who decides for your "endearment", you or your partner?

my husband calls me lola (which is a filipino term for grandmother) although i'm just 34. it started when he asked me how old i was since i wan't the average looking disc jockey that he met. my clothes weren't that casual. it was more of business casual since disc jockeying was only my part time job and my other work was as a teacher. when he found out i was 27 i told him, "too old for a disc-jockey, right?" that's how lola started. of course, he is lolo (filipino term for grandfather). funny thing is when you ask our child where his (real) lolo and lola are he points directly at us.

i think it's me who gave our endearment. actually, we haven't agreed on any term at first. just then one day i called him xin ai. as far as i know it's a chinese word for love or beloved. and because he's a filipino-chinese i thought of calling him in chinese term. he kinda liked it. so from then, we called each other xin ai. i don't know if it makes sense or if it is unique but most of the people who hear us calling each other xin ai usually asks what does it mean. then they'll comment like "wow...s unique... so sweet of you!". and we just look at each other. haha. whatever endearment it is i believe that it makes more sense if you call your partner with feelings and true endearment and not because you just wanted to sound sweet. whether it may be, baby, darling, honey, sweetheart, my love... and so on. what matters most is the way you say it with love... thats all. happy mylotting!

Hello cathya! My husband and I called each other honey. Every single day that's what we say toe each other. It is even awkward calling his name now. I usually said when I am angry or something. I am the one who said it first. It's his first phone call to me and then I don't why it came out to me..heheheh..The rest is history..lol

Hello Cathya. My redheaded soldier is my special love one and because he's a redhead, well that just opens the door for many other names to follow. He calls me names like, "Honey, darling and dear" but the one name he calls me that just makes me all giddy inside is, "Babydoll". I don't know why, but that name just is so sweet and I've claimed that as his name to me. *Pleiades

Endearment towards me should be decided by my partner because endearment is his way of showing how he feels about you or how deep your affection to him. Like for us, I call him Mahal Ko (my love) possessively showing that he's mine. He calls me Baby Ko (my baby) because for him I'm his baby.

hello cathya, during our early years, my husband and i used to call each other "pards" shortcut for pare !!but when our eldest son turns 1 year old (he's almost 4 now)we decided to call each other mommy and daddy respectively.that's because my son that time starting to imitate what we say or what we do..so we've decided to change our endearment from pards to mommy-daddy.

For me it's my fiancee, it just comes out in her mind and her mouth. But usually we call each other Love. But lately I call her sexy and she calls me handsome. Sometimes it's nice to hear something different hahaha! Have a nice day to you!

I think it came naturally ...I don't recall any discussion or decision of the endearments. We called each other 'darling' and then I subsequently shortened it to 'darl'.

Well, I have to say it's my bf decides whatever he'd like to call me, lol. Most time it's "honey" and sometimes he'd call my English name and sometimes it's baby in Chinese, hahaha. I used to call him "baby", but he said that it's not a good endearment for a man, lol. I think he watches too much Prison Break and baby for a man is not good in that soap opera. So I have changed it to honey, hahaha, crazy bf!

I think your partner decides what they are going to call you other then your name. My husband has a few names but most of the time it's "baby". Namaste-Anora

me and my partner use "honey" as a term for endearment... no one decides for this to be the term... it just happened, then just find ourselves calling honey everyday... hehehe...

honey, i just call him "hon". and then i heard him calling me honey...

It doesn't matter who decides what endearment to be used by lovers as long as they both agree on what to call each other.. what matter most is how you treasure each other... Even though how sweet endearments are? if the relationship is based on lies, quarrels its useless... Love, respect and understanding are the factors that makes a relationship sweet.