the same time feel so so so sad to lose them, i know such situations are very hard to handle and when we overcome that pain we feel still happier.

Hello singlemommy, Yes, I do...quite a few times in my entire life. Well, most of the time, when it is about love of my life. I am happy when I hear something good but at the same time, I feel sad cause I know pretty well that the good thing in my life always come together with the bad thing sometimes...

Love should be this way. When you know it is a good thing and that makes you happy but the release or loss is sad. Love should be like that. Self sacrificing and unafacing. It can actually be a very nice feeling. You see for me I cry a river because I am very emotional person and so these things are very hard for me. But, in the long run is good and very humbling experience.

Yes I have. Not like you in a relationship, but with my grandfather. Last July he was in the hospital with bladder infection, that was cleared up and then they found cancer. By August we were told there was nothing that could be done for him, then shorty after he was gone. It was sad for all of us, but on the same note, he was in pain. A lot of pain. He'd drift in and out of it and it was heartbreaking to see him slid down hill so fast. So yes, when he passed on I was sad but also happy for him too. He went home where grandma has been waiting for him for a long time.

i totally understand what you mean. it is bittersweet. atleast you are smart enough to not be tempted by your feelings to do something that wouldn't be right. i hope that you are giving yourself credit for that. love is sometimes not enough.