does it matter??????????????????
By parthu28
@parthu28 (498)
India
March 10, 2009 6:34am CST
hey friends........
i have always wanted to know the answer to the question that :-
"does it really matter that who proposed when it comes to a relationship????????????"
i mean it is said so that it has to come form the guy's side always.............it is the unsaid rule kind of a thing...but in case of my realtionship.it was my love who came ahead.........
actually none of us proposed but she was the one who came forth n asked to me continue the realtionship when i was at the urge of leaving her for some stupid fears of mine........she was the one who made me realize how deeply i was in love with her n how much one could love another.she cried out for month together but never uttereed anything..............
but today we are happier than many people around us n really looking forward for our life to be spent together...........
according to me who proposed doesnt matter,rather a proposal is not required when the love is so obvious.........you dont need to say.just one small gesture of ur's can make the one understand.........thats how it started for both of us...........
what do you think about this???????
8 responses
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
11 Mar 09
At the end of the day I suppose it doesn’t' matter who does the proposing. Having said that I did enjoy my husband proposing to me and there is a big part of me who still prefers the man to be the one to take the initiative, it's just a girly thing I guess! Just like it doesn't seem to matter these days whether a couple is married or not when they live together, a woman proposing is no big deal really. I am happy for you and I am glad the one you love has helped you to realize how much she means to you. It's true who proposed and whether you are married or not is not as important as the love you have for each other. 
@parthu28 (498)
• India
11 Mar 09
thanks paula .. now that i know you are a girl he he.. i understand i am very luckey to have a person like that with me forever , in fact it gives hope for the rest of the life to follow. speaking truthfully i would have never known what love is if not for her. now that you agree with me i am happy that i haven't committed a sin by getting a girl ask me.. heh eh
@Xenosaiyan (66)
• United States
19 Mar 09
To be honest with you, it doesn't really matter. Because for someone like me, I'll probably never propose to a woman because I'd be too scared to enter into such a relationship. Just kidding, if she's the one, I'll marry her. But, if it takes too long, it is best for the woman to propose because I know some people who were meant to be, they waited too long and broke up. Married two other people. Weren't happy, left them and got together again 11 years later. They were happy till this day, and they're still happy. The point is, either one should propose in order to save the relationship.
@aakashmanu (199)
• India
11 Mar 09
U r absolutely on the money Parthu,even in my case i was shy to propose her but she took the initiative and hinted me that it was time to get involved in serious love.First of all i was shy of proposing her and that is the reason why i didn't proposed her for 2 years,but then she told her friend to tell me that she loved me and all of my fears were gone and we were happy together.So in my view whoever takes the initiative i think it doesn't matter.
@demynangel (14)
• Malaysia
11 Mar 09
i totally agree with you. like me, i proposed to him to take our relationship further, because i know, if i didnt say it, he would never do. so, the saying that says men should make the first move is not applicable anymore, i think.
@major310 (42)
• United States
15 Mar 09
It only matters if you been together too long and still don't ask to marry, women get bothered over this a lot more than men, we don't care when but women rather have it done as soon as possible because the longer you stall the more she thinks you don't want to marry her and you are just with her to be under the sheets.
@hcromer (2710)
• United States
10 Mar 09
I don't know any female who would want to be the one who proposes. Females dream of marriage for most of their lives and plan out some of the details of their weddings well before they are even engaged. I would never ask a guy to marry me and if they never asked, I would just move on to someone else because I'm not going to date someone for the rest of my life, I want to get married and have a family.
@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
11 Mar 09
In different culture, there are different interpretations. It was considered not appropriate for girls to propose, but nowadays, it becomes better accepted, if not popular. There are usually two possibilities, in my understanding.
One is the girl has good sense of confidence. She trusts her judgement and her feeling, and does not scare being challenges for being the proposer, with positive overall competence.
The other is for relatively weak girls, who do not want to miss a good choice. Sometimes, even with parents support, she wants to settle in the relationship with a promising boy but with inferior financial status.
From my observation, they should not bring about potential issues, as long as they know how to maintain and develop their relationship.
