Ever just have one of those days?
By thorgrym
@thorgrym (675)
United States
March 7, 2009 8:16pm CST
Today has been that day for me...
Normally, I am fairly even-keeled. Nothing really gets to me. I mean, let's face it, I am medically disabled and unable to support my family in a way that I would like but that doesn't prevent me from putting a smile on my face for the most part. Today, however, has just found me in a different state of mind. I am not depressed, just in a bit of a funk.
I have been experiencing a headache all day in varying degrees of pain - sometimes more bearable than others. I am a bit upset due to the fact that my family planned to go see an opera that my daughter's violin teacher is playing for. Given the pain combined with my overall condition, I felt that it would be better if I stayed home.
So, here I sit doing my usual internet surfing, but I am just lacking the motivation to accomplish anything - mainly just trying to keep myself and my mind occupied.
I'd like to just go to sleep and wake up tomorrow with a new outlook, but I am just not tired - at least not in the physical sense. I am very weary, though. I know things will improve and I won't be in this funk for long...
So, have you ever had one of those days?
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10 responses
@anitanaveen (128)
• India
8 Mar 09
hai,
it makes me sad ,i m so sad for u but i m happy that u r so couragious and energetic,and taking the life by positive way.u r really admirable.so keep smiling and enjoy with ur life with ur family.i will pray the god so god wiill reduce ur problem,he is almighty ,he knows everything so just beleve in him.
@thorgrym (675)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Thank you for your response and encouragement! It is honesty my faith in God that keeps me going on the worst days. What is odd with today, though, is that there is really nothing for me to be upset about. Sure, the headache and the inability to carry through on my plans for the evening are upsetting, but that is nothing terribly new. For some reason, it is just getting to me more today than I usually allow it to.
I appreciate the prayers!
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@enciel (368)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
yes that kind of day happens to me a lot. it's like everything bad seems to happen to your life on that day, all the misfortune and the feeling of weariness and demoralizing feeling. when that happens to me i just try to relax at home, do things that i enjoy or eat something i like so that even at the end of the day i know at least something nice happened.
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@thorgrym (675)
• United States
8 Mar 09
That's good advice - do something good that you can reflect on rather than focusing on the negative. I think that is why I started the discussion - something nice. An attempt to connect with friends, new and old, to lift my spirits.
What bugs me most, I think, is that it isn't really a depression that I can admit to and get over. It is just a complete lack of motivation. It seems like everything is an uphill battle right now.
There is a lot going right in my life right now, though, so I know that I will get over these feelings.
Thanks for the response!
@beachstarz (1092)
• United States
8 Mar 09
I get that way now and then. I am in a quiet mood. I don't feel like being around friends. On those days , nothing really gets me excited . I think it's when we have alot on our minds . We can get a little overwhelmed with things sometimes.
I'm sure tomorrow you will get up and feel better , you will be in the thoughts of some of us mylotters, sending you good vibes for a better day!
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Yes, I've had a week like that. But then again, I am Woman!!! But I did feel I just wasn't accomplishing anything last week. I figure it had something to do with my taxes. 
Anyway, I actually just wanted to let you know that . . . this too shall pass. And I know you'll be bouncing back soon, though it doesn't help for right now. Okay, so put on that Ipod and start just sing along. 
Anyway, I actually just wanted to let you know that . . . this too shall pass. And I know you'll be bouncing back soon, though it doesn't help for right now. Okay, so put on that Ipod and start just sing along. 1 person likes this
@thorgrym (675)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Yeah...I have a sinking feeling that the headache is a result of my plan to complete the tax return today. The fact that I did not even work on that may have contributed to the overall 'funk.'
Yeah, I think the playlist just might be the trick, here.
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
8 Mar 09
I have not had that many headaches, but sometimes when the sky clouds over, and it rains, I feel like going to sleep. I have S.A.D. and low grade depression, and on those days, I just cannot think of anything. It will pass, but your headache frequency concerns me. Have you considered asking the doctor? It could be a migraine or something worse. Go see the doctor and see what can be done.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
9 Mar 09
I heard that cluster headaches are annoying. I used to have migraines but that was that time of the month. I guess when it does not hurt that much, you sort of just take it in stride and I do not like taking pills to cure anything. You get too dependent and it might be that you will need stronger dosages.
@thorgrym (675)
• United States
15 Mar 09
Yeah, the ultimate problem that I had with cluster headaches is that the pain was so bad that nothing would work to dull it anyway. I just had to ride it out. I think, too, that it was worse anticipating the onset of a headache each day. I mean, knowing that you are going to be in pain at some point during the day does not help your mindset! It is like knowing that at some point during the day, the dentist is going to call you in for a root canal procedure but not quite knowing when it is going to happen.
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@thorgrym (675)
• United States
8 Mar 09
I used to get cluster headaches...they are like migraines only with a different duration. The headache I had yesterday was nothing like a migraine, just the average run-of-the-mill headache. The pain subsided a couple of times, but was always present throughout the day. That never helps me to feel happy! I try to avoid taking any kind of medication unless it is just totally unbearable. This was not much worse than a dull ache, so it was more of an annoyance than anything else.
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@alexandra777 (643)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
That happened to me a lot when i was still single but since i got married and up to this day i couldn't remember any moment that had me so down like what you are going through right now. My husband is a gift from God and with him there is no dull moment. Whenever i feel like my mind has left me and i could not concentrate i just ask his opinion and there--have a comment/response posted again! Sometimes when he sees that i'm in a bad mood he does things that make me laugh. When i feel like i just could not get myself to do things because my ms attacks again, i just pray and ask God to help me. Hi thorgrym! By the time you get this i hope you are already back to your normal active myLot life!
@thorgrym (675)
• United States
8 Mar 09
It is great to have someone to bounce your thoughts and feelings off of. Last night, the family went off to the opera (I think that my inability to accompany them added to my funk) and I didn't have anybody to immediately interact with. Nobody was on Facebook to chat with and as great as myLotters are in responding to discussions, that is not an immediate thing.
Thanks for the reply!
@alexandra777 (643)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
Well...i'm looking forward to join your discussions. Let's see if my memory works. LOL!
@GardenGerty (160883)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Yes, I have had those days, but not lately. The job I have is keeping me stimulated. I need structure in my life and going to work gives it to me. Not everyone has that choice, I know. I hope you get out of the funk you are in really soon.
@thorgrym (675)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Normally, I can just bury myself in online projects and 'forget' about the hardships similar to working a job. I don't know why it isn't really helping me this time. I think that it was just an odd concurrence of things that just overwhelmed me.
I am already feeling much better, though! Still, a good night sleep will likely go a long way.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Definately. My circumstances were different though. I didn't get upset because I was not feeling well, I got upset because we kept incurring all of these big unexpected expenses, and there was a bit possibility that my husband was going to get laid off and instead of being able sock away extra money and get stuff paid off and get prepaired for the lay off one big exensive thing after another occured. It just got so bad one day I just broke down and cried, I just felt so darn helpless. I felt better after I cried. I hope you feel better. Watch a nice mindless comedy, that always seems to help a bit.
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
8 Mar 09
Hi,
Quite often...
when Body permits, but Mind does not Respond!
I meditate,pray during that time.I get back my concentration/focus.
Recapitulate Ur happier moments,go thro'old photographs...surely,it will refresh u!
=Lahiri,Kolkata,India.
@thorgrym (675)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Sometimes the old photos do more harm than good for me...reminders of more capable days. Praying definitely helps, though! I find that if I focus on future goals that does better for me than remembering the past. Today, however, even that didn't help.
I just finished a bowl of ice cream, though, and I feel a lot better!
@thorgrym (675)
• United States
8 Mar 09
As they say in Peter Pan, think happy thoughts! It is definitely helpful to focus on the positive and I am usually able to do that very thing. That is why I don't usually find myself in a mood that I don't want to be in.
All is good now, though!
Thanks for the response!
