Mother/StepMother Opinions
By jands1
@jands1 (835)
United States
March 6, 2009 2:04pm CST
Today I have my stepson, age four. All alone. Without his dad here. Or his sisters. And my son is still away at private school.
First of all, I had forgotten how much work little ones are! Wow. I do not remember it being this much work. But then again, time has a way of easing memories. LOL And with my son being sixteen in a few weeks...yeah. I must have forgotten.
Second, my stepson and I get along wonderfully. He gets excited when he sees me. I am the only one that can calm him when he gets a booboo. However, I have only been physically in his life for nearly a month.
His birth mother, and rightfully so, wanted to get away for a few days. She hinted that my fiance wouldn't get his son this weekend (his weekend for the kids) unless there was a resolution. I never used my son as a weapon. That is...disgusting to me.
So, I offered to have him here with me today until his Dad gets home.
No big deal. Except the conversation with the birth mother went like this:
Her: Oh, so she wants to watch him that Friday?
Fiance: Yep. She can.
Her: Do they get along.
Fiance: Heck yeah!
Her: OK.
I saw that her reaction wasn't overly...hmm...protective. So I whispered to my fiance, "Honestly, I don't want to deal with her. How about she drop him off Thursday night when you are here?"
To my amazement, she agreed. We are happy she agreed. Don't get me wrong. The little guy is insane until I get that junk food out of his system. Funny how he only loves spinach at our place. 
So, here is what I want your opinion on, please:
Does anyone have any thoughts on the fact that I met this woman only once for about two seconds AND she never asked for my cell number "just in case"?
Personally, when my son was little, I practically took DNA! LOL
OK thoughts? Ideas?
So, here is what I want your opinion on, please:
Does anyone have any thoughts on the fact that I met this woman only once for about two seconds AND she never asked for my cell number "just in case"?
Personally, when my son was little, I practically took DNA! LOL
OK thoughts? Ideas?3 responses
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I am no mother but I would do the same as to get the DNA! I think all mothers should be like that and it saddens me to hear that some mothers are really not serious about their kids. He's probably in better hands with you than his own mother! Good luck.
@jands1 (835)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Well, I would not presume to judge this early in the game, Lore2009. I only know that when he is here, we spend time together playing catch up on his learning. He is at the level of a 3 year old in most matters.
Today was the first time he ever got dressed by himself! My son was dressing himself at two years old. Poorly, but he did it. LOL
From what I can tell, he goes to daycare. And when he is home with his Mum, she plunks him in front of the television. Or he plays video games. If he isn't doing those two things, she is simply feeding him McDonalds.
This morning we watched and did "Little Einsteins" together. Once exposed to things, he does pick up on them. Very slowly though.
@jands1 (835)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I agree mrsl2008! The first few years, my son stayed with his Nana when he would leave my hip.
Then when he was nearly three I put him in a private preschool that focused on arts and creativity. And that was after spending all that time from pregnancy until I enrolled him in researching, background checks and investigating. LOL
I have had to work hard over balancing wanting to protect children with being a good parent. i.e. Raising children to be self-sufficient, educated and independent.
You are lucky your Mum is there. So much better to have family. Good luck!
@katb28 (225)
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6 Mar 09
hi there i am a very protective mum probs overly so it took me over a year to allow my partner to put my children to bed and no body except my mum and dad my partner my aunty and my cosin have ever baby sat for me i see it as the less people who watch them and the better i know them the less chance of anything going wrong
@jands1 (835)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Thanks for your input katb28. To me it is amazing that she would not even ask my telephone number.
I get where she is coming from a bit: I am here, in her son's life. I am going to marry her ex. So she has to accept me. But...I find it very odd that she seemed to not care. 
