living with parents?

I first left my parents house when I was 14 years old. Then I ended up having to go back at the age of 16. Then I left again at the age of 18. Then went back at the age of 21. Then I left again at age 22. Since then I have lived with my husband. I live in Canada. I do not think that living with your parents is a bad thing, but here too many kids just do not get along with their kids and vice versa.

i would love to stay with my parents for ever.

hi sandragellar am from the Philippines and living with parents is not that a major issue here, i think having a family of your own will be the "sign" that you can be separated and live with your own (ofcourse together with your own fam) but if you're a girl like in my situation your husband is responsible in taking you a living/home and if you're a man your family can stay with the hubby's side. when i gave birth i used to live with hubby's side even i wanted to stay at our home hehe but we don't have a helper then and it's hard for me to travel from home to my place of work so we decided to live with hubby's family first while waiting for our new house and transfer there . value of family and having family ties are very good foundation on building your own family- it passes the good traits that your family has and where you from. ;) thanks for posting!:) happy myLotting!;) Godabless!0=)

Since birth until the time before I get married I was living with my parents. But when I get married eight years ago, I started living with my husband on our own. In that way we are learning everything about family.

Hi there...I moved out when I was 17 years old, right after I finished high school. I went on a vacation 1200 miles away and never moved back home. I do think that culture has a lot to do with it. I know when I was younger, all kids thought about was when they were old enough to get their own place. It was the thing to do. I think we do encourage our children to be independant and feel they should know how to survive on their own. I think values change so much with the generations here, that living with different generations in the same house, would not work so well here. There are many who have trouble just living with their parents never mind grandparents too. It would be a nightmare in most cases. We all develop our own ways and personalities at young ages and dont as readily follow ways and traditions as they do in other countries.

were the same Im from Philippines and I guess the whole clan of mine living in one compound.XDD

Hello from Philippines :) I was 19 years old when I decided to support myself and live on my own so I was a working student at that time. I am the only one in the family who did that. My mother calls me as her "independent child". The "extended family" is the arrangement where grandparents, parents and siblings live in one house. I do not like this kind of thing for many reasons: (1) The siblings tend to grew up spoiled and lazy. They are always depending on their parents, thus they don't like to work after they graduated from college as I have seen that from my brother and sister, and other cousins. (2) The parents become dependent to their siblings but on the other hand, most of us fell in love and wants to have our own family in the future. In this situation, it makes the parents paranoid sometimes, thinking that their siblings is going to leave and abandon them forever which is not. Aged parents here in the Philippines doesn't have retirement plan and thats why they depend on their siblings in case they get sick or want to go for a vacation. I don't mind taking care of my parents but you know I have to mind my own life and not just them. I would like to train my future child to be independent when he/she reaches 18 years old. It will surely affect somebody's life but its for the better. The independent person will also know the value of money and will spend it more wisely, unlike with spoiled siblings who just like to spend for nothing with the hard-eared money of their parents. Makes sense, right?

I am a filipino and yes, thats true. In my case, right now, i live with my parents with my 6 years old son. I actually move out when i was 22 when i get married. But when me and my husband separate, i dont have choice but to go back with my parents house and live there since we dont have a house yet and my husband dont bother to invest a house for his family and that is the main reason why i decided to leave him because of being so irresponsible. Last year, i really wanted to move out and find a home foe me and my son but i cant do it because my parents are both old and they dont want us to leave them. They dont want me to waste my money for renting instead just save it to buy a house or lot in the future. So, inshort, i live with my parents. The only people there is me, my son, my father and mother. We are all 4 inside the house living happy and full of love!

I moved out of my parents house when I got married six years ago, but now, since times are tough, we are preparing to move in with them again with our two kids. Renting a place to stay in can be quite heavy on the budget as well as the utility bills. If we move in with my parents, we will be able to save on the rent and lower down our overhead expenses.

I went away to college at 18 but went home during vacations until I was 21 when I started work. I moved out completely when I got married at 23 (far too young!!) My sons moved out at about 20 to follow their careers.

I sandra, In the Uk it is unheard of married couples living with the husband's mother or the other way round as tow woman cannot get on in the same house and in the same kitchen, as the new wife would like to cook for the husband but the mother would interfer and wants to cook for the son, so in this country when you marry, you just find your own home and the couple always plan to get the home before they are married or just live togeher first then get married, bugt would never dream of living with the in-laws. Tamara

The country where I live has the best culture with regard to respect elders.Since my childhood my parents looked after me better than my 2 brothers & a sister.It might be quiet natural to look after me like that as I was the youngest.I am 35 yrs now with 2 kids & still live with my parents.At their age now they need to be looked after by their children.My brothers & my sister live far away.My parents make it a point to be with their 4 children for 3 months each in a year eventhough they have their own house.We are very close to eachother & there is no need to think of living seperately.

I live in the USA and I moved out at 17. I think that it is ok to live with your family for longer but it is not ok to not do your share if you do. I only know one person who lives at home with his mom and he is 27, he has a great job and everything, but he stays at home to help his mom pay bills. I think that that is a good reason to not move out. I would allow my children to live at home as long as thye were willing to follow the rules, the thing is that most teenagers in the US do not care to stay at home and insead want to move out and live on their own because there is more freedom in it. I can see an advantage to having many generations in the same home, I just do not think that it would work with my family.

i'm from the philippines myself. however, my siblings and i were still teenagers when our parents told us that the moment we get married we have to move out of the house. they did it on their own with them opting for the long separation of my father working abroad so that we can stand on our own. my parents said that if they can do that with 5 children we can and we should. i'm the firstborn and the only one married and not living anymore with my parents. unfortunately, for them, i can feel that they would always want us to be there for they miss their grandchild. however, this standing on our own feet is something i'm proud of. take note that i am a stay at home mom. forgive me but i don't see the sense of starting one's own family with the reality of that new family staying with another family.

Hello kabayan, yes i agree with you. Our country has the culture of close family ties and its really a strong custom that up to this time its still exist. That is why many foreigners likes the way we value our family and the way we take care. However this days many have been influence and changes due to mix culture of new generation but of course the old folks have surely remain and turn over their culture, custom and beliefs to young ones. I didn't say that children should still stay at their parents when the fact that they are capable to live on their own but what i am trying to say is that our country is one of the most like tradition when it comes to family values. So in my own opinion if i'm going to have a children and when they are in the right age and that they want to be independent then i will let them but of course the filipino values is still there. I'm just letting them to let them learn how to be independent but not to forget the core of filipino values especially to family values. I would always love if one or all of my children is near me or live with me because it's happiness to be with your love ones but that not mean to say they will depend on me of course. Anyways, living with parents or not living with parents have their advantage and disadvanatages, so learning to balance both is a very good thing people will learn.

I moved out when I was eighteen, but then came back. I've lived out of a relatives home and then went back to the relatives home. Right now I live with my fiance and his parents. I don't mind living with a family member or members, and I think that it is actually quite enjoyable. I live in the USA by the way, and love it here (the house in which My fiance and I stay with his parents.) We enjoy the quietness of the place, and we never quarrel with one another. I think that is the reason why so many people do leave the home, for freedom and independence. I left my relatives homes for privacy. My fiance and I do not plan to move anytime soon, but we do plan to find work and help with the household bills and such.

well, i lived with my parents until my first year of college, that means from October 2007. Then i moved to another city,and i`m not living with them anymore, but they still send me money to live here, and i really hate that, but taxes are high, and living in another city, paying a rent and so on, it`s really hard... But i worked 3 months last year, but it was so hard, to work 8hours and then or before going to college. I`m from Romania, and here, i think that all the young couples will stay a little with their family, and they , they buy their own home, with a credit from the bank, and so on. That`s what the most of us are doing here..in Romania. But sure, there are families and families, and sure that there are some that really stay with their parents some good years..

I left home right after I finished high school at age 17. I then drove across the country with a friend and stayed in the East until I was 23. After that, I moved back to the west, but still on my own. I never returned home. I think that the problem with society in North America is that we don't tend to look after and respect our elders. (I am generalizing here - so don't get offended if this is not the case for you). I am just saying that we as a society, tend to put elderly relatives in care homes when many other cultures keep them in their own homes and love and respect them. It's sad that so many elderly people are just sent off to homes.

i am currently still living with my parents. two reasons for that: a) still not married yet b) will need to look after my mom Well once i'm married guess my dad will need to quit his job and i will need to move out. Well that's how things works in our life.

I came from the same country as you are and indeed most of us live in an extended family. I was 21 when I left home to take on a first job at a different city. I was away from home for about 6 months until I decided to quit taking on a job just near where my mom was living. So I moved again with her. I permanently moved out from home when I was 24 when I relocated again because of work. I had ever since lived on my own up to the time I got married and raised a family of my own.