i cant take this competition,, i hate it,
By abcnadz
@abcnadz (457)
India
March 11, 2009 9:43am CST
i dont know why. but everybody in my family and my relatives consider me as the smartest kid in the family. it could be because of my academic prformance or my singing skill, or my knowledge in different languages. i really dont know. and i thank god for all he has given me. i dont boast about it nor do my parents.
i have my aunt who wants to prove that her daughter is way better than me. she keeps praising her kid all the time. ALL THE TIME. but we just dont ask her anything or we keep smiling and prasising her kid along with her ( no other optipon). i'm not jealous. i'm not sad. i just cant stand this kind of competition. i dont like this. i'm living my life the way i want. i dont interfere in anybody's issues but she wants her daughter to enact everything i do. it feels funny
and also i sometimes feel like i'm losing my identity.. what should i do?
she comes home now and then and leaves only after a month . she's here now. my life has become a hell
PS: i dont want to tell anything on her face. i hate hurting people. and also i dont hate her completely except for this
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3 responses
@ashwini28 (37)
• India
11 Mar 09
ohhhhh i really pity you.just avoid her. dont be there where she is just go away from that room.even if your family members are interested in her talks tell them that you dont want to hear anything what your aunt speaks to them.just avoidddddddddddd her totally.keep yourself cool.try not to have eye contact with her,try behaving a bit strangely but not rude ;).Hope you get the space what you want.
and im happy that you have very good skills and i really wish that you excell in what ever you do....
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
11 Mar 09
Hi, abcnadz! I hate it when family members try to have someone else compete with you. This is childish and immature in my eyes. I know that you are content with who you are, You don't let all your positive things about you go to your head. You know who you are! That is what counts. Don't pay any attention to your aunt, she may be just jealous that her daughter isn't as good as you are in many things, that could be the reason that she feels that her daughter and you should compete with each other. It is dumb and lame for your aunt to make you look lower than yourself! Be who you are and nothing else, don't change for anyone. It is just your aunt's own insecurity of why she wants her daughter to excel so perfectly. This reminds me of how my mother-in-law did me. She told me that her daughter hair was longer than mines. Well the truth is my hair is much longer than her daughter's. She just hated to see someone else have hair that is just about as long as her daughter's. So that is why she felt that she needed to bring me down, so that I could feel like I would have to compete with her daughter. This was so sick and childish for her to do that. But, you know what, I will let that be her problem.. If you ask me, your aunt is suffering from having a low self-esteem. She wishes that her daughter would have the same skills as you have. I don't understand why people can't just be themselves??? Why try to be something that you are not and may never be?? It is sad, how much time, people spend just to copy and be like another person. We are all unique in our own special ways.. Why can't your aunt just see that about her daughter? You did nothing wrong, and you have no need to be ashamed.. Keep your head up, abcnadz!
@prasanna1990 (816)
• India
11 Mar 09
fine it need a load of time to read it any way good post hope i dont get to understand what you come to say fully
