Are most relatioships imbalanced where 'give and take' is there ?

Hello! In matters relating to love,question of give and take does not arise.To maintain good relationship the couples only sacrifice and expect nothing in return.Where question of give and take arise the relationship never stand.thanx.

Are you talking about a relationship between a salesman and a customer where custmor gives money and salesman gives his products? This is the perfect example of give and take relationship. No relationship can be said to be a nice one with this tendency in their mind

i am a definite giver but i am also learning to take as circumstances call for it these days. i never asked for help or needed it but now i do and i put in my dues so i hope those i have helped will reciprocate in kind. i like to give of my time and help others and when times were better for me financially i gave of my wallet too but those days are over for good. in my personal relationships i do see an imbalance with certain people but i am who i am and i will not let determe

It is a matter of give and take certainly but it helps if both parties have a giving mindset. I think the trick is to always put the needs of the other ahead of yours; this only work if both people think along the same lines otherwise there will inevitably be a giver and a taker and I am sure that the giver will soon be fed up with that arrangement! I like to think everyday about what I can do for my partner and if he does the same we're happy.

I agree to a certain point! As long as both sides are doing the same, it should be ok! But if one person is doing all of the giving and the other person is doing all of the taking, that'll never work, even if it was the arrangement! The giver will always feel taken advantage of and the taker will feel it's owed for some idiotic and selfish reason! If both are somewhat initially contributing, then it'll be much smoother and sweeter!!! Taripre$

In a relation there is nothing like give and take its only wat you like and you just follow your bliss...We cannot carry a relation if some bitterness creeps in i.e. if the bond is broken... Its all about hearts...They match or they dont...

I think romantic relationships and friendships are the most unbalanced because people think subjectively. We always tend to think we give more than the other person and it's hard to be objective. The only way to remedy that is for each person to give without thought of receiving any benefit in return, to give just for the love and pleasure of giving whether it's favors, chores or what to have for dinner or where to go on an outing. Sometimes even that doesn't work, though.

Probably most relationships are imbalanced in some way. But it's not a matter of balance so much as a matter of what the people in the relationship are comfortable with and are willing to accept. You could be in a relationship with the most giving person in the world, but if what they are 'giving' has no value to you, it's not going to work. Often we tend to put into a relationship what we ourselves want to receive and that so often does not work.

I was of the same view too unless i met my husband, he proved me wrong and later, i felt may be there might still be some people somwhere rarely like him who love others unconditionally inspite all their odds just like the parent-child relationship which demands nothing, but just goes on showering love whether the love is reciprocated or not

i think a normal relationship will go back and forth on who is giving and taking.. at least it should.. when you havea relationship where one person is doing most of one or the other there is usually problems soon after

I so agree. Reciprocation is very important. In any relationship if you think about it. Even business. Good communication is all important. And reciprocation is the main stay, the glue as it were. Give and take and compromise. If the scales become imbalanced for whatever reason it becomes a nightmare. People need to be aware of other people's needs and be compassionate and caring. It doesn't seem to be the case now days.

I think when give and take is imbanlanced in one relationship,and then this relaitonship is on the edge of breaking up.Love is giving but not only one person give.It need two person work together and give together.No relation can standing a long time imbanlance over give and take.Anyway,we are not fool.So I think in a relationship give and take should keep a balance.Only in this way can it last long.

I actually believe that most relationships are truly imbalanced. On the bad side - where one party gives too much and the other party receives too much without reciprocating, the relationship crashes. But that's an obvious manifestation. For the more successful relationships, they're also mostly imbalanced: each side tries to give more than the other, thus setting the imbalance. And the other side counters by giving even more and thus tipping the scales to his side. It's a cycle, although it seems to be a healthy one. I've always believed that relationships shouldn't be 50-50. It should be 75-75 on both sides. Both parties giving more than their fair share and at the same time receiving more. But 75-75 seems pretty balanced right? Quantitatively yes, but qualitatively unlikely :) The "balanced" stage sets of a reaction where both sides try to push it further :) Thanks for the response on my discussion!

Most relationships rely on give and take.My husband works really hard and does long hours and pays for everything.So because of that I do the house work ,laundry,ironing the clothes,cooking ect.I certainly don't complain about him always being tired so that is give and take.Some people are selfish and it is so unfair on one of them.You are right about the parental relationship there is no way you can be seen to be an equal to your kids,other wise they will walk all over you ,besides I truly beleave they don't want me as their best friend ,they need me as their mother and someone to rebel against and wind up,which is normal.They have their friends at school and around the area we live.There is still a bit of give and take though.Teaching kids compromise is a tough one but to earn respect it is something most family rows are about.

Give and take is associated everywhere. Be it relationship, be it profit. I guess we are becoming so much self centered so that this take and give is coming.May be it is the same in relation

I am not sure whether I have understood what you wanted to state but If you mean that if the give and take thing doesn't happen to ones desire then he or she will opt out of the relationship then it is wrong. If you do mean something else please ignore it.

Hello my friend krajibg Ji, Well, you are very much right in your observation and also you have kept parental bonded relation out of your purview. I understand taht you have eaten the nuts of relationship. may god bless You and have great time.

Hi rajib..you are right, in fact the whole world functions on give and take. The more balanced it is, the better everything functions. I have seen many relationships where the give and take is not balanced. THose however, do tend mostly to be unhealthy relationships. Ones plagued with problems and constant complaints from one spouse or another. I have seen it here on mylot. My wife does this or my husband does that... In a secure healthy relationship, we do not bring our problems forward to a group of strangers, as there is no need. I dont mean that theres anything wrong with it either, just if theres enough give and take in all areas of the relationship, it wouldnt be happening.