I'm on an emotional roller coaster right now
By tammytwo
@tammytwo (4298)
United States
March 7, 2009 10:54am CST
Now I know there are many people here who can relate to me on this. My oldest son is a senior in high school and has been very active in sports since he was just a little guy. Last night our basketball team played for first place in the District Championship. It was long fought out battle and we lost by two points after just beating this same team only eight days ago and after being ahead by 10 at one point. The coach is a little less than desirable but that is another story. These boys have played together in football and basketball since they were just little and it is getting to me that my son has now played his last high school basketball game ever. I knew it would hit me hard but I just really can't get motivated to do anything today because I can't stop thinking about how much life is going to change in the next few months for our entire family. My son will leave on my birthday for college, four hours away. I'm just not feelin' it right now. I need some encouraging words from parents who have survived their children growing up.
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@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
7 Mar 09
It's the normal thing, situation like this do happen to a lot of
families out there. Letting go of your son surly hurts because you
been there for him all your life. But you have to accept the fact that
that is the job every parents should be accustomed to. Don't worry, you
can overcome your sadness as time goes by.
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@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
8 Mar 09
I know things will get better as time goes on. It's just difficult right now. I actually feel as though I grew up with my son. I was just two weeks past turning 17 when I had him. I am just so thankful for such a great kid. I am proud of him.
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@dorypanda (1601)
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7 Mar 09
I'm in a similar situation, however, I only have one child, so it's kind of different.
I think I know how you're feeling as I'm probably feeling the same, it's good that they are going their own way, but at the same time you're feeling like they don't need you any more, but, he'll still need, boys usually need their Mums. I'm sure (and I hope) that it will feel better once they've started at their new college and in my case 6th form. All we can do is let them know we're still their Mums and we're there for them whatever.
Good luck to your son, I hope he does well in college.
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@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
8 Mar 09
I think my greatest deal of sadness at this very moment is coming from the fact that his coach has been a total jerk to him and he was only allowed to play 38 seconds of his FINAL high school game. He is a good basketball player with a lot of talent but lacks in height. He is only 5 foot 8 inches tall but makes up for his shortness with dedication and support for his teammates. After the game was over in the locker room the coach looked at him and said "Oh I should have let you play more." This is a kid that started the game at the beginning of the season and lost playing time each game. Now I could understand this if he was a mouthy kid or one that didn't cooperate but I have personally spoke to his other coaches and they have told me how easy he is to get a long with. I have even told him to tell the coach that he is feeling ripped off and wants to know what the coach's issue is with him. He wouldn't do it because he says it won't do any good. I see a very good kid that deserved to play more than a total of 3 minutes his final two basketball games and the coach treated him like crap. For what reason I don't know. But there is going to be a meeting this week between my husband, the coach and I. I feel like the coach was just a big bully. He didn't allow any of them to speak to him during a game, even to ask a question. And my son has been accepted to play in Switzerland over the summer for 365 Sports so they must some potential in him. I just hope he learns a lot from the summer experience.
Thanks for your response.
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@dorypanda (1601)
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8 Mar 09
I hope you can find out why the coach was so mean to him. I don't know why some people feel the need to be mean, maybe it's to boost his own ego or something. It's brilliant that your son's going on to play during the summer, I hope he does really well.
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