Do they know they are rude?

I have a couple neighbors that are rude. I dont think they realize they are being rude. They just talk without thinking sometimes and it comes across and rude. I try to avoid them as much as possible because you never know what they are going to say and I let things go until I finally get aggravated enough and then just go off... :) (oops!) Oh well.....karma!

If the fool knew that he was a fool the place would not have been full of fools. Similarly may be they do not intend to be so, may be purposefully doing so, it is difficult to state. But believe me I have not come across such thing. Who knows one of that were I myself?

I have noticed that some people are just like that. They are not purposely being rude, it's just that they are like that as a rule.The same with hurtful people, they can hurt you with a word or an action, but they don't even seem aware of the effect of what they said or done, and if they are called to attention regarding it, they have a tough time understanding what the problem was. Strange....

Gotcha...and I think it is not having a good grasp on the English language, and I find it decidly true when they are trying to purport humour...and it falls truly flat...as you say, bordering on rudeness! But, I was reading some discussions the other day, and I was angered at the rudeness of a couple people, that I had presumed in the past, had full control of the language, but were being as obnoxious as he!!. Truly argumentive, which makes me look askance at any future postings! Hope you have a truly wonderful weekend! It's 6:07 a.m. here and I am just off to work...have my son home for the weekend, as he's home from Brazil, and we stayed up late last nite looking at pics. Beautiful place!

Hmmm... that is intriguing discussion you post there. Whose this "small section" your speaking of? Anyway, some people I think are intently rude while as others i think are not aware that they are coming off as rude. I think some people here in my lot are like that, they don't have the intention to be rude, just so happen that there are a lot of misunderstanding on how the word was conveyed compare to what they really meant...

I don't think I've encountered the folks you are talking about, or maybe it struck me differently? Some people are more formal in their speech (writing?), and you can easily see courtesy and manners flowing through whatever is being written. Other people are more direct, sometimes blunt in a way that maybe is preceived as rude? Being from New England, I'm probably not equipped to notice. New Englanders are great people, but traditionally direct, to the point people.

You are right, people know when they are rude and some are rude on purpose. Some people are not rude and sound like rude, maybe by mistake they made in spelling or grammar. However, most rude comments are on purpose. I know one person in real life, she knows how rude she is, but it is part of her personality. She doesn't have any friends, because everyone is sick and tired with her. HUGS

I was wondering where you were...I think they know they are being rude. There is a certain group in America that prides itself on being rude. It feeds their self-esteem.

I have seen this phenomenon. And, I'm not sure if the people are being rude on purpose or if there is a communication lag between what they really mean and the words they have typed. If we were all carrying on a verbal conversation, this would be so much easier. So much is lost in translation once you type something. They say that body language is 85% of a conversation. Online at forums such as Mylot, we don't have the benefit of body language. I am going to give the benefit of the doubt to everyone on this subject. I'm not one to judge, though. I'm sure that I've posted some responses that appear too brisk.

Imight come across as rude sometimes, especially tothose that do not have English as their first language. It's not my intent. I have seen what appeared to be rudeness insome responses but then on second reading I assumed that's not what was intended and moved on. I have a rude neighbour. Whenever I meet her she always enquires how I am and what I will be doing and whatever it is her response is always the same 'well I wouldn't do THAT if I was you!'. I respond, with a smile of course, 'just as well you're not me then isn't it?' and go about whatever I was doing at the time of bumping into her. Time is too precious to dwell on those who think they know it all and get cross because they are not doing (or saying) what you are - because they daren't.

I know exactly what you mean. On the other hand I'm rude but I do it on purpose.

I have come across this too but I would like to think that their way of expressing themselves is perhaps limited as they don't speak English too well. Perhaps the lack of vocabulary just makes it appear to be rude as we, in the west think is rude. I m,ay be wromng but I prefer to believe that this is the cause

I guess I haven't really paid enough attention to know. It would be nice to know which group you are talking about, but I know why you can't say. Then they might think you are being rude to them with out realizing you are I don't think you are I wouldn't state who I was talking about either. Have a good day!

My self I think there's a way to say everything were as it come off in the respectful manner. I understand some people don't know or don't understand how they saying something. When someone is rude to me I tend to be rude back at them, I know this don't make me any better they are. But once am rude back at them then hopefully they know they were rude to me. I hope this make since to you.

One heavily pregnant lady got a train where every seat was taken. A teenage girl offered her the seat that she was sitting in. She was about to sit in it when an middle aged lady sat in it after pushing her out of the way. The teenager made a comment that she meant it for the pregnant lady. The middle aged lady wouldn't move though. Luckily the man sitting opposite gave the pregnant lady his seat. A lady like her doesn't know she is being rude. In a country of the world the people I could mention are honest and that at times might sound rude.

Maybe they don't....maybe that the custom in their country...but after seeing what others do here they should learn to be respectful. I really haven't noticed it but then again I don't start many discussion lately..

I might be one that poeple her find rude, I know some have before (not here, but in other places) one thing is that English isn't my first language and that can be a bit tricky. Like using the word discusting - for me it's not a very "hard" word, others might think it's very rude to use. Another thing is that written word can look rude even if it's written in a way that wouldn't be rude out spoken when you see the person you're talking to. There is also a problem with people like me - that doesn't get offended for som things - I know that others get offended easily, but it's hard to please every one if you understand what I'm saying. SOme tend to take every thing you write or say as it's rude *lol* There arealso some cultural issues when it comes to rudeness - a thing that is rude in one culture - might be consideres the oposit way in another.

Hey ambie! I too have noticed that there are some people who seem to respond or speak in a somewhat rude fashion or what seems rude to me too. I don't know if we are speaking of the same people or not. I know that we are from different customs and languages, but I still don't believe that it should translate the way it seems to at times. Maybe it is just the way that I take it, maybe not. I try to keep an open mind.

Hi, People are generally RUDE b'cz of their Ego & having tendency to show off. Often it is their Mask than the actual face.Problem is even if they are pointed out,they donot agree/rectify( Less Flexibility).Artificiality once,take a permanent place in their behaviour. +lahiri,Kolkata,India.

I'm not sure that if someone on mylot posts a rude response to a discussion that they know they are being rude, especially if they are from another country other than America. I have found a lot of people here who post very short comments, and I don't think they are rude necessarily, but I guess you could see it that way. MyLot is indeed a melting pot of people, and if anyone wants to comment on any of my discussions, they are welcome to, even if they are being acctually rude. I have been lucky not to come accross an actual mean response to any of my discussions, but I'm sure I will eventually! I will forgive the person their mistakes!