If you have a poor friend.....
By happyforever
@happyforever (191)
China
March 11, 2009 1:24am CST
Hi mylotters,
I'm a college student. I came back to school the other day and started a new term. I was happy to see all my friends again. But i found one of them was too much depressed. There was sadness in her eyes which made me upset.
She is a friend of mine. Her family is poor, and her father is terribly sick. She have to bear all. She even can't afford the tuition. She went to college with the help of the government. So she is very saving, and she even don't have a coat in winter. She sldom go to the canteen for lunch just because of the high price of the food.
Maybe because of her background and the pressure of life, she is self-abased and a little shy. She often told us that she was not good at anything and she thought she can't match anyone. She treated herself as the worst in class. We tried to encourage her to cheer up, but it didn't work.
Sometimes i really don't know how to help her. I am confused.
What i want to tell her is that BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND YOU CAN SHINE!
8 responses
@steven1985 (3)
• China
31 Mar 09
how are you happyforever? you can tells her "if you want to walk farther and better later,please forget the pase before you move on. life is a box of chocolates and you never what you are going to get,but it is very important to move on with confience and courage ,or you will not achieve nothing.Besides ,no matter how difficlult the life is ,you should hold a positive attitude toward life. Never give the dreams in your heart up"
i live in the same situation too. so i hope everything works out for her .
@kevends (47)
• China
12 Mar 09
it's better to tell her what ever her family is rich or poor,it's not her contribution or her fault,she just a student yet,she was unable to improve
the poor situation right now,and what she should do is to study hard,get back confidence,and by her hard work to be rich one day.meanwhile,your friends shoul help her,no laugh,never display yourself.that's very important.
@melanie1208 (133)
• United States
11 Mar 09
Being poor is not easy, it affects your self esteem, confidence and more. I guess as a friend you could give encouragement, cheer her up and be there always. Treat her the same as if she is no different. Listening to her would greatly help as well, at least she would know that she has friend she count on.
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
12 Mar 09
everyone has a worst moment of his/her lifetime. We all have to face our own problem, and keep on smiling. Sad faces won't help any of it. We should keep on optimistic on every situation. Tell your friend that she will get through this. Like you said, the sunshine will shine brightly again.
@qiweihong (56)
• China
12 Mar 09
First of all, I want to say that she has you do friend of mine,is her lucky.
But it can really difficult to overcome, and only her own. she only strive to learn and change her desteny, otherwise anyone can help her.
@deadxbunny (43)
• United States
12 Mar 09
I can relate to your friend as I also came from a poor background and almost couldn't finish college because of the cost. I felt very stressed out because of the money issues and that made doing well in school and staying happy and positive very hard. It's really great that she has a friend like you who cares about her situation. Just let her know that you care and understand and try to encourage her to look towards the future.. she's in college and now has the opportunity to change her and her family's lives. If she concentrates on her studies and gets a good job when she graduates she can bring herself out of poverty and help her sick father. When she sees that she's doing well in classes she will get more confidence also.
@jd107nette (1454)
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
hello...
it seems like your dear little friend feels alone, well, the fact that she is carrying such a burden, she does have a little right to feel depressed. hehe..
I personally think that as her friend, it's your duty to make her feel that she's not on her own.. perhaps through communication, you can help her vent out her feelings and assist her in coping with all the trouble she's going through.. as they say, "When you're UP, your friends know who you are... But When you're DOWN, You know WHO your friends are.." it would definitely help a lot to keep her company and think of ways to help (i'm sure there are...)
and remind her of her worth..
God doesn't throw stones that we can not catch...!
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
i was in the same situation as you are in right now.
the important thing is to treat your friend just like you treat your other friends. too much worry about her current state resonates and would even make her feel worse. have a laugh. tell her stories. give her any excess you have just because you want to give that to her because you like her and not because she is in a sorry state.
at this point, there is nothing you can do except be the friend she deserves.
