divorce

i would have togo with the bible on this one the only real legitamat reason for divorse is if eaither person has broken there vows and both people have tried to make reconsile but have found it impossible

The only reason I think a divorce should be allowed is if the man or woman is beating the other one or sleeping with someone else. I think the divorce rates have gone up so much because to many people are jumping into getting married. They don't seem to look at it as a life long commitment anymore. I do and I feel I am traditional for that. could be the reason I have never been married yet!

i was never in favor of divorce. really, nor i am never in favor of married couples going separate lives again. because for me, marriage is the most sacred thing that would ever happen to mankind. when thy exchanges vows, they were like exchanging hearts and life. i suggest them to try all over again, may be it would still work out for the both of them. start from scratch again. maybe separate houses will do at first, then they start from friendship again, talking things over what has been wrong, or what has happen. from this they might decide things for their own good. but if then, they know they would both be happier apart then may be it's really time for them to separate. they rather divorce than live their married life like hell. it's really sad to see a couple separating but if that's what going to give them peaceful life then so be it.

Some times people just grow apart. I got married when I was 18 years old. When I was 27, I just had to leave. He was killing me, mentally killing me. I only had 54 kilos, and was almost always sick or on the way to be. By the time you need to through up every time your partner touches you, it is time to go. And I did. For me it was the best solution to find happiness. Within 6 months I had gained 10 kilo's and was a healthy women once again. Take care.

I think too many people today see divorce as an easy way out of a difficult situation. Rather than work things out, they simply choose to walk away. Now I've come close to divorcing my current hubs a few times. But I as I take my marriage vows seriously it will take more than the opinion of others and the easiness of divorce to make me follow through. I made a commitment and I feel it's my responsibility to make that commitment mean something. But on the other hand, I will not allow anyone, least of all the person who is supposed to love me and cherish, turn me into someone I'm not or crush my spirit to the point of no return. If that happens, I'm gone like the wind.......

ah..sorry to hear about any divorce with two love hearts. and it seems divorce comes together with marriage and this make things equal. i once read something about this that said person can not live togeter long only for love, comman life also requires related manner, habits, views of value. and so on and so forth, so only learn each other more before get married can reduce the divorce . anyway happy mylot.

Now the rate of divorce is increasing in a alarming ratio and small small problem leads to majority of divorce cases.Divorce is the last step,before it we have to try all other possible solutions or alternative. Divorce can be a painful experience and can leave both people empty and bitter. It's a shame because Divorce can be avoided.The nuclear family system plays an integral role in our society. Today, divorce which occurs for a multitude of reasons, is on the rise and has a negative impact on every individual member of the family and society as a whole. Solutions must be implemented if this institution is to remain a strong element in the social fabric of our society. Solutions for divorce should be more actively executed so that the stability of the family can be preserved. There are a number of solutions which could aid in reducing the divorce rate in this country. One logical solution to divorce is to ascribe the importance of family values to children at a young age. Doing this will fortify an individuals sentiments towards family values in later years to come. This incintive could be the most impacting solution to offer. Through a deductive logical process, the individual will still have ample opportunity, to question these ascribed values, and come to their own rational conclusions on such beliefs. Also, parents who are contemplating a divorce should be encouraged to work out their various issues so that the marriage can remain intact. In some circumstances in which a married couple seeks to resolve an issue, it may be pertinent to seek the help of an outside professional entity. One such option is marital counseling. Shifting attitudes to focus on the greater well-being of the family unit as opposed to one individuals particular dilemma, is an idea which could also aid in keeping the family together in difficult times. If the importance of marriage can be strengthened among the people of our society, it would ultimately promote the country’s political system to adjust its goals towards encouraging cohesive marriages more of a priority. Various programs could be implemented to aid in the reduction of divorce. For, example in order to obtain a divorce within one’s state it could be mandated that a divorce education program be taken. Politically implemented programs that function through both reward and consequence could make an impact on divorce rates.

I think that two people need to really work out their problems and differences before they decide on divorce. My fiance and I are working together to understand each other before we marry, and we have a pastor who is to marry us and who is going to counsel us. I think that divorce should be a last resort.

I think that divorce has become way to common. I think that once you are married you should truely give it everything you are and try and work out differences. I think that adultry is a srong ground because there are very few people that are strong enough to overcome such a betrayel. I think this also depends on people and their circumstances too. I mean..we can't really judge them or decide what strong ground their divorce is based on without being in their shoes. I also think that people rush into things and then realize they are not with the person they thought they were. Nice discussion!

If vows have been broken should be the only grounds, but even then sometimes people work around what has happened. In my view just about everything can be worked out and mended, but both parties need to want to accomplish this, and sometimes it's a hard process and a long process, but if it is true love then this should not matter. You married your partner because they are your soul mate, so nothing should come between saving what you once had and rebuilding to what you once had.

That is a question that has many answers. In a lot of cases, I think people dont try hard enough. Its too easy to get married in the first place and they marry too young or for the wrong reasons. In some cases, its just a matter of working it out, understanding and respecting the other person and being less selfish. Marriage takes a lot of work to make it last forever. On the other hand, there are situations where divorce is the ultimate solution. It could be for the safety of one of the partners or children because of abusive relationships. In this case, I agree divorce is the solution. And sometimes, 2 people are just not compatable no matter how hard they try. In that case, there is no sense in continuing a life of unhappiness. Life is short as it is and should be lived to its fullest. Having the right person to share it with forever, is the icing on the cake.

there is no simple answer to that question. i think a lot of people get divorced too quickly but that is because they got married too quickly. when you think about getting divorced i think that you need to look at your marriage from before it started. you need to be honest about what your motive was for getting married and then figure out what went wrong. maybe from there you can figure out if it can be fixed or it is hopeless. sometimes when one of the partners is not mature enough for marriage it takes a few years for that to come to light. then they have "grown up" and find they are in a marriage with someone they don't even like. or the person wants them to be the same person they married but that person has changed and now they have differences that make them unhappy with each other. I still feel strongly that it should be harder to get married and maybe require people to go through counseling or something just to save pain later on.

Divorce is certainly not the solution to all problems. I beleive that whatever problem a couple is facing, they should sit with each other and talk. It is very easy to break something, and equally dufficult to make something. So instead of breaking one should try to make the relationship stronger. Don't we have problems with our parents, siblings, relatives, friends? Do we break our relationship with them for that? NO.. Then why for spouse? Why can't we be little more patient and understanding towards our partners? Instead of blaming them, we should try to find our own faults first. Bt there are certain ocassions when things just go beyond our hands and where divorce remains the only solution. For me, what is the most important is fidelity, trust and respect. If I see any of these be misssing then probably then will be the reason for me to opt for this choice that is divorce. Baecause I also believe there is no reason for bearing the burden of a broken relationship.

with divorce, marriage had become a not so serious thing.. i mean husbands or wives now can just come and go and the most common reason is irreconcilable differences. If you marry a person you accept their strengths most all their weaknesses. but i think divorce could happen if there is violence involved.. i think it would be dangerous for somebody to stay in a relationship that is abusive. but i think that should be the only reason for divorce....

it's really a sad topic. but maybe some people face to it. i think marriage is a duty to the partner. if you married with her/him, you should consider to live with her/him in your life. especially children can't bear only mother or father in their life. they hope a warm family.so i think if there is no strong ground,don't divorce. i need give my children a whole family. so if i have children, i can bear everything. but if he beats me, maybe i will divorce. because i think my life is above love. don't you think so?

i think this is case to case basis. you can only fall in true love just once... never twice.. if you find yourself looking for a way to get rid of your partner maybe its not just really going to work... like why do you look for way to get you two separated when you find your true partner? got some friends who got married and got separated but now living with another person and it all worked well.. i think there is really a person that is meant to be with you forever. a strong ground of having a divorce for me.... if the person cannot be trusted anymore....