How many do not have children?
By callahanb78
@callahanb78 (529)
United States
March 7, 2009 8:01am CST
I was here thinking a few nights ago on what I would be doing had I not had children? Would I be living here? Would I have gotten married to my 1st husband? Where would I be in my career? Would I travel more?...or less?
I wonder if I were married to my current husband what we would do without kids. I am so used to having them around and the craziness that comes along with it that I think I would be pretty bored without them around. Day to day would be go to work and come home it seems and that would be it. I would be able to get a good nights sleep...hehehe. I would only have to do laundry maybe once a week...hehehe again.
I have a few friends that are married and are not thinking about having kids at all.....I dont think I would enjoy that too much. Yes, I would love the time to be able to share with my husband very much but then what?!? HMMMMMM......
I understand there are people who want children and can not have them, but what about the ones that can have them and dont? I wonder why?
12 responses
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
7 Mar 09
I am still single and do have children as yet because I want to be focused on achieving career and financial goals to ensure that I can offer my child the best life I can offer.
I may end up getting married and having a child before I accomplish all that but I know that I am more ready for that now than when I was younger. I am happy for the choice I made to remain single and childless until now.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
7 Mar 09
Well, like you I have children and I can't imagine my life without them. I hear people who say that they don't want children and I wonder why. My husband has a cousin who doesn't want children and he says it is because they interfere with your life to much and he doesn't want to have to deal with them. I guess he is right in a way,but they are such a blessing too. I love my kids more than life itself and I would do anything to protect them so I just can't imagine how life would be if I would not have had them.
@callahanb78 (529)
• United States
8 Mar 09
A girl who was about 30 that I used to work with was with her boyfriend for 11 years and they were finally considering marriage. The conversation would come up every now and again about kids and she said she didnt think she wanted any nor did her boyfriend. I could never really understand why. Maybe thats because I have them.
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
7 Mar 09
Married couples I've known who didn't have children have usually been very self-centered. They don't seem to develop generosity or the ability to give of themselves to others. With children you have to learn to open up to other people, to accept others, to tolerate. I would hate to think what my life would be like if I had never had children. My brother and his wife chose to be childless. Although they have saved considerably more money during their lives than we ever did, I wouldn't trade my kids -- and grandkids -- for any amount of money in the world.
@callahanb78 (529)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Im sure they would have saved a TON of money without kids....lol. But on the other hand it gives the freedom to travel more and party more for some so I dont believe all would be able to save money.....who knows!?!? I would probably have extra money available without kids....I spend ALOT on them.
@monica20010422 (37)
• China
8 Mar 09
Recently, my bf and I prepare to marry. Though I love him and he loves me, but We all do not take the baby into accout in the few years. First, we need amount money to raise the bady, but not this time. Second, we just graduated from school merely 2years, we all fell ourselves are kid, at least in thinking. So, maybe we plan to have a baby after 3years, by then, we have own house and firm income.
@froth_bubble (6)
• China
8 Mar 09
In China,people believe that it's married couple's obligation to have at least one kid..As a girl,I hope that I will have two children ,one boy and one girl.Hehehehe
I know, nurturing a kid is a so difficult job...But when you old, you really really want to somebody could be the one you always miss...
My suggestion to the couples who cannot have a baby is that they'd better foster a baby.
@isawu2 (97)
• Canada
7 Mar 09
My first marriage was a disaster because children were always an issue.
Everyone on his side would say on a weekly basis aren't you pregnant yet.
I was always under the belief that it was my fault until we separated and divorced.
I met my second husband and I was pregnant within 10 months and don't know what I'd do without her.
I was always convinced I wasn't able to have children that I was a very dotting mother and finally realized I had to learn to let go a give her some room to fall. LOL
She has made me feel hope that anything can happen when you just believe.
Also with marrying him I end up with 2 step-children and I have relationships with also.
So being on bother sides of the fence not having children I had more freedom to do whatever I wanted and spend money on me now I am convinced they come first and I come last.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
7 Mar 09
yes we give up a lot of thinks just for marriage and children. i still remembered how i gave up the whole me for nothing. lol. i am now a single mom for seven years and i tagged my kids along with me. i dont know where is my ex-husband but as of now i forgot what i need and who am i and put my children first. now they are all teens and sure do help me around the house with chores. i sometimes think that also but.... once you became a mother you are always going to be a mother even your kids are all grown up.
@dhisaw (304)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Well, I am married and we have no children together. Actually, we have been raising someone else's child and have been for quite some time. Other than that we do want other children as well but that has not happened. My thing is there being parents out there that say they want kids and then they have them and not raise them they let someone in their family raise them. One of the reasons I say that is that the child that I have been raising is one of my family member's children and she has two other kids other than the one that I taking care of. That is what is confusing to me.
@Downunder_dude (407)
• Australia
8 Mar 09
I'm 28 years old and don't have any children.
I actually really didn't want kids until a couple of years ago. I'd never been in a realtionship with someone that I'd remotely wanted to have a family with, and any desire to be a father simply wasn't there.
But then I met my current girlfriend. Now I don't know if falling in love started up my biological clock, or if it's just a co-incidence and it hit at the exact same time, but either way, I want to get married and start a family in the worst way now heh.
I want it so much. Three kids - two girls and a boy.
Heh.
@jiaruiyang (146)
• China
8 Mar 09
haha,now I am 26 years old ,,,I have not child,,,my gf and I plan to married next year-2010,,,I told to her:'baby,please give me three little baby',,,but she said:'the law allow how many,I will born ,,,,,!'...i am so sad,,because of I would love to spare my time with some little buys ,,,,and ,,,and my father,mother also have this opinion,,,,my father-in-law have asked me :'if your father will feed your baby!!!',Oh---my god,,,,this is means that he and my mother-in-law maybe have the similar opinion as my father,,,,,,so,,,if in the future ,My baby born only one little baby,,,,which father I should to give????
