Do you say straightforward No to a friend when you don't want to do something.

Yes I am. My friends know me as a straightforward person, in fact when they want to know something that is good or bad for them they ask me first because they know if theres something which I know is not good for them whether that something is very significant to them, I tell them right away that it will do no good to them.

i can go out of my way for my friend and help out in any way i can. but there are time where it is really beyond my capacity and need to say no. it is hard to say no but i still say it straightforward. true friends understand.

If possible I don't say NO to close friends but if really it's required by the situation, yes, I have to say No to her straightforwardly. I know he'll understand.

hi pranesh, I agree that it is really difficult to say "No" to our friends especially to those who are really so close with us.As for me, I cannot say straightforward "No" to my friends but I still tried it in an implied way.For example, if they are trying to invite me for a birthday party which I know I cannot make. What I am doing is trying to tell them first my situation. I will say that I really want to go there but I am afraid I cannot, and then I will tell them the reasons.As for me, if friends are really good to you, they will understand you. They will also consider your situation and will not get that mad. I think that, it is not that bad saying "No" to our friends. What we just have to do is to give our best to explain our side so they can understand us.We must explain as much as we can so to avoid their feelings to be hurt.Remember that true friendship is a "give and take relationship". We really cannot please everybody even our friends all the time. And I can say that all of us must accept that reality.Remember that too much of something is bad. Too much spending of your time with your friend for them to be please with you is bad. Learn how to balance things on your own.Nobody is perfect and we cannot say that we can be on our friends side all the time.If they are true friends, they will understand you. Be not afraid to tell them your side. Everyone of us must learn to grow.Hope this contributes.

It depends on a situation. I can say straightforward NO to my friend if he/she ask something which I find it hard to do or if it is bad or negative. But sometimes I will just do the favor when I find it hard to say no especially to those people who are really close to me but it depends again on the favor that he/she asking for.

yes, i can say no straight forward to my friend. i owe it as a form of respect to myself and to my friend to tell her the truth. this is just one situation that can attest a true friendship.

i find it difficult to say no to a friend. i would feel bad and my conscience would hunt me through the day and in the end, i would say yes to whatever it is that they ask me.. I'm try to limit my saying YES to my friends and learning to say NO since i know that it's alright to say NO especially when i know i can't do the thing/s that they want to ask me or let me do.

I'ts always best to be honest, tell them no if that's what you wan't to do. Don't make yourself uncomfortable for anyone.

That's depends on what kind of favor does my friends asks from me.But during my colleges days lots of my friends always asked me to do thier assignment and research but i do say NO all the time and give them a reason. But for a simple things, i do give them a help as long as im not busy. Happy posting.

There is no hesitation for me to say "no" to my friend if I want to say no.He is my friend and i can say it with ease.If that friend likes to dominate you like a boss,then that relationship shall not be called friendship.A good friend will know through your eyes what you like and what you don't.If not,he can't be a good friend.Cheers!

This seems to be question.... how we shy away ourselves when our friend comes in search of help ......being straight forward does solve a lot of problems but it can backed by the reason that why you are turning it down.....instead of being half hearted...you can either say yes or no!!!!...keep it as simple as that....

I think it depends how much you understand each other. Their are many stories about friendship in China. One of them is the friendship of Guan And Bao. Guan and Bao was friends and did businesses together. But every time Guan took most of the profit. When others told it to Bao, he said that Guan's family was poor and needed more money, while he didn't need. Besides, Bao recommended Guan as premier to King Qihuangong. But when Guan was to die, King Qihuangong said to him that he want Bao to be the premier. Guan said Bao could not be competent for the position. And Bao had not been at the position of premier all his life. But he didn't hate Guan at all. Though there are very few friendship like Guan and Bao, we should be work hard to reach its level. The first thing we should do is to pay out.Only you can pay out, you will gain in the future.

I understand how you feel. It's hard for me to say NO to my friend at times. I use to have this one friend that drove my husband nuts, she wouldn't understand that I had other things to do or is I didn't feel like going. She would keep nagging me till I said yes; at some point I kinda dreaded answering her calls. of course I felt bd about that to. I think friends need to understand when their friend can't do something and don't exploit their friends kindness.

Earlier I would hesitate but now when have realized that it is rather harming one to keep two feet on two boat, now I do speak straightforward if anything is going on that I do not like or many people do not like. It helps the person a lot but you tell it in such a way that he/she does not feel hurt.

It is tough for me. many times i really want to say. also not able to do many times.May be now i should clearly say no.

it's hard for me to tell friends no when they ask me to do things with them sometimes... but if i REALLY don't feel like doing it... i will come up with something lol.. or just tell them.. usually if i don't feel like doing it that bad there is a good reason behind it like being sick or something... but it can be hard to tell friends no.. we don't want to let down our friends... and i love being around them and always want to be...but sometimes we just can't.

I find it hard to say no directly too. I usually try and reply in the most sensitive way that I can if I can't say yes to whatever it may be that they are asking of me. It's always good to be honest, but I think it's also important to try not to hurt those that you care about

well being straightforward means your sincere. it only means that you care for your friendship. but you should think of ways on how to deliver it. the means should be considered.

For me, it all depends on which friends I am with. I have some friends that I can be very straightforward with and I have other friends that I would find it hard to say no to. overall, your friends should understand you better than the average person because they know you, and they should understand.

Well, it depends. If i respect the person a lot i tend to be really kind and do whatever they want or need help with. if i dont respect them(normally because they dont respect me in the first place!!) then i tend to say no and be more stern. having a backbone is always good, but theres certain times that its inappropriate to say no to a friend!