Is no marry ring a problem?
By mermaidivy
@mermaidivy (15394)
United States
March 11, 2009 4:18pm CST
It is certainly a problem to me. It has been bothering me and I have put it aside for a while. What makes me think of it again is I just created a discussion about cheating and one buddy said "Married men do seem to get hit on more than un-married men, just wear a ring then!!" raises this up again.
There were couple times when we went out, people thought we are dating which I didn't blame him because we don't have a ring. One time, we were having a poker break and a guy said I look like a model, when my husband came back to the table, he asked what's going on and the guy said "We were talking about your girlfriend looks like a model." I felt very strange, he didn't stand up and said I'm his wife either.
sigh...
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6 responses
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
15 Mar 09
I wear a ring which my husband paid a lot of money for. He wore a ring for a couple of weeks after we got married but it bothered him. He could not get used to wearing it. He complained about it bugging him all the time. I finally told him he didn't have to wear it if it bothered him that much. We have been married for 19 years. He is a very trustworthy guy, it doesn't bother me that he does not wear it. I feel better and safer wearing mine though.
@GAUCI123 (1042)
• Malta
14 Mar 09
I know what it feels and it is true that some people if they don't see the wedding ring they assume that you aren't. Personally we never wear the wedding rings, niether myself nor my husband, not becasue to show that we aren;t married but since both of us hate to wear rings. I only wear it when it I have a special occasion since I hate wearing rings everyday.
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
14 Mar 09
Oh you and him both don't like ring is a whole different story, I do think marry ring is important. Thanks for sharing! :-)
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
That rings are supposed to be just symbolical that you are bonded with another person. Wearing it on a daily basis means you are symbolically married and also to show other people to stay away too if they would just want to be intimate to you. But that is no guarantee that you or him to be faithful for each other. For some couple they preferred not to wear it regularly because they are not used to it, but, for some it is important, there is really no real rule about it and it totally depends on you if you want to wear it or not.
@kezabelle (2974)
•
11 Mar 09
so you are married but have no ring? any reason for that?
Personally yes when me and my partner marry i expect to have his ring it shows to everyone I am with someone I love and id be honoured that he would wear a ring for me too to show everyone that he loves me thats truely important to me.
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
11 Mar 09
Yes it is very important to me too. I wonder if guys don't want people know they are married... I really doubt it sometimes but I never asked him.
@LuckyLadyD (359)
• United States
11 Mar 09
Hi mermaidivy:
Is not having a wedding ring part of your culture? If so, then you shouldn't be annoyed, but if not, I would think something is up if he can't put even the least expensive of rings on both you and him.
I don't know about anyone else, but if it were me I'd be bothered. Both my husband and I wear rings.
To me it's an honor to be his wife, and wearing the ring is a symbol that we have found one another.
Take care...
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Yes it is a traditional thing in my culture that's why it is bothering me. I'm honoured to be his wife and I want everybody knows we are married...
Thanks for sharing!
@AeosWrathOfGod (56)
• United States
11 Mar 09
you could always make each shirts that say each others names on them. the shirts would for example My beloved wife.........Susan
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
11 Mar 09
ahhhhh it is whole different animal. A ring symbolizes the marriage not a t-shirt =_=
