have you thought of breaking up with a person because you love him too much?

The fact is always inclined to develop to what you think. You think it will be better, then it will be better. I meet a very beautiful girl when I was a post-graduate. She shew her love to me. But I refused because I think I was not good enough to match her. At the end, she went into another boy's arms. I felt very sad when say blessing to her at that moment. But I must take on the result. So I advise you that when you think about something, please think again and again, then to make decision. There is no one selling the regretting pills. Finally, I hope your above idea dispear quickly. Best wishes.

I don't think you wanna break up with him because you love him too much. I think its the whole insecurity issues. When you feel like you're not good enough for him, its a sign of being insecure of yourself. The fear of him cheating on you sounds like you don't fully trust him... Anyway, thats just my opinion. The only reason, I think to break up with someone you love/still love, is when you feel like you don't bring out the best in each other anymore. You break up when you know that instead of growing and maturing, you become immature. You break up when you can't RELATE with each other anymore. Its a relationship after all, there has to be something that connects you with that person.

For me its so stupid decision or moves to break up with your boyfriend just because you love him so much unless your boyfriend doesn't love you and he's in love with someone else then maybe that is a valid moves or decisions to make. However, breaking up with him just because you are scared that you love him so much and he might hurt you then I think that's not really a true love. I believe that love is the most powerful thing in this world. When you love someone or when you engage your self into a relationship you must be ready and open to hurt and accept all the possibilities might happen because when you love there is always a sequel of pain, and no matter you don't like it to happen still unexpected things will happen. If you really love him you shouldn't think of that kind of thing. You must always think the happy memories that you had spend with each other and the positive results of being together forever.. In the way you were saying above, it only show to me that you don't trust him.. Because if you truly trust him then you will not think that way 'cause you are more that 100% sure that he won't hurt you.. Anyway, these were just my opinion and hope you're not mad at me..

hehhe.. I'm sorry.. but yes, I think that's a little bit crazy.. But I have met people like you.. My dear college friend was like that.. out of the blue, she said she'd break up with her bf cause she loves him so much that she doesn't want him to have a girl who isn't fit for him... but when I asked the bf about his thoughts of my friend's break up proposal (not mentioning the reason), he said, he doesn't know what else is he lacking to be fit for a perfect girl like my friend... I think, relationship works out best when two people expects less from one another and accepts one another as they are, most especially when they communicate properly their feelings towards one another... after all, when you felt that you love your partner, you didn't know he snores when he sleeps, neither does he picks his nose in public or spits on the road.. it was when, no matter how you already hate him, you still want to see him or talk to him or whatever.. Imagine breaking up with him and helping yourself love some one you expect to be of a lower standard, it's unfair to the guy and to YOU as well...

crazy may it sound but it happens. it's what you call "defense mechanism". too scared to end up being hurt in the end when you have already invested so much so you just feel like cutting it off while it's still early... but you know what? based from my experience it didn't work for me. the last time me and my ex had our conversation, you know what he told me? he said, he thought i don't want our relationship to work out because i would always dare him to end our relationship every time we're getting into an argument. by the way he already got married last year. so that's what i can advise to everyone, do not send wrong signal because most often than not, it backfires. especially to women, we tend to over think things yeah. im just sharing my experience coz it was really a lesson to me. i have this close friend who advised me never use "c,mon let's break-up" phrase as a habit. she told me that's their agreement before when she and her now husband were still in the early part of their boyfriend/girlfriend stage. she told me make sure that once those words come out, you mean it.

yes. and i did it once when i was 22. we were so in love with each other but insecurity got me, so i broke up with him. we did every single thing together, so, i cant bear thinking all the what if : what if he leaves me, what if he fall for someone else, so on and so forth. so, i made up my mind, to leave him for good.

people say that it is better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all. You are already with your BF so don't let your doubts ruin your relationship with him. Obviously, he thinks that you are good enough for him that is why he is willing to commit himself to you right? so don't worry about what you think, its what he thinks that is important. About self-preservation, you have already committed to the relationship therefore you are already taking that risk... the risk of possibly getting hurt, but worrying about it or wanting to break up with your BF for something that has not yet happened (and might never happen) is foolishness. Its normal to have fears but it is still up to you if you will entertain them or not. My advice, ignore them and just enjoy living life with your loved ones.

nothing crazy in that... i turned her down, even when i loved her so madly, out of fear that we are never going to make it together.. i mean i thought i am not the person for her and i will never be in a position to give her what she deserves... ha ha ha ha but you know what happened!!!! at last she got what she deserved .. or rather i got what i deserved.. she made me give up my crazy ideas with her love and now i am here the most happiest person in the world... i love her and she loves me i will never need to think of bad times that would never come.. i realize she loves me as much as i love her.. so when i cannot intend to cheat her how could she ????

Maybe, I thought if i love somebody too much, and I married him, I will be too tired as I have to care so much, like whether I did good enough today, whether I wear right today…… although it maybe too tired to live, I really want to find true love of my life, and live a whole life, as I will happy in future.

you sound like you're still a teenager. well, life is complicated enough you'd soon find out. simplify things and everything would be a piece of cake. you like it, take it. you don't like it, discard it. you doubt it, think about it. then decide and stick to your decision. a fickle mind gets another fickle mind. it's going to be more complicated if you make it complicated yourself.

Firstly i want to ask you a questain that will you live afairedely and teared everyday if someone tall you that you will die one day ?i think the answer is absolutely not.we know we will die someday but we allways working,suffering,laughing and enjoy our life.So you should enjoy the time you spent with your lover but worry about something illusioned.you said your parents divorced and you worry about your bf like you dad,you must understand there are a lot of couples divorce everyday everytime and there are a lot of people find real love after end other relationship.So let things go on what they like!

actually,when i was once hurt by a guy,i became more mature than what i used to be.i would like to treat my BF as a single one just belongs to himself,not anyone else.i think if he do not belong to u ,that u would never mind too much.u two come together just because of love,u have no need to mind that kind of situation.u can do whatever u want coz u are in love,not in a war...

If love is true, you would never dream of the breaking up i think..... If love is real you would always find away to be together and make things work no matter what happened... The problem is the love had to be both sided? maybe you felt you loved them more than they could in return? Who knows, its all pretty crazy really!

why would you breaking up with the one you love? i wouldn't do that if i were you

Well more you love someone more you get hurt, so it is often said that one must marry someone who loves you not the person whom you love. So when you get hurt by someone you love is really very bad. So try to moderate your feelings about this and then take decision.

Part of loving someone is making sure that they have what they need from you. I don't know how to answer your question persay, but I did break up with someone because I loved him in such a way, I wanted to see his life turn away from mine (I'm divorced and have children) because he's still "innocent" in certain ways. It would do him no good to be with a woman older than he and my situation. He understands why I did it, I did it out of love, but he's still hurt just the same. *Pleiades