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Well, about a week and a half ago my step-daughter came back to live with us. This past July we took her to CA to live with her mother, because of the trouble she would get into where we live. Also, because she didn't want to follow rules or anything else for that matter. She's only 15 and she thinks we should let her do whatever she wants. She purposely did everything she could to TRY to distroy my marriage with my husband. She's a pathological liar and just a down right rebel. If you don't want her to do it, she's gonna do it. Well a week and a half ago her mother calls and says she can't do it anymore with her. Either we take her back or she letting the state take her. What where we suppose to say to that? Of course we don't want the state to take her, but how do you think we're going to handle her? That's why we ended up sending her to begin with! So we took her back. There very next day after asking us to take her, she was on the plane. Well, she was getting into a lot of trouble in CA. More than here. She was drinking every night, and doing drugs like cocain. So we had her grounded, but only from the computer and going out. She could still see her friends. She still had her phone. She pretty much had all her priviliges, just not those two. So she goes and stays with my sister Sunday night, and while my sister is out in town with me (We left her and my 14 year old neice at home to babysit, while my sister took me home) we get a phone call from my 7 year old neice saying she leaving. And some guy is there. So I get on the phone with her, and tell her she's not to go anywhere. Period. And that guy needs to leave. He can come back when my sister gets home if he wants to, but as of right now he needed to leave. Then I got on the phone with the guy who was 19. I was very nice and he was nice as well. I told him that none of those girls were even 16 yet, and that if something happened and the MP's were called he would get introuble not being family. He needed to leave.(Also she had make-up caked on her face, and was wearing a shirt pulled up to her breast! So all skin was showing!!) So the next day I go to get her and I take her phone for her dad because he said it was the whole disrespect thing. On our way to her dads work she's crying in the car. I ask whats wrong, she doesn't want to tell me. "It's about her" Then we get to her dads work and I see she has something in her hand. I tell her to show me. We argue and finally she shows me. It's a razor! So I take it from her. I knew she was just doing this for attention and because we took her phone! I leave her at work with my husband and she calls the cops saying she slit her wrist and is bleeding badly. She didn't even cut herself! But they take her to the hospital to be evaluated and all this good stuff. Well, my husbands not on the birth certificate and therefor we really don't even have guardianship over her. Her mother still does. Actually my husband isn't her real father but he raised her from a baby and by himself her whole life. Well the cops told him he needs to get a lawyer and get custody. The thing is we have a newborn who we're trying to raise right, and in a stress-free environment. And when his daughter gets mad she doesn't think and we are scared she will harm our baby girl because she knows that she means so much to us too. My husband says he doesn't know if he wants to do that because he doesn't want to have to deal with this everytime we take her phone! Well the caseworker at the hospital called and said she does have problems they're going to admit her into a mental hospital. He said she told him all kind of storys, which he figured was lies, and that she didn't like our rules and didn't want to go to school, ect. The case worker told her we were not going to put up with this because he is a parent and he wouldn't. What are we suppose to do? We tried and it's only been a week and a half, and this is just going to keep happening! I'm scared for my daughter, as is he, and we just don't know what to do. We tried for about a year and a half before we sent her to CA and we couldn't do anything then. Any advice? What would you do?