Is it right to fall for a person who has already commitment to serve?

well this thing happen to me just few months back, i know i did something really wrong, ok here's what happen.. i have a frend and we are both committed to somebody until my fiance then announce that he had an affair for 1 year. by the way then we are on our 5 years in our relationship. so i broke it up with him and hang out with carlo who was just a frend for me then... carlo and his gf are also having problem while me and carlo are getting closer each day. so wat i did is think ... should i pursue him or should i maintain the frendship. i decided to pursue him, coz i dont want to have regrets someday! so i told him wat i felt.. and he said he felt the same way but its a wrong thing.. so i said .. its ok! we can be frends... after few months he decided to broke it up with his gf.. now we are together! and planning to get married on oct! imagine all those years sitting across each other, both of us in different arms... good thing we end up together!

I am in the same situation, but I stand at the shoes of the girl. I cannot understand why I would always end up choosing and sacrificing. It hurts me much which the other guys don't also understand. I will be speaking for the girl who is torn between a bf and another guy. The situation is, I am committed to a guy for four years and he loves me much and more than I love him, that is better on the part of the girl finding someone loving her so much. The predicament I would always encounter is meeting another guy who I also acknowledge to remain friends to him. That happened not once, rather for nth times and I would end up sacrificing and in pain. I hate to hurt someone's heart, likewise I do not like to break friendships. To love is a choice, it is not always a feeling that you need to follow. There's this guy who totally decided to avoid me in respect of me, my bf and my commitment. It is very hurting on my part because I do not want to lose him either as a friend, but "to avoid" me is the right and proper way. There's this another also who asked me if I could still give him a chance and open my heart, that would be again tough on my part because he wanted me to weigh it. Again, I would say "loving" is a choice and investment. The feelings may fade, but it is upto you if you let it go away or decide to stay. If the feeling is gone and you want to stay, do something to make the love alive again. That is commitment really is - it is a process, it is how you build it, an investment. If you let it go away, you will start again and build another bridge. You, as the other guy....Would you want to intervene and break the bridge for the sake of your love or feeling? I think, what my guy friend who is now avoiding me is a good suggestion for you. Relationships really has it's on's and off's, do not take advantage of that situation. If you love the girl, respect her and her present relationship now. Do not let the girl to decide, choose or weigh her feelings because it is harder for her to be torn. If you meddle, you are giving the girl the impression to be a two timer. Do not nurture your feelings for her. Do something and cut it off before you deeply fall for her.

hi pranesh! well, for me, i wouldn't want it done to me, so i think i would not do it. i would probably wait until she is completely out of the relationship before going in. at the same time, if she is lonely with her boyfriend, she can just simply use me to fill up the void that her first boyfriend left. i don't want to become that. i would rather be loved for who i am, not for being a cover up for somebody, like a replacement for a lost love. so i would say take it slow. if ever, you can also consider other women, those who are not committed. or you can just wait it out until she realizes that it is you she loves. take care and God bless you! happy mylotting! ps. i thought your question was related to service, like in church. hehe

They say loving someone is not wrong. But if the situation is not right then it's wrong. I'm not implying that you stop loving her. What I'm trying to say is that wait for your turn. Your time would arrive. Don't let her cheat her boyfriend because of you.

first, put urself on her bf's shoe... would u like ur own gf to do that to you? we have a saying that "do not do unto others what you dont want others do unto you" so, thy to think about that sayings.. then do what u think you want to do... simple... right?

I really don't know. But I heard someone once said that, "Love is always selfish". You couldn't control yourself to love her so. She might also love you too. If she really love you more than her boyfriend, why not go for it. No one is right or wrong in a relationship, as long as you both love each other. Happy for you man!

I don't think it is wrong when you fall for her, because it is your right to love someone. However, having feelings for someone is one thing; having a relationship with her is another thing. Before you want to develop a relationship with her, you should think seriously about and figure out that which one she really loves. If you are the one she really loves, you ought to step up, while if she loves him deeply, you should bow out. Anyway, I hope you will not get involved in a triangle, because no matter what the end is, each of you is going to get painful experience.

It's not wrong to fall in love but it's not also right to make an affair with someone who is already committed to someone even if their relationship is on and off. Maybe just wait for the right time if both of you are destined to each other. Just love the right person in the right time and at the right place.

Well even you must be knowing this, that it is not good to love someone who is already into a committment. even if their relationship is on or off, they love each other, and may be you are getting the reason to divert the girls mind. and sometimes you might end up doing it completly. you will always feel guilty to see that the relation was broken after you come in it. try to be far from her and get it whether it is truly love. if it is still stay far if they try to quit their relation mutually, then you can tell the girl but i dont think it is a good idea to get in between the on going relationship. :) take care

i think it's not wrong to love, but rather it's wrong to have an affair. now it's up to you if you want to urge her to cheat on her boyfriend, and even if she did, and later on you end up being together (that means she breaks up with her boyfriend for real) - i still think you didn't do the (morally) right thing. Just my opinion alright!!

It's morally wrong if she is married to him! But if she is not married I don't see it wrong being in love with her. But it's up to her and how she feels for you too! If she falls in love with you, she will be with you!

It's not wrong to love her, or to sweep her off her feet. I personally think it's up to the girl, not her current boyfriend. if you can sweep her off her feet and get her to like you more than him, than good for you!