A couple of days back I just went for a stroll with my daughter in a park.

By Bala
@balasri (26537)
India
March 11, 2009 10:13am CST
As we were holding hands walking and and chatting I noticed a very old lady seated in a park bench staring into the oblivion and immersed in her own deep thoughts. I wonder what was running in her mind. I know that she too must have been the lovely little darling of her dad long time back. I was thinking of the wonderful days she might have had with her family in her childhood. I just could not express the heaviness I felt in my heart looking at her now. It was a very sad feeling for me.
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11 responses
@Darkwing (21583)
12 Mar 09
She was probably doing the self-same thing, my friend, looking back on her past days of childhood and adulthood. Don't feel sad for her because she's probably quite content that she can still get to the park and sit on a bench, being at one with nature. A lot of elderly people are confined to their homes, but this lady was able to enjoy what time she does have. I hope you stopped by and said "Hi" to cheer her day! Brightest Blessings, my friend.
@balasri (26537)
• India
13 Mar 09
I always say Hi and flash a smile at anyone with whom I have an eye contact for more than a second.I did the same to this old lady.
@balasri (26537)
• India
18 Mar 09
I just feel like doing it.If it is of that much significance and has made the day of that old day I am really blessed.
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@Darkwing (21583)
18 Mar 09
I believe you may just have made that little old lady's day, my friend! :)
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
Hi balasri, I don't know why this discussion compelled me to respond. There was this certain impact on me. This early, whenever I talk to my twin daughters, I make it a point to always hug them or hold their hands. I want to be very very close and affectionate to them. When I grow old and weak and my face is marred already, I am praying, and hoping that my twin daguhters will learn to take care of me or at least still show an ounce of affection and attention.
@balasri (26537)
• India
25 Mar 09
Take it from me.You are going to be remembered and looked after well by your twin daughters.when you age beautifully.The good and nice things we do without any expectations will always bring us back the nicest things possible when we need.You are going to remember me and thank me at that time.
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
You make me laugh at some of your responses... and atthe same time, this particular comment made me cry... I sure hope that the twins will remember the love I gave to them as their mother.
@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
25 Mar 09
She might have been lonely. Next time you see an old lady sitting on a park bench like that you might want to go and sit next to her and strike up a conversation with her. Maybe she would have liked someone to talk to. That way you wouldnt be wondering about it now.
@balasri (26537)
• India
25 Mar 09
I usually do that with the approval of the people involved.
@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
13 Mar 09
I know exactly how you feel, balasri. We are all getting old, and sometimes it feels very strange. When my daughter was visiting a few weeks, ago, I caught sight of her hand next to mine on the table. Hers was so smooth and nice - and all of a sudden I realised mine was wrinkled and old. It was a shock, because not so long ago my hand looked like hers. Sad ...
@balasri (26537)
• India
13 Mar 09
You have said it the most effective way in portraying that scene.Yes it is sad how fast the time runs and just making everything in our lives into just memories.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
25 Mar 09
It is great you had empathy towards her.Well,old peoples should not be ignored simply for their old age.Infact,old people should retire from earning race and make themself useful to the society and thereby they can gain a good will from the public and live a meaningful life.They will not be left desperate then.Cheers!
@balasri (26537)
• India
25 Mar 09
I like your outlook on old people and thanks friend.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
13 Mar 09
The knowledge and experience in her mind is probably so vast that it would be hard to say what she must have been thinking. I have seen older people deep in though and had my heart feel heavy also. There has been so many trials and tribulations for the elderly that at the age we realize this..we gain a appreciation for it. Take care friend.
@balasri (26537)
• India
13 Mar 09
Your response has a kind of soothing tone which I appreciate very much.A smooth one.Thanks friend and you take care too.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
11 Mar 09
I do this wheneveri got to the park Bala. I sit around and try to understand what is going on in the minds of people, especially elder ones sitting by themselves. Reflecting on thier family, thier childhood, their lives gone by. And when they see young children like your daughter i'm sure it takes them back to some veryfond memories as well.
@balasri (26537)
• India
13 Mar 09
It is indeed a strange phenomena how all those years of love,joy,hardships,exiting moments and the vital events for which we were ready to give our lives have just become into just memories at the end.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Mar 09
It's odd how, as we grow older, we see older people in a different light. When I was younger they were just other people. Now I find myself thinking more about them and what they do and what are their thoughts too. Whether they wonder about their past or about their future. I trust that the lady on the the bench had happy thoghts about her past and was immersed in them. Did you stop and talk to her?
@balasri (26537)
• India
13 Mar 09
I flashed a smile and waved at her.I just did not want to disturb her pensive mood by talking to her.May be the next time if my talk is welcome by her.
@littleowl (7157)
12 Mar 09
Hi bala we have totreasure the times we have with our family when we are young as we never know when we will be alone ourselves, as time goes by all things change...littleowl
@balasri (26537)
• India
12 Mar 09
Very meaningful Little owl.You managed to bring the essence out.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
11 Mar 09
Hi, balasri! I am glad that you enjoyed your stroll in the park! Maybe the older woman that you saw was in a deep thought, or maybe she was worried about something.. When I see something like this, I will pray for this person. You never know what is going on or could be going on. I may also smile and say hello. Maybe that could have cheered her up some. There is no telling what was on her mind, that is why, we should, show compassion for her feelings. It is sweet to know that you were concerned about another human being. God loves this type of attitude!
@balasri (26537)
• India
25 Mar 09
Thanks a lot Cream.I always do that because I am always aware of the unknown future of us.I strongly believe that good deeds beget good deeds only.
11 Mar 09
Hi balasri, It is sad to see that and yes she must have had many happy memories and was probable thinking about it whele watching you tow, don't be too sad as its just life. Tamara
@balasri (26537)
• India
13 Mar 09
That is comforting Tamara.I got the point.I just expressed I felt.Thanks for the nice response