torn between to lovers???
By pinky_laces
@pinky_laces (77)
Philippines
March 8, 2009 10:11pm CST
the situation goes like this.
There is a girl who has a boyfriend for 3 years now. I dont know what you call what she feel towars that guy because even if she caught that bf cheating on her twice already, she still forgive her and go on like nothing happen. It was February 2008 when she thought everything with that guy ended. He never contacted her like he used to and just sent her a text message once in a while and whe she called him, he doesnt answer his phone which is different to her. But when he talked to her, explain what happen, he forgave that guy even if she's confuse coz she feels that everything has changed and that her bf is doing something un pleasant like cheating on her but she just cant justify what she feels because ther is no evidence. She heard rumors that her bf has another gf but she just ignore it! (MARTIR!!!) When she already have proof about her bf cheating on her, she still forgave him... But there is barrier already. She said, that she really love that guy because she's afraid to lose him.
While fighting on her confusions, here comes a man. Young, handsome and very romantic. She tried to entertain him. What she do is that when she's upset with bf, she'll go that other man, talk to him. She have noticed that when she's with that other man, all she did is laugh... in short, that man is capable of making her happy. Then she just found herself, being a gf of that man. She doesnt have the will to tell the man that she has a bf and at the same time that bf that she has another man.
She is happy when she is with that mana and she has committed herself to that man that she's gonna say yes when he ask for her hand in marriage and at the same time to the bf. That bf would tell her that he would kill himself if she will leave her.
She dont know what to do now... She's afraid to leave that bf because she think she still love him and afraid to get hurt and at the same time afraid that he might really kill himself. Also afraid to lose that other man because she think she also loves that man....
If you were the girl, what should you do? LEave that man and bf? choose the bf for 3 years but cause her pain? or that another man for a few months but gave her laughters?
Leaving the 2 boys might hurt the three of them. Bf might kill himself... another man might hate her all his life...
Choosing bf, will she be happy having those confusions? will she realize that the loves that another man more that bf?
Choosing another man... what if she realize that she cant live without bf?
Conclusion: Will she live alone all her life??? :((
Whewwww!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELLPPPPPPP.........................
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8 responses
@blackmantra_x (2732)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
Good day.. Love like life is a risk, nothing is for certain and one must just accept things as they come whether be it good or bad. She can't have two men in her life. It wouldn't be fair to anyone and so she has to choose and sadly she's the only one that can decide who. Take a plunge, take a risk and maybe she'll find happiness in the end.
@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
9 Mar 09
I can say with all honesty that if someone cheated on me more than once, he would be a part of history. Obviously he will do it again, and doesnt love her. That would be a life of constant wonder and misery. But then again, she is cheating on her BF too so does that make her any better?
I wouldnt get involved with someone who said they would kill themselves either. A very unstable person.
But I guess the answer lies in what she really wants. A person to love her and one she can love in return, or a lifetime of players to use in a game of love.
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
9 Mar 09
No, she's no living alone all her life, she just has to overcome the crap with the unfaithful guy. She will when he proves to be worse than unfaithful which he undoubtedly will.
Being confused in relationships is natural and the course of events usually follows natural and promising lines of behaviour.
You can't fry eggs in water.
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
9 Mar 09
You should check on your grammar while you writing this piece. Too much confusion when you writing it, and I got headache already.
When that girl must make a choice between her boyfriend and the man she just fell in love with. She should pick the second one. Because the first one didn't really love her the way the second one committed to her. Her ex - boyfriend cheated on her; he didn't want to contact her in the very beginning. Why would she going back to him for? She should stick with the second man instead.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
I think one should look at the values she get from each person. I really think there is no love at all in the hands of her current BF. I ca see her more happy to be with the new guy that doesn't give her problem at all. Looking at her situation, I am seeing her as insecure of losing one over the other, I really think she should not bother herself anymore against the threat of the other since she deserves to be happy and not be threatened by anyone more so by his BF. I do not see any value in her current BF as he has betrayed her several times already and I guess it is just right that he chooses the one she feels happy and contented to.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
I think pinky_laces she's just wanted assurance, who is the right person for her, and really finding the right man. We make our own life, we make our own choices, and all of us deserve to be happy. In the long run she will take the consequences of her actions, and she knows that. She might just leave both of them in the end, or just choosing the right man for her, who could accept her for what she is. I know that she's also getting hurt by his real bf, she's doing it with a reason, but she is also confuse and distract. We only have one heart, and we can only love one person, and leave with one person. Some people would say that her actions is not justify cause she's cheating. If she really love her bf, and have done her part, understanding even it's hurting still she's there for him, martyr yes but there is a time when enough is enough that is why she did have another guy, to lean on to make her happy and wanted. I think you just have to think of really what you deserve, what you really want. It takes time to heal the wounds that she's having and that is bitter sweet then loosing both of this guys in the end. It's just a matter of fixing life and that is a matter of choice what will make her happy. Or would she just want time to let her know what is best to her. Have a nice day! God be with you!
